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Stillness Wed 13-Aug-25 10:55:31

I was just wondering how many of you do things with no background noise simultaneously? So perhaps crafts, or cooking, or housework etc…with no radio, music or tv …or anything else going on.
When I was younger, there wasn’t much silence, with family and a busy life etc. Now, there could easily be, but in an odd way, I really want it and yet I’m frightened of it. I do live a quietish life but I think I’m worried that if I get used to it, the external world will eventually become too much, leading to me being intolerant of any noise at all…if that makes sense..

FranP Thu 14-Aug-25 14:55:26

Retread

I love silence 🔕. The stiller, the better.

On another note, I went into "The Hive" sculpture/installation at Kew recently, it emulates the buzz sound inside a beehive. My mind went absolutely quiet! It was bliss. It has something to do with specific kilohertz, will look it up now.

I worked in a large open plan office block. Whenever the aircon went off, everyone stopped to listen for a second. Nobody noticed the background hiss until it stopped.
Interestingly, it meant that you could hear conversations across the room, and everyone raised their voices.

RillaofIngleside Thu 14-Aug-25 14:52:58

I love silence, I like having my head to myself with no intrusions. I play the piano, and learn languages or read - but I don't need other people's music or voices intruding in my head.
I do love the sound of the birds, or the wind rustling the leaves and the crops around our house.

Mandymoo456 Thu 14-Aug-25 14:47:38

I was just reading your post, I also have tinnitus it's a hissing most of the time, I find it is my music in a way,interesting

jocork Thu 14-Aug-25 14:42:13

Living alone I like to have the TV on, otherwise I hear every noise in the house and find that distracting. I usually still hear noises I need to, including when someone tried to break in round the back - pretty scary experience. Maybe if the TV had been louder the burglars would have known I was in despite the lack of my car outside as it had been scrapped and not replaced! When I went to investigate the noise I think they got as much of a shock as me. By the time I'd calmed down enough to ring the police they were long gone, leaving behind the shovel they were using to try to lever open my french doors. It was the corner of it breaking off that made the noise I heard! Of course if I'd been sitting in silence I might have heard them scurrying around in the garden and breaking into my shed!

Kartush Thu 14-Aug-25 14:24:46

I love silence, I can sit in my craft room for hours with no background sounds at all. Pure heaven.

lainieb56 Thu 14-Aug-25 14:17:43

I never have complete silence. I ha e filters running in fish tanks, and also my tinnitus is always making a noise lol. Peace and quiet would be lovely!

knspol Thu 14-Aug-25 14:15:20

I love the silence when outside in the garden so soothing. When my DH was alive I was always turning down the music on the radio in the house but nowadays I have the radio on most of the day for a bit of background noise. On the other hand I never notice if background music is playing or not in a public place.

Lupatria Thu 14-Aug-25 14:07:58

another tinnitus sufferer here. one thing i was told is that i must never sit in silence but have some sound always to distract me from my tinnitus.
so i have my favourite radio programme on my alexa during the day and my favourite music channel on sky at night - the latter playing qiietly all night.
i do turn the music off in the evening so i can watch tv - usually what i've recorded on my sky q box.

madeleine45 Thu 14-Aug-25 13:54:22

I never like to be predictable!! Actually I need both. Silence when I am reading in bed at night, and it stops me thinking of worrying things and try to ignore how much pain I am in. Silence from me and anyone else when Bach is playing. I stop and listen and my morning is always improved by listening to Bach before 7. A moment of bliss being alone here as no one can spoil the wonderful uplifting Bach. Silence as I walk up in my beloved swaledale, looking at plants and animals and watching the way the wind alters the way the fields look. Silence at 4am, when I am awake and in pain, but dont feel able to put the radio to disturb my neighbours, so here I will be reading Grans net and catching up on news and views. Swap them round with a noise spoiling Bach and loud music with a beat spoiling the peace of the countryside and I am not happy. So for me it is horses for courses.

lizzypopbottle Thu 14-Aug-25 13:52:20

I live in a village of about 1000 residents. It's not particularly noisy during the day but at night, from about 10pm or so, there's a beautiful silence. I love to sit outside and listen to it.

alita Thu 14-Aug-25 13:51:28

Same in our house GrannyGravy13, hi fi, sport, radio, tv, always one or more sound sources. Whenever I'm home alone, which I am today, there is silence.

