I can really relate to what you're saying. Losing both my wife and son within a short period has left me feeling a bit adrift, and the loneliness is hard to shake. It’s never easy to know exactly what your loved ones would have wanted when they’re no longer with us.
I agree with your point about sharing ideas rather than hard and fast plans. It can make things feel a little less overwhelming for our children when they’re trying to carry out our wishes. It’s about giving them a guide, but with the space to make decisions based on what feels right for them in the moment.
Sending strength to everyone dealing with similar situations. It’s not easy, but we’re all in this together.