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what did you used to stress about but wish was still about now

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Granmarderby10 Fri 03-Oct-25 00:36:27

Having very white skin and apart from facial freckles in summer never tanned. I think it was the era of Farrah Fawcett and “everyone” was tanned. I wore tights with everything even on boiling hot days. I think this wasn’t that unusual at this time though
Now I don’t worry about such things and am just grateful to be fit and healthy.
But……if they invented a safe pill that would reduce breast size I’d take it.
I honestly don’t see the need for them, they distort my dress size, weigh me down and good bras are an unwelcome expense.
I’d be quite happy 😊 in my (not quite) flat chested 11 year old body.

MayBee70 Thu 02-Oct-25 23:10:11

Witzend

When I was MUCH younger, I’d have killed for a pair of 36Bs, and a cleavage! - instead of my pathetic little 34As.

It’s been a long time now since I’ve been very glad I don’t have to cart whoppers about, though. And dh never complained!

My MIL once asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I said ‘ a cleavage’. However I was always trying to weight 7 stone…if I’d allowed myself to be 9 stone which seems to be the weight I was meant to be I would have had a bit of a cleavage. And dieting back then just meant not eating and exercise classes were just aerobics which didn’t really tone your body.

Narnia Thu 02-Oct-25 21:23:58

Betony

Narnia, id you just go into a tattooist shop? Or were you recommended somewhere to have it done? I'm seriously thinking of getting a small but readable 'DNR' (do not resuscitate) on my wrist near my pulse, but don't like the look any of the tattoo places where I live.

I paid over the top to go to a recommended one, i looked at many.
I've since added to it at a different place, cheaper but equally clean and responsible.
Mine is on my inner forearm, my star constellation and sign X

Esmay Thu 02-Oct-25 21:10:04

I really worried about being so flat chested .
I used to pad out my bras with sanitary towels .
I was extremely thin .
Then I worried that my hair was too curly to style.
I rarely got a spot but if I did I'd worry about it .
It all seems so crazy now .
What a waste of time .
Now I'd like a day without feeling ill !

Grammaretto Thu 02-Oct-25 19:28:54

My youth has well and truly gone but yesterday I received a compliment from a "new girl" in our knitting group.
I was talking about my 70th birthday party, 7 years ago. She said she had no idea I could be 70!

Any regrets? Not really. A lovely DH for 51 yrs until he died. 4 wonderful DC, their spouses and 7 fab DGC.

I am trying to embrace the freedom to do what I want, when I want. Sometimes it works!

Newatthis Thu 02-Oct-25 19:12:55

I guess this is a regret though not something I had and therefore now gone.

Newatthis Thu 02-Oct-25 19:10:59

Living on my own. I never moved into a flat with friends and I stayed at home until I got married (26), I have never lived on my own since (46 years)! I am not sure what I would do if I had to live on my own as my husband deals with many things (setting tv up etc, heavy lifting etc) I know it would come as a shock to me if ever I did have to live on my own. I do consider myself a very capable person though.

AuntieE Thu 02-Oct-25 17:28:26

8BitDad

Saving for retirement by having a series of big jobs with increasingly greater responsibility and concomitant growth in salary. I claimed I didn't want the responsibility and time away from my family. I ended up being gone anyway because I had to work for money (yay, capitalism!) and didn't have the skills or training to do anything that made better money that I felt I could do consistently or competently. Wife's dead and my kids want to be mad at me more than be around me. So now, no money and the family I wanted so badly to live well and spend time with are gone. Should have gotten the MBA or MD and made that money if I was going to be alone anyway.

Well, if you are in the UK, an MD would certainly not have given you either a good salary while you worked, or a good pension.

My father was a GP, and we were as poor as church mice all through my childhood, as he was demobbed in 1947 along with all the other Forces' doctors (or most of them) and the NHS could only come up with a very small practice.

Fortunately, he loved his job.

Jaxjacky Thu 02-Oct-25 15:58:15

Betony

Narnia, id you just go into a tattooist shop? Or were you recommended somewhere to have it done? I'm seriously thinking of getting a small but readable 'DNR' (do not resuscitate) on my wrist near my pulse, but don't like the look any of the tattoo places where I live.