Ellymae Thu 14-Aug-25 13:48:58

I would like some quiet time but my tinnitus keeps intruding

Suzieque66 Thu 14-Aug-25 13:46:18

Yes ... shh

Janetashbolt Thu 14-Aug-25 13:44:53

Always have the TV on, sound low, ususally a Border Patrol or Nothing the Declare I've seen dozens of times

ddraig123 Thu 14-Aug-25 13:43:35

Yes, so shhhhhhhhhh please!

KathleenE Thu 14-Aug-25 13:41:00

I just wish restaurants wouldn't play background music. My husband is very deaf and his hearing aids pick up everything even though he has a background noise suppression setting. It means we can never enjoy a chat over a meal out. We only want to eat out anyway, on special occasions. But we prefer to eat in even for those.

Babamaman Thu 14-Aug-25 13:38:35

Try listening to Classic FM or Boom radio ! Both nice depending on your mood!
Silence is golden

TwiceAsNice Thu 14-Aug-25 00:05:04

Sorry that should be cat flap just clicked. I didn’t proof read

TwiceAsNice Thu 14-Aug-25 00:03:26

Everyone else in the house is asleep so am in relative silence I can hear distant sound coming from somewhere and the cat flap jusy clocked so one of the cats has just come in.

I do like silence and also really need to be by myself sometimes and just do as I like in peace

Cabbie21 Wed 13-Aug-25 23:39:58

I don’t like silence because of tinnitus, which I don’t notice most of the time, except when there is silence.
But I don’t like noise either. I can’t bear being in a noisy room, or outside with noisy traffic. Living alone, I now find it difficult when there are a lot of people talking all around.

merlotgran Wed 13-Aug-25 22:55:02

I like silence if I’m reading or maybe just some background music in another room with the door open.
I don’t like silence in the car unless I have a passenger to chat to. The radio makes long journeys more bearable.

Mt61 Wed 13-Aug-25 22:42:30

I think that’s why I like my fan on at night, as that drowns out my tinnitus, actually it’s a Meaco & not that noisy, slight hum on low.

travelsafar Wed 13-Aug-25 19:45:55

I love silence. It gives me time to plan my day, think about things.
I use to put the radio on as soon as I got up but found it was irritating me.
I appreciate having that choice because once I step outside my home
I'm surrounded by noise.

Granatlast007 Wed 13-Aug-25 19:30:35

I love silence, just back from a holiday in rural France and it was so quiet at night that all you could hear was the trickle of the stream running through the garden of the airbnb. Gorgeous.
Now back home - cars accelerate up the road adjacent to our house, that would be one of the 200 cars in our cul de sac, or it's the youngster who's just got his 2 stroke motor bike; in the night, goods trains hurtle noisily through the railway station half a mile away, that is if they are not drowned out by the ring road of our small town often full of the noise of night time lorries delivering or rush hour cars; the neighbour of the adjacent house is always buzzing and chopping with garden machinery....I hate it, I say to my husband I would sometimes welcome going deaf!

AmberGran Wed 13-Aug-25 19:14:47

Depends on how I feel and what I am doing. I really do love to sit in total silence and read, with nothing to distract me. I also like sitting in the garden when it's quiet outside (doesn't happen often anymore) and listen to nature doing it's thing. If I'm doing housework, or ironing or cooking I sometimes have the TV or radio on in the background.

DH and I can sit all afternoon without saying more than half a dozen words, each doing our own thing perfectly happily. I don't think I could live anymore with someone who constantly felt the need to talk or have noise around them.