What small thing would help you right now?

A free cleaner who does not gossip just cleans. Once a week is fine, it is the dusting and the hoovering that kills my back. Oh and changing the bed. I love doing it myself so if it could be done pain free I would.

Not needing to work until I’m 66 years and 7 months!!! 404 working days left, and counting! Will I make it? Or die of stress and exhaustion before I receive a pension?

some energy

Heating - ours has packed up. Fortunately we have an amazing plumber who will fix it tomorrow and the weather is sunny and warm.

loveOc I am not very mobile. I have tried a couple of church coffee mornings and found them to be very cliquey. They are so so friendly to your face, but do not need or want friends out of the group.

A nice young man!

Some get up and go so I finally do the dozen or so small things that have been niggling me for a while and need sorting.

A cup of tea.

A larder cupboard! Tins and bottles are stuck in low cupboard which I find difficult to get down to, and upper cupboards mean standing on a stool, I would love a cupboard with my mid height shelves to store tins and jars

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Grannmarie

*LoveOc, Smileless*, me too! I was always a worrier but it seemed to get worse with the menopause, then Covid put the tin lid on it!
I know I have lots to be thankful for, and I count my blessings regularly, but I still waken up early in a panic.
Kind thoughts to all our worriers.💕

Rueful smile re Covid (or in my case - Lockdown) putting the "tin lid" on it. I'll never trust our government again as far as I could throw them - for anything ever. Part of me will probably always think "Wouldnt put it past them to do that again - and then lie again about how long it would go on for ("two weeks" - yeah right and I was daft enough to believe that when I heard it)".

A phrase I got told years ago by someone I knew is one of the most useful I've ever been told. They said to me "You're a nice person - and because you're a nice person = you think someone else (ie our employer) will treat you the way you know you should be treated (ie fairly). You are wrong. They won't". They were absolutely correct and always after that I thought "If I were a right how would I treat me next?" and I got it absolutely spot-on correct every single time as to what they would do next - but I was "lined-up waiting/had taken what protective measures I could against them. That worked so perfectly - ie to anticipate them doing the exact opposite of what they should do - that I always am aware of the dual thing ever after in every context:
1. What someone or some group should do/I would do
2. What a would do in their position

and I prepare as best I can for them taking option 2. It has proven very very useful indeed to me to always be aware what a "Nasty" would do, as well as what should happen.

So - yep that employer and Lockdown between them have made me very cynical and self-protective and always aware someone might take the option, rather than the correct one.

But yep....I do try and "count my blessings" and think "Thank goodness I found a way to overcome financial effects of being single enough to buy a house somehow despite that", "Thank goodness I check health issues for myself and don't take the NHS' word for it", etc etc.

Oh, LindaPat, I'm so sorry about your little cat. I love her loads and am thinking of her and wishing her a speedy recovery.

To sleep like I once did, through the night waking at 7ish and to not have bouts of insomnia.

A day in bed.
Since my H died when I never seemed to be able to rest at all I occasionally have a day in bed, reading , catching up on recorded programmes ,making phone calls.
Since Christmas I haven’t been well, lots of stress but needed to be about ( only in the house), I have only been out once since Christmas day to buy wallpaper and now the decorator is here for a week.
As soon as he finishes I hope to get my chance before the flooring people come.
Oh happy day.

I do not understand the word "file," and if somebody taught me how it works, I would be less likely to have piles of papers lying around.

Why my cleaner stays is beyond me.

I’m not sure it’s a small thing but I would like to go to my brothers funeral. He died on 27th December.
He and my Sister in Law have opted for ‘Pure Cremation. Their choice and I respect that.
They say that funerals are for those left behind and I now see what they mean. I ‘m finding it difficult not having a particular day to feel he has been said goodbye to.
I probably haven’t explained that very well .

I think this is a great thread btw and a great idea to practise too!

To be free of pain - that is all.

A boot store or gadget to stop my son trailing in the mud on his gardening boots!

Guess I'll just have to get Henry to suck it up!

Or buy some boot covers?

A fairy godmother who would find me clothes in colours that suit me and that actually fit.

Or try volunteering.

FishandChips15 How mobile are you? Try local church for coffee mornings, keep fit class. yoga class. Even going swimming will give opportunity for new friends. I made a lovely new friend going swimming. We often meet for a walk and a coffee. Good luck!

To meet some genuine new friends. I spend too much time on my own bored stiff and no motivation to do anything.

An admin person, just for a day. I’ve got house insurance and the home services contract to check and barter down, decisions to make re keeping or disposing of Audible and Ancestry, and now I’ve had a pop up saying I need a Microsoft subscription. Do I? Oh, and DH desperately needs a new phone. Back in the day I’d have sorted all of this before dinner time. Now I just don’t feel I can be bothered with any of it!

henetha

A robot vacuum cleaner maybe. I've got dust balls mulling about...

After thinking about it for months, we bought one yesterday. I love it already.

Left it cleaning kitchen floor yesterday evening and it's already done dining room this morning while I was having breakfast