Not a flounce.

I have found lafergar's posts interesting and worth thinking about. I'm sorry that feeling not listened to is causing this.
Hope you come back lafergar you are a valuable asset to Gransnet.

Flippinheck

Just saying hello. I am rejoining after deregistering a couple of years ago for similar reasons. Sometimes it is better to take yourself away from something that is causing you pain. I wish you well.

Hello 👋

Some posters can be vitriolic and it's a shock if it's directed at you, particularly if more than one joins in. Best to retreat for a while to lick your wounds - then ask yourself why on earth you should be bothered by an unknown person or persons on social media!

The good on here far outweighs the bad.

Lathyrus:

"I think you have to be feeling quite robust to be on social media"

I agree. There are some horrid trolls too, not on Gransnet maybe but elsewhere.

Lathyrus, I find that a problem with all online discussions that go on for a long time. It's not practicable to read them all.

The way I deal with it is I reply to the original post if it's interesting. I also reply to the latest posts which are often tangential to the OP. Sometimes I try to relate tangents to the original posts.

Gransnet is liberally moderated and the mods tolerate tangents, which IMO is good.

Lathyrus3

Some people don’t even read their own posts and have lots of typos. Mea culpa😳

😂😂😂
Me too.

I too have thought of leaving. I decided to stay as the rewards of Gransnet outweigh the punishments. Gransnet is privately owned and is as it is according to the owner's design. My house my rules is fair enough.

Just saying hello. I am rejoining after deregistering a couple of years ago for similar reasons. Sometimes it is better to take yourself away from something that is causing you pain. I wish you well.

OldFrill

Crossstitchfan

In my opinion, leaving is your best choice. You have been unhappy and a little bit touchy for some time.

Maybe take your own advice.

I think you are of the opinion that I was being unkind. I wasn’t! The OP has been very unhappy and I simply thought that being on here with people getting the wrong end of the stick(!) was not helping her. You are obviously one of the people she referred to who aren’t listening!

Really made me laugh

Some people don’t even read their own posts and have lots of typos. Mea culpa😳

Kandinsky

Well she was right with the ‘no one is listening’ considering quite a few think a completely different poster has left

This

Hardly anybody listens to anyone else do they? Whether it’s in real life or on a site like this. Most people are just interested in what they want to say😬

You only have to look at the comments on threads to see that means st people just read the original post and then voice their opinion. They don’t read the other comments at all.

People comment and pass on. If you feel insignificant to others, social media will just make you feel worse.

Now and again you get an actual conversation between two or three people, although some posters then object to that as dominating a thread.🙄

I think you have to be feeling quite robust to be on social media.

As usual I’ve missed whatever has happened but I guess it’s on news and politics which I avoid now as it makes me feel anxious. I was even criticised for saying I avoided the news, so just stepped away. I have so much HUGE stuff going on in my own life that people who know me in real life would know why but people on the internet wouldn’t and I think that’s the difference. However, Gransnet is also so supportive. I’ve had so many messages of support off varying posters who have just picked up on a nuance in a post I’ve made and have offered a listening ear.

All the best lefergar, come back when you are ready x

escaped you are correct in your post at 08.27.03

I don't think Lafager flounced she made a statement of how she felt, it was respectful and she wished everyone well.
I am glad she did one last post as I often wonder about posters who just stop, a good example was Biglouis
I wish you well Lafager

I think Lefargar wants people to know she’s been made unhappy whether it’s because people have been snippy or whether she feels unheard I m not sure. I am notoriously bad at remembering who s who, or what was said to whom really I am not very astute at stuff like that, it goes in one ear and out the other, some people seem to remember such fine details I wish I had that sort of brain, so i ve no idea who or what has upset this poster and I don’t think she’s going to expand.
An announcement only! so no one can put anything right which is pointless really
If someone has upset you, say and at least they can say explain their views and you might see things a bit differently, or you might not but there would be closure this way it’s all just left hanging
Anyway as I said before good luck in the future snd I hope life improves Lefergar

Chocolatelovinggran

I'd like to welcome you back when and if you are ready, lafergar.

Yes me too.

Agree. Boz

Half the stuff you read is made up nonsense. Even on here I don’t believe quite a few threads. Some are definitely a work of fiction, which to me are obvious, but people get sucked in so easily.

The politics board is a different ball game. Enter there at your own risk.

Social Media is not a platform of truth and honour; you will get your views opposed for a variety of reasons.
I think to announce a departure is taking it all too seriously.

Thanks mollygo- I read that it was Lafergar that was leaving (😔), then got slightly confused by the other posts. 🙏

Ahh thanks Petra- thought that was a little confusing. 🙏

Well said, Luckygirl.

BlueBelle

Well as usual I ve missed any previous drama to make Lefargar feel unhappy or unheard so I m not sure what this is all about but it’s always sad when someone already struggling feels invisible but I can see from the last few posts there is snipiness all around

Anyway I wish you better days Lefargar

Ah, I think I've sussed it now ...... she has been around under various other names, so it's been confusing.

Sorry to hear you are leaving lafergar. I very rarely post these days but I do read what is said and quite understand why you are going. A post above says it all!

I'd like to welcome you back when and if you are ready, lafergar.