I am very pleased to be British, and largely share 'British values' of tolerance, inclusivity, politeness etc. I even queue without moaning
. I feel very lucky to have been born here, and not somewhere like Afghanistan, for instance.
Am I 'proud' of being British? No, how can we be proud to have been born somewhere - our place of birth is entirely random. Pride is a deadly sin, in any case, so people being proud of their pride in their country just doesn't add up for me.
I wouldn't be much good at combat-style fighting, but I fight (peacefully) in other ways for what I believe to be right. Not because 'my country' is involved, as so much depends on who is claiming to be representing us, but because I don't think we should expect other people to do things and then moan about the results when we haven't bothered ourselves. We all have a stake in society, so should all make an effort to make the UK the place we want it to be. I think it is unpatriotic to expect a free ride in life - a country is only as good as the sum of its citizens' efforts.
If there were a war or invasion, I like to think that I would do what I could to help to resist, though.
The word 'Patriotism' suggests blind adherence to what others tell us is 'British', which is not an admirable thing, I think. How can it be patriotic to support something when it is in fashion (because it is currently 'the British way'), and not support it when times change? 'British values' used to include the idea that slavery was acceptable and that there was a racial hierarchy, for instance. A patriot would have been someone who was prepared to fight for things like that. Now (thankfully) things have changed, and with them those values have reversed, so a patriot would be someone with very different views. How can the concept of 'patriotism' mean anything when it shifts so much?