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Allira Sun 27-Oct-24 12:35:04

Maggiemaybe

Please don’t take useable stuff to the tip. I don’t advertise anything due to the hassle you’ve described, but I’d never send anything to landfill that other people could use. Charity shops often collect, if you can’t get to them.

I would say don't dump as well!

Can you contact a local craft group, Knit and Natter or U3A, a WI or TWG and offer craft items?

They will be glad of them as they often make items for charity and free yarn, fabric etc woul be most welcome.

petra Sun 27-Oct-24 12:27:30

Maggiemaybe

Please don’t take useable stuff to the tip. I don’t advertise anything due to the hassle you’ve described, but I’d never send anything to landfill that other people could use. Charity shops often collect, if you can’t get to them.

We have a shop at our local tip. The OP could enquire.
I take donations from our charity shop that have been hanging around too long.

BlueBelle Sun 27-Oct-24 12:20:53

Well that’s daft to throw your toys out the pram and say it ll all go to the dump get it sorted and taken to your local charity shop, some will pick up if you can’t get it there
I do sell on FB marketplace, it’s hit and miss, some are awful at following through picking up etc but some people are fine I also use EBay again you can advertise 10 things and only sell one but it’s worth a try
However if you’re giving it away just get help to get it to a charity shop

Romola Sun 27-Oct-24 12:15:24

It can feel quite complicated getting stuff onto the sites, and then annoying if people don't follow through.
My favourite site for buying and selling is Gumtree.
Good luck!

Nannarose Sun 27-Oct-24 12:05:50

Sorry this hs happened to you. I almost never gift anything on FB - there are no rules.
I use Freecycle or Freegle, when I reply to someone wanting my stuff I say 'if I have not heard back from you by [give date & time] then the item will be re-offered. I give a window for collection and say 'if not collected by the end of this time, will be re-offered'.
Some people are dependant on others for transport, so may appear to mess you about, but they can message to say so! If someone really annoys you, you can report to the Mods (not so on FB). However, these posts do attract a few sad individuals who can't organise themselves.
I would say that those of us who are used to this type of gifting know that many gifters don't like to be disturbed. It is standard practice to collect without knocking on the door. It is then also standard to send a 'thanks' message.
The other advantage of Freecycle / Freegle is that the groups tend to consist of folk who are used to this, they are usually much bigger groups, more likely to have crafters / DIYers, and follow the set procedure.
Not sure if this advice is too late for you, but may help others.

Maggiemaybe Sun 27-Oct-24 11:55:34

Please don’t take useable stuff to the tip. I don’t advertise anything due to the hassle you’ve described, but I’d never send anything to landfill that other people could use. Charity shops often collect, if you can’t get to them.

Smileless2012 Sun 27-Oct-24 11:53:24

We've recently drastically downsized and as a result got rid if probably 90% of everything we owned.

We sold quite a bit on a local site and did quite well but did have one or two difficult 'customers' and it was the same with stuff we were giving away. Most of that went to charity shops and local fundraising groups as they were easier to deal with and appreciative.

biglouis Sun 27-Oct-24 11:51:44

Depends what it is. I once had a bag of broken rhinestone jewellery with several people fighting over it.

Whethertomorrow Sun 27-Oct-24 11:48:03

I’m slowly doing the gentle art of Swedish death clearance on my bungalow so that my children aren’t left with a load of stuff to deal with.

I’ve given up knitting, crotcheting etc. I’ve really had to steel myself to give up stuff that cost a lot eg a Glorifila rug kit that cost £150 in 2011. I thought if I passed all my lovely stuff on to others it wouldn’t be such a wrench.

I posted 6 items on local Facebook groups. Seemingly got a lot of interest, took absolutely ages to reply to people, set up collection times and put items in porch for them to collect (physical effort due to disabilities).

Two people collected without a thank you, one said she was on her way then forgot. One argued with me and after 36 hours of wasting my time said oh you live too far away. Then no response from the others.

The rest of my stuff is going to the dump.

Has anyone found their gifting of items successful?