Do you get up and get out?

Probably chicken and egg Maybee if you went out more your mobility would improve, perhaps just start a with a little walk and increase slowly every day? I think you have a dog, ypu could take him/her for a short walk.

MayBee70

I've lived in pyjamas ever since the start of the pandemic. Only change into leggings when I go out, which isn't very often. Don't bother with make up most of the time. I do feel so much better if I do go out and meet people but then I realise how bad my mobility is which then gets me down again.

With respect Maybee70 this way of living is not healthy.
Your not an old lady, you could have 20 more years on this earth.
For your own longevity make the effort.

I don't wear makeup unless I'm going out - giving your skin a rest is a good idea! I do moisturise.

My hair needs attention every morning.

lafergar

I find I am hanging about far too much, low energy, aches and pains. A pattern is developing of cups of coffee and no focus.

I'm wondering about " fighting" it and getting showered and dressed. I don't think I ever saw my Dad in a dressing gown or heard my mother say " I'm tired".
Different times I suppose

My dressing gown is old, got bleach stains and needs putting in the rag bag so no, I don't wear it downstairs.

Perhaps if I bought a nice new one ..... if I could find one I like.

I have to have two cups of tea, something to eat and do Wordle before I can get going. This morning we had to rush out earlyish buf it was after the morning rush hour.

I'm older than you, though!

Chardy

I get the dog walked for an hour before 11am, so I'm bathed, dressed and out by 10. If it's the day when I'm meeting people, it's a bit of a rush, other days I'm laid back.

Once I've done what needs doing, I'm back in pyjamas too.

I've never compared the structure of my day or week with my parents'!

That's interesting. They loom large in my psyche.

You change back into pyjamas?

I get the dog walked for an hour before 11am, so I'm bathed, dressed and out by 10. If it's the day when I'm meeting people, it's a bit of a rush, other days I'm laid back.

Once I've done what needs doing, I'm back in pyjamas too.

I've never compared the structure of my day or week with my parents'!

I've lived in pyjamas ever since the start of the pandemic. Only change into leggings when I go out, which isn't very often. Don't bother with make up most of the time. I do feel so much better if I do go out and meet people but then I realise how bad my mobility is which then gets me down again.

GrannySomerset you are still in what I call early grief that the first 10 years. After my husband died still had son at college and daughter last year of uni . Both parents to look after and mother in law. So I didn't have time to think about what I wanted. I was with my husband for 29 years and married 22.

You where properly married and a couple lot longer than me and it's harder. You go from having the other half of yourself to just being you . And if you feel as I do I am still only half a person .
How do you go from us to me in a blink of an eye. You can't it takes time to adjust .

I had a purpose but I wasn't happy . It took me from 2004 to 2019 to have a life . Grief is always there and still overwhelms me .

Is there anything no matter how small you want to try . Do it and see how you feel. Lot of classes are at local colleges at reduced rates for older people. Churches have various clubs but you don't have to be a member of the church . Lot of people hire church halls for activities. If you try something try something else. You will meet people of different ages and backgrounds.

It's scary putting yourself out there but it only takes going out of your front door. Even for a walk in a local park you will find people to talk to .I talk to people at bus stops ,in shops cafes . I never thought I would do all the things I do .
But you and everyone can try new things just takes a bit of courage . That first step in the hardest . But you can do it . What would your husband say ? 🌹

At age 84 I arise between 9 - 10p.m. Have breakfast, shower and dress, this takes me about 1 hour and 15 minutes. Most days I walk - or should I say stroll for about 2- 3 miles with my chum. We leave at 2p.m. and return about 4 - 4.30.

I am up at 05.30 to get my scallywags ready for 07.15 for day services, when they leave I rush round like a crazy fool to get all the jobs done. Once finished I slouch around reading paper and doing the crossword sudoko etc unless I am going out and I do not feel guilty!!

Whiff

lafergar until January I have never stayed in my pjs during the day no matter how ill I am even when I had jaundice and was seriously ill for 5 months. But must admit I did enjoy my week in PJ's clean everyday of course. But it really bugged me I couldn't go out because I wasn't well enough..

The following week I went to my Monday sit fit class couldn't do any of the exercises just went for the company but was back to doing the exercises next week not my usual energy but felt better doing them .

My life runs on routine always has . I have a rare hereditary neurological condition and heart condition. But didn't know what my disability was called until 2022 aged 63 and found out about the hole in the side of my heart in 2020/2021 when it was pinpoint where plus I have PAF . Luckily have medication now but only because I move here in 2019 and having a GP practice who sent me to see the right consultants and the brilliant healthcare here.

I decided I had to live the best life I can and thanks to my move I do . It's what my husband wanted for me from 2004 when he died . But couldn't as I had people dependant on me .

I live in a lovely area in the north west and go to sit fit on Monday afternoon,Tuesday morning it's move it or lose it . Once a month it's cake and cuppa group and craft group once a month . I like to get out once a week as well. But no matter how ill I feel I still go to my classes and groups as I always feel better going. At 67 I am fitted than I was at 50.

Being with other people keeps your mind and body active . I read and cross stitch. Bake when it's my craft group so I can have a treat but have to do it my way . I make jam , marmalade and chutneys but again my way . But people like what I do .

I existed where I used to live but since moving here 6 years in August I live my life to the full. And hopefully keep my marbles 🤣

I’m exhausted just reading this 😂🤣😂

rafichagran

I am ashamed to say I am not showered yet, I got up late and have been cleaning and putting things away.
I am going up now for a shower and will probably then have coffee and will then tidy the shed. I like to go out everyday drive and walk, but car has a oil leak so will probably walk.

