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Funerals - each one is different now

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Greyduster Thu 03-Jul-25 07:09:36

We had a celebrant to conduct DH’s funeral and she could not have been better; warm, empathetic and people said how connected they felt. I’ve been to so many funerals where the nominated minister was really just going through the motions. DS wrote and read a eulogy that was both touching and funny, and DD read a poem. We had his favourite Welsh hymn (which DH’s family much appreciated and all joined in) as well as some secular music, and The Lord’s Prayer.

Calendargirl Thu 03-Jul-25 06:39:11

No, the same here. All different sorts of funerals.

I can understand non believers wanting nothing to do with a religious service, but personally I like a church funeral.

I think of a friend who had a non religious ceremony at the crematorium, humanist minister, no prayers, hymns or anything.

The coffin, however, had yellow ribbons tied to the handles. This was explained as what the couple did to their suitcases when they went on holiday, to pick them out at the carousel. So in the fullness of time, the remaining partner would be able to spot his wife when they were eventually reunited in eternity.

But seeing as they apparently were non believers…..

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nanna8 Thu 03-Jul-25 06:28:17

I have just been to the funeral of someone I once knew. It was set in a chapel but no hymns or prayers. There was some beautiful poetry, a daughter singing and playing the guitar about her loved Mum, and a slideshow of my friend’s
life. Her husband spoke of her life and what she had achieved and some of her brothers and sisters also spoke. It was very lovely but no spiritual dimension whatsoever. I was surprised because of it being in a church. Every funeral I have been to recently has been different, one of them even had Beatles music playing and we left to the strains of Yellow Submarine which was a bit weird . Is it the same in the UK or is it just here in Australia?