You can get a bracelet says that on plus advance decision.

hollysteers Thu 02-Oct-25 15:50:35

I was flat chested and if implants had been as run of the mill as they are now, I probably would have had them. Not bothered now.
Loved wearing high heels, but a few hours in small kitten heels
Is my limit now, no problem. Not keen on grey hairs on my undercarriage (TMI), but certainly not shaving, just cut them off😁
I remember the lovely Shirley Ann Field when older, saying her thighs looked as if they needed ironing, same here.

Personality wise, I don’t miss my quick temper. It’s still there under the surface, but rarely raises its head, it’s too much effort.

Betony Thu 02-Oct-25 15:49:39

Narnia, id you just go into a tattooist shop? Or were you recommended somewhere to have it done? I'm seriously thinking of getting a small but readable 'DNR' (do not resuscitate) on my wrist near my pulse, but don't like the look any of the tattoo places where I live.

8BitDad Thu 02-Oct-25 15:32:36

Saving for retirement by having a series of big jobs with increasingly greater responsibility and concomitant growth in salary. I claimed I didn't want the responsibility and time away from my family. I ended up being gone anyway because I had to work for money (yay, capitalism!) and didn't have the skills or training to do anything that made better money that I felt I could do consistently or competently. Wife's dead and my kids want to be mad at me more than be around me. So now, no money and the family I wanted so badly to live well and spend time with are gone. Should have gotten the MBA or MD and made that money if I was going to be alone anyway.

Knittypamela Thu 02-Oct-25 14:41:35

I regret being so hard on myself when my children were babies. I was so tired yet I denied myself food to lose weight. I also exercised when I should have been resting.

Narnia Thu 02-Oct-25 13:53:50

Never liked tattoos, got to 59 and saw one on someone that i thought was lovely. Thought about it for a year and had one the week before i was 60!

AmberGran Wed 01-Oct-25 18:44:09

When I was MUCH younger, I’d have killed for a pair of 36Bs, and a cleavage! - instead of my pathetic little 34As.

Me too 😄😄 My family used to call me 'Treasure" when I was in my teens - as in treasure chest.

When I gave up smoking I suddenly developed huge boobs - I went from a 34B to 38D almost overnight. I hated it. I couldn't run any more, it made life awkward at the gym. Made my back sore. Had to buy all new clothes. Eventually dropped back to a 36C which is mostly where I've stayed and it was a huge relief. Everyone thought I had had implants 😄😄

Witzend Wed 01-Oct-25 15:21:34

When I was MUCH younger, I’d have killed for a pair of 36Bs, and a cleavage! - instead of my pathetic little 34As.

It’s been a long time now since I’ve been very glad I don’t have to cart whoppers about, though. And dh never complained!

Marg75 Wed 01-Oct-25 14:58:28

When I was young up until probably the menopause I used to stress about being about eight and a half stone, also not ever actually 'filling out'. I had quite a good figure but used to envy women who to me looked like women. Now at eighty I am about ten stone, ten, and I would love to be as I was before! I too would love a very small nose piercing, but perhaps my family would think I'd lost it!

V3ra Wed 01-Oct-25 14:44:24

Flat shoes, pretty trainers and ballet pumps are all fashionable and perfectly acceptable smart wear these days, so just embrace the comfort!

Kate1949 Wed 01-Oct-25 14:44:19

My hair. Never wonderful but now that it's all gone, I wish I had it back.

poppysmum Wed 01-Oct-25 14:39:50

body and personality wise i mean.
my three would be;
for years I stressed over being a size 14. never went up or down but I tried every diet going making my life miserable. now due to tablets etc i am a size 20 ish and GP says that is how it is. my tablets work so unless i want to be ill or try other tablets that maybe will have bad side effects I just have to cope. but looking back now on photos all i see is a curvy girl with a nice figure
secondly is now I am relegated to orthopedic sandals or pumps due to several problems with my feet. how i long to be in heels! even my daughters wedding i had to go for flat ballet pumps! i used to wear strappy 3 inch plus heels all day i could run in them go upstairs no problem i used to feel so good in them now i would be lucky to stand up in them!
thirdly not having my nose pierced dont know why always wanted it done. have my ears pierced several times but i got to someone doing my nose once and I chickened out took it out there and then. i do know someone in town who does piercings and has said no apt just come in and Ill do it! dare I?