Well in 80 plus years I have NEVER seen a man, or boy do this.
Which British song sums up the 1960s for you?
I’m sitting in the car outside a shop waiting for my husband.
There is a young man 30ish in the local uniform of grey tracksuit bottoms, hoodie and trainers.
He has his phone in one hand talking at the top of his voice, his other hand is keeping warm and busy jiggling his bits.
Sadly this is something I see frequently as we are out and about.
Why?
Well in 80 plus years I have NEVER seen a man, or boy do this.
RosiesMaw2
He was probably only reassuring his ferret.
😂
Let’s hope that one day she doesn’t miss that cyclist or the child that isn’t exactly in front of her.
Some days the forums are awash with people who can spot the latest iPhone, what their neighbours have in their homes, the contents of others' shopping trolleys.
Someone rearranging their "meat and two veg" is pretty common to see.
I've told my grandsons off for it a few times, but that doesn't make me a pervert.
So many defensive crotch watchers.
Sago you said you see this frequently which seems odd to me as I don't. I wonder what the difference is.
As for someone seeing a young man with his hands in his trousers unless you make a study of it he could just have his hand in a pocket. Of course close study might reveal which it is but who cares and why?
ginny
You are determined not to understand about wider vision aren’t you..
I think she probably understands it perfectly well, but having accused others of being perverse for noticing, has to stick to her guns.
theworriedwell Please let me assure you I am a respectable 61 year old woman, nothing perverted going on!
As a normal person I don’t only look straight ahead at eye level, my gaze is everywhere, when driving my car for example I will have my eye on the road ahead but also on the toddler teetering on the pavement by the kerb!
You seem to have it in your head I wander around looking a young men’s crotches🤣!
I can only surmise you are very unusual in that you only see peoples faces and don’t ever look down, I will try it on my next trip out.
One last thing, all the females who have been “flashed” are they perverted too?
The silly women should have been looking straight ahead shouldn’t they?
I think you’re missing the point some of us have tried to make theworriedwell. There are young men walking casually around with their hand ( and sometimes both hands inside their jogging trousers) like it’s a perfectly natural thing to do. I’ve seen it numerous times in recent months both in England and Scotland. If someone is walking towards you with his hand inside his trousers it’s impossible not to notice. Just this morning I saw a young man gazing into a shop window in the precinct. One hand was holding his toddler’s buggy and the other was buried inside the front of his joggers . It’s bizarre behaviour.
You are determined not to understand about wider vision aren’t you..
Growing0ldDisgracefully
I don't go round checking out mens' crotches but had a boss (a tall chap) who would scratch his tackle while standing by my desk talking to me, so the said display was on my eye level without any effort on my part! I really think he didn't realise he was doing it, so I just used to look at something else, like my computer screen.
Well that isn't the same as the OP sitting in her car looking at a man fiddling is it? Lots of changing the rules here, sitting in a room with someone, someone standing by your desk. Not the same as the OP's sitting in her car watching young men which apparently happens to her a lot.
Reminds me of a joke at the police station where I used to work. Elderly woman annoyed that the man in the house opposite was walking round naked with the curtains open. Police office goes round and she says, he's up there now doing it. Police officer says they can't see anything. She replies well you can if you stand on this chair. Police advice? Don't stand on the chair. I never found out if it really happened but the officer swore it did.
Oreo
theworriedwell Are you a man and feel upset by the comments on any crotch comments? Just wondered.
If somebody is in the line of sight doing something like this then impossible not to notice surely.
I've given birth to 4 children so I think a qualify as a woman.
I just think it is so hypocritical when men are criticised for looking at a woman's breasts because there is just no need but women can't possibly avoid looking at a man's crotch. Typical double standards.
alastairlyon
Report the incident to the police. masturbating in a public place is an offence !
It’s not masturbating, just ‘fiddling’ as some do with jewellery or hair.
Report the incident to the police. masturbating in a public place is an offence !
theworriedwell Are you a man and feel upset by the comments on any crotch comments? Just wondered.
If somebody is in the line of sight doing something like this then impossible not to notice surely.
theworriedwell
ginny
You don’t have to look at that particular area to notice they are fiddling.
My husband is sitting to my side about 6 foot away from me but I can see that he has an IPad in his hand and he has just scratched his head.
Oh right we are just talking about sitting close to someone in a confined space. I thought people were talking about seeing men out and about. If it's in your living room then just ask your husband to sto
Oh for goodness sake. I don’t need to ask my husband not to scratch his head if it itches,
Please don’t accuse me or others on this thread of being a perv.
It is perfectly normal to be able to see things other than those directly in your eyeline. I would be seriously worried if I couldn’t wether they were sitting next to me or further away.
I don't go round checking out mens' crotches but had a boss (a tall chap) who would scratch his tackle while standing by my desk talking to me, so the said display was on my eye level without any effort on my part! I really think he didn't realise he was doing it, so I just used to look at something else, like my computer screen.
ginny
You don’t have to look at that particular area to notice they are fiddling.
My husband is sitting to my side about 6 foot away from me but I can see that he has an IPad in his hand and he has just scratched his head.
Oh right we are just talking about sitting close to someone in a confined space. I thought people were talking about seeing men out and about. If it's in your living room then just ask your husband to stop.
petra
theworriedwell
Recently had my Specsavers test and all good thanks. Just stop looking at mens crotches.
Then specsavers missed something because from what you’ve posted you can only see something in your line of sight.
I hope you don’t drive.
I do, have done for years and never had an accident. You see I look at what I need to look at so no issue.
Stop looking at men's crotches, it is seriously weird and pervy and don't ever moan about men looking at women's breasts if you really think people have no control of what they are looking at.
theworriedwell
Recently had my Specsavers test and all good thanks. Just stop looking at mens crotches.
Then specsavers missed something because from what you’ve posted you can only see something in your line of sight.
I hope you don’t drive.
You don’t have to look at that particular area to notice they are fiddling.
My husband is sitting to my side about 6 foot away from me but I can see that he has an IPad in his hand and he has just scratched his head.
Recently had my Specsavers test and all good thanks. Just stop looking at mens crotches.
I am a little concerned about your eyesight theworried well. I do hope you are not a driver if you are you may need to get your peripheral vision tested .
I had one manager in a professional office who when speaking to me would always grab his stuff first. It was decades ago and I still don't know why or what this meant. Some say it's habit. Some say he was making sure it stays down. Some say he was trying to move my eyes to his crotch. I don't know! I'm baffled. And disgusted.
mrsgreenfingers56
Our grandson became so obsessed with his bits I had to tell him it would fall off if he didn't leave it alone!
Was he 4 or 24 ?😄
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