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Applegran Fri 10-Oct-25 19:51:11

I think we all know that loving kindness given and received makes us happy. And gratitude makes us happier too. There is plenty of research evidence to confirm this – but all we have to do is pay attention to our instinctive knowledge to know it is true.

So I have the idea of a thread where we share examples of true loving kindness, and of gratitude for things in our lives, some of which we might otherwise take for granted.

We could grow a shared positive life thread. This is not to deny that we all have painful times – just to say we can have happier lives if we allow ourselves to pay attention to kindness and gratitude, and this will help us in the hard times too.

On this thread you can tell us about kindnesses done and received, and if you are shy about telling something kind you have done, in this thread its ok to say “someone I know/a relation/a friend…..’ or whatever you like. And of course it is ok to tell us directly of kindnesses you have done yourself. We could use the thread to express gratitude for kindness received too.

We can learn from each other and be uplifted by the loving kindness of others.

Gratitude is about paying attention to the good things in our lives and being grateful. Some people keep a daily gratitude diary and write about three things they are grateful for that day, with a word or two about why they are grateful. This thread might become a shared gratitude diary – if others join in, I would aim to add at least a short post about something I am grateful for every day. And kindnesses too but not necessarily daily. We could be cheered by each other and it could become part of the day for any of us who chose to join. What do you think?

I will start with something I am grateful for today: seeing beautiful tall trees beginning to turn to autumn colours. This took me beyond myself to enjoy and feel connected with nature.

And a kindness which springs to mind: I stopped in the street to rearrange a lot of bags and parcels I was carrying, and then walked on. A minute or two later a passerby caught me up – and gave me my handbag which I had left in the middle of the pavement.

Sending you loving thoughts for whatever difficulties you may have and wishing you good things.

Celieanne86 Sun 12-Oct-25 16:29:47

I am thankful and grateful to the wonderful people who have just cared for me following a major health scare. Starting with the medic alert team who answered my frantic call for help as I had chest pains so bad I couldn’t breath, I passed out but they stayed with me while waiting for an emergency paramedic team, I’ve been told it took 17 minutes but all knew was a young man was here in my living room holding my hand and talking to while a paramedic was sticking pads all over my body and connecting me to a machine then it was ambulance blue lights and siren and kind and gentle words not to worry I was going to be ok I was too young to die, I’m 88 so I think they were being optimistic. