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Do you feel cherished?

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surfingsal Fri 14-Mar-25 20:16:42

I was with group of friends today and one of them asked if any of us felt really loved and cherished by our husbands or partners , it was quite an eye opener we are a group of 15 and 7 said they didn't feel loved at all , which is very sad , I have always felt loved and cherished by my husband and would not stay in a relationship if there was no love , perhaps I am just very lucky?

SuzieHi Sat 15-Mar-25 18:39:45

Yes I do. I’m happy & he is too. We know we’re fortunate but do believe you make your own luck ? We chose each other / married nearly 50 years ago.
Positive thinking, compromise, work together - try & see the other persons point of view…the grass isn’t greener….Etc Etc…. Grow old together & be kind & thoughtful

lemsip Sat 15-Mar-25 18:17:36

many years ago when divorcing my husband my aunt asked 'didn't he cherish you dear' and then said her life hadn't been easy with her husband my uncle, sad isn't it.

Ladyripple Sat 15-Mar-25 17:59:01

I did when my husband was alive,I have been widowed over 27years.I was in another relationship for 13 of those years,but never felt like I did with my husband.I am staying single for the rest of my days.

Lovely memories of the years I was with my husband,that is enough for me now.

ViceVersa Sat 15-Mar-25 17:52:37

Yes indeed, Ilovedogs22, you can always rely on a dog for unconditional love.

Ilovedogs22 Sat 15-Mar-25 17:41:29

ViceVersa

No, don't think I ever have.

No! I don't think I ever have ViceVersa!
I feel that my husband sort of puts up with me!
That I can cope with until he starts being very animated & interested in random women that we may meet, while walking the dog. A bit sad really! I hope to meet my Mr Darcy one day but he'll probably be like all the rest. I'll stick with my trustworthy, loving dog. True love! 😊

RosesandLilac Sat 15-Mar-25 16:41:07

Nope, not for many years sadly.

Greenfinch Sat 15-Mar-25 16:38:28

Aldom , what lovely words to have on a headstone.

escaped Sat 15-Mar-25 16:26:51

❤️

Skydancer Sat 15-Mar-25 16:25:19

Not by husband number 1. But my current DH treats me like a queen which he always promised he would nearly 30 years ago.

Calendargirl Sat 15-Mar-25 16:19:54

‘Cherish’ was by Kool and the Gang, I think, (haven’t looked it up).

Can remember our local electrician years ago doing a job at our house. He was whistling ‘Cherish’.

He has died now, but I think about his lovely whistle every time I hear that song.

Scribbles Sat 15-Mar-25 16:19:31

Yes. I do feel cherished and it's a lovely feeling.

escaped Sat 15-Mar-25 15:09:35

Very loved, yes, but not sure about cherished. It's a word I find a bit quaint for some reason.

I'm sure there was a David Cassidy song called "Cherish". Maybe even an album? Around 1974.

JamesandJon33 Sat 15-Mar-25 15:02:14

Yes I do. We have been married just 60 years and as I often say, ‘It’s been okay so far.’

Bellasnana Sat 15-Mar-25 14:18:50

Yes, I definitely felt loved and cherished my beloved late DH. Nobody ever loved me like he did, he gave up a lot to be with me and he never wavered in his devotion to myself and our children.

The last ten years without him have been extremely difficult knowing that nobody will ever fill his place, but oh how I cherish his memory.

Larsonsmum Sat 15-Mar-25 14:10:34

Together since 1973, and married from 1976, I feel loved and cherished. Couples do have to give and take, get through good times and bad times and everything in between, so it takes effort sometimes more that other times.

IMHO, too many couples expect too much, expect it to be too easy - without putting in the effort that is almost always required by both parties in a marriage.

Aldom Sat 15-Mar-25 14:08:03

You're very welcome Annniebach.
flowerssmile

AGAA4 Sat 15-Mar-25 14:00:13

Yes I was loved and cherished. Have had to do without that now for a long time. I am loved and cared for by my ACs so am very grateful for that.

Anniebach Sat 15-Mar-25 13:51:40

Thank you Aldom I couldn’t recall it

Aldom Sat 15-Mar-25 13:48:08

Hello Annniebach the format used in the Book of CommonPrayer marriage service includes the words
'to love and to cherish, till death us do part.....'

Smileless2012 Sat 15-Mar-25 13:18:45

flowers for everyone who has lost their much loved husbands.

Norah Sat 15-Mar-25 13:06:19

Yes. I am very loved and cherished.

Anniebach Sat 15-Mar-25 10:33:23

I was widowed after 8 years of marriage, cannot recall the word
Cherish in 1968 , Anglican Church

1summer Sat 15-Mar-25 09:58:09

Yes, I felt loved and cherished for 40 years until my husband died. We were both independent people but always loved, protected and supported each other but no way felt ownership.

Aldom Sat 15-Mar-25 09:53:12

I'm another who promised 'to love and to cherish'. We loved and cherished one another. On my husband's headstone are the words,
Cherished husband of xxxxx

Calendargirl Sat 15-Mar-25 09:50:36

Just looked up ‘cherish’ in the Oxford English Dictionary.

‘Cherish-to protect or tend (a child or plant etc) lovingly.’

Well, DH has always been protective of me. My father died very suddenly when I was 19, before we were married, and I always felt DH stepped into the looking after me role that Dad had done.

We are not a lovey-dovey couple, but I would miss him terribly if he weren’t here, and I know he would me.