Wearing a wedding ring when widowed

I cannot get mine off, so if he went, I would feel a bit awkward cutting it off. If I manage to lose some weight it might be different perhaps. Both MILs and mum wore theirs until they died.
I do find that I am addressed as Mrs, by a quick glance at my fingers

I will always wear mine and the heart I had made from my husbands ring.

Can't see the problem - wear it or don't wear it. Surely it's a personal choice if you are married OR widowed. Can't say I've ever noticed my friends' jewellery.

My mother wore her wedding ring until it was stolen from her while she was living in a nursing home. Apparently it was used to buy drugs. I am still so upset and angry that something like that could happen to someone so vulnerable. I have my grandmother’s and great grandmother’s wedding rings and should have added mum’s but of course can’t. Mum was 99 when she died.

Married 52years. Hardly wear my wedding ring. Cant be bothered!
Still married. Other half has one but stopped when saw I wasn’t wearing mine!!’🙄🙄

If you had a happy marriage and it makes you happy to continue to wear a wedding ring, then why not. To suffer the loss of a partner and remove the ring would be a constant reminder I think. Do what makes you happy

My husband is still very much alive and kicking but should I have the misfortune for him to die before me, I will continue wearing my wedding ring til the day I die as I would still consider myself his wife, and would not want another husband.
My Mum did the same, and her rings weren't removed until the day before her funeral, when the undertaker gave them to me at the funeral parlour when I made my last visit to Mum.

I was widowed in 1997 (age 49). I still wear my wedding ring but agree with others, it is purely each individual’s choice.
Yes, my husband did wear a wedding ring and I’ve never wanted to marry again. However, having said that, I don’t think wearing your wedding ring is a deterrent for some men!😂

Ex DH never wanted to wear a ring , he hated jewellery but still expected me to wear one, so I did. DP bought me a very pretty eternity type ring which I will always wear.
It’s just up to the individual isn’t it?

I read that once widowed your ring should be moved to the right hand. I've been married 43 years and I don't think I'd move my ring if it happened to me. It would feel strange to me.

Not the same I know, but I went through traumatic separation and divorce after 27 years of marriage. But not wearing a ring on my left hand still felt very strange. I bought a new ring to wear on my middle finger, so that it didn’t feel so odd.

Remarried now, with a new wedding ring. Stones and gold from my ‘old life’ have been incorporated into my new wedding ring and other jewellery.

It wasn’t always a happy marriage and it ended very badly, but there were happy times and if nothing else it gave me two of best DDs anyone could have.

It strikes me that widows may have very different memories of their marriages, someone undoubtedly better than others. There’s an awful lot tied up in the symbolism of these rings, isn’t there? Wearing them or not wearing them and for how long has to be a very personal decision.

midgey

I didn’t wear a wedding ring when my husband was alive so no change for me!

This. We’re still married after 51 years.

Married 55 years before a widow. Still wear my wedding ring. Husband did always wear a wedding ring. He did remove it when doing anything dangerous and could catch his hand.

Like Crosstichfan I too wear my wedding ring..I'm still a married woman. At least that's how I feel after 64 yrs happily married.
I'd feel undressed without it.

" Wearing them or not wearing them and for how long has to be a very personal decision."

That's what I think, also.
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hollysteers

For those of you who still wear your wedding ring, did your husband wear one too?
Not wearing one seems a class/generation/British thing🤔

Or wife.

Do wear your wedding ring. I think its a lovely thing to do in his memory

My friend was widowed at 45 she still wears hers at 66. I would always wear mine definitely. Been married 49 years.

My OH grandma was widowed in her early 30s.she wore her ring until her dying day at 103 yrs .

think I would still wear my ring not something I would think of taking it off. if remarrying maybe put it on another finger or on a chain. its not the same as a divorce

I believe it is a personal choice and also alot depends on the age of the lady / man ..

It's nobody else's business. It should be an individual choice.

Always wear my wedding ring after being widowed nearly eight years. I was married fifty two years. I like people to know that I was married, and even going out with men friends, I still wear it, plus an eternity ring when I feel like it. I'd feel naked without it.

I have been separated for 13 years and I still wear my wedding ring for no other reasons than I like it and it looks good with my inherited grandmothers engagement ring!

My wedding ring got too small for me so I just took it off ... didnt feel the need to get a new one ...