Don’t ever feel shamed!

I am up and about on different days at different times, entirely dependent on hw I feel!

Never apologise. We are all very different in our health and needs

You are wholly admirable, Whiff, and put me to shame though I do try to get out most days unless the weather is awful. Since DH’s death, more than three years ago, I am not quite sure what I am for any more and think s lack of purpose is making me very indolent.

lafergar until January I have never stayed in my pjs during the day no matter how ill I am even when I had jaundice and was seriously ill for 5 months. But must admit I did enjoy my week in PJ's clean everyday of course. But it really bugged me I couldn't go out because I wasn't well enough..

The following week I went to my Monday sit fit class couldn't do any of the exercises just went for the company but was back to doing the exercises next week not my usual energy but felt better doing them .

My life runs on routine always has . I have a rare hereditary neurological condition and heart condition. But didn't know what my disability was called until 2022 aged 63 and found out about the hole in the side of my heart in 2020/2021 when it was pinpoint where plus I have PAF . Luckily have medication now but only because I move here in 2019 and having a GP practice who sent me to see the right consultants and the brilliant healthcare here.

I decided I had to live the best life I can and thanks to my move I do . It's what my husband wanted for me from 2004 when he died . But couldn't as I had people dependant on me .

I live in a lovely area in the north west and go to sit fit on Monday afternoon,Tuesday morning it's move it or lose it . Once a month it's cake and cuppa group and craft group once a month . I like to get out once a week as well. But no matter how ill I feel I still go to my classes and groups as I always feel better going. At 67 I am fitted than I was at 50.

Being with other people keeps your mind and body active . I read and cross stitch. Bake when it's my craft group so I can have a treat but have to do it my way . I make jam , marmalade and chutneys but again my way . But people like what I do .

I existed where I used to live but since moving here 6 years in August I live my life to the full. And hopefully keep my marbles 🤣

I only retired at the end of March. I started part time work aged 13. After a life time in childcare I am enjoying taking it a bit easier
I still get up at 7am with my husband to make his packed lunch and see him off to work. Then I enjoy a delicious cup or 2 of earl grey, while listening to the radio. I do a bit of cleaning in my pj's then have a shower and get dressed.
If I need to go shopping, hairdresser etc I get showered and dressed early and get out before it's too busy
After a busy work life with under 5s constantly being on the go I don't see the need to get up and get going now. Nice to relax

Georgesgran

My late Dad would be mortified at lazing around and not dressed until 9am. He wore a shirt and tie every day of his life and was presentable by 7am, irrespective of his plans for the day. He lived to 96 and I still miss him.

My DF was exactly the same - even on holiday! He even wore a shirt and tie on the beach! I think the summer of 1976 is the only recollection I have of him gardening with the top button of his shirt undone!

Years of having to get up early, school, college, work, taking kids to school and I’ve had enough! Love my lie ins if I’m not going anywhere. A mug of coffee and a long read in bed in the morning is my idea of heaven. (I do get up early 3 mornings a week for my volunteering jobs.)

Its good having a dog . I have to get out with him, meet people have chats. I have to keep busy as I don't like my own company I'm lucky to have the Elizabeth line nearby which gives me a link to many places. , and yes I do have to make myself go out. I find church membership is a help .
My grandsons gave me a membership of the ROH and I make use of that . There are clubs to join locally and plenty of need for volunteer workers. I know it is hard, but I feel it's worth it , even if you have to force yourself to go out.

I am ashamed to say I am not showered yet, I got up late and have been cleaning and putting things away.
I am going up now for a shower and will probably then have coffee and will then tidy the shed. I like to go out everyday drive and walk, but car has a oil leak so will probably walk.

I try to make myself have something to do otherwise I would become a sloth so easily and I am, on the days I have nothing planned
I m up and showered by 6 am 7 at the latest… 3 days a week volunteering work from 8 am till 2 /3/4 pm judging on how tired I feel I need this to feel useful and focused
At least 2 days on the allotment or gardens one day walking to and from the supermarket, or town then in the summer time on the beach or my deckchair in my garden, in spare time
the rest of my days/evenings I flop in front of the tv if I didn’t have a purpose I d do this all the time
I have to have a plan for the day or else I d happily just vegetate
I m just passed 80 oh yes always up dressed makeup and earrings on before breakfast even on sloppy days or allotment days
I could so easily vegetate

I have to make myself go out for a walk. I am nearly 76 and fortunately 🤞 so far in good health. DH is nearly 80 and despite some setbacks over the years, is still a good walker. Last month we were lucky enough to go to Venice. You need to be able to walk around there and we walked miles each day. We're doing it while we can.

I have become more slothful first thing in the morning but I get going and do whatever needs doing and always have a walk.
I agree that poor health means there's not much energy to spare.

Up, bath or shower and dressed within twenty minutes of waking up - 6:30 - 7:30, mug of tea, online puzzles, chat online, read GN and the news.
Always a late breakfast about 11:30/12 unless we’re away, 16 hour fast, breakfast is usually weetabix and fruits.

I never get going unless there is something in the calendar.

Luckily, DH and I have stuff going on most days so can revel in the days when there is nothing to get dressed for.

Similar routine here Tanith, except MrB does the tidying while I check out the GM thread and read emails. I find I have more energy in the morning so get more out of a morning walk than an afternoon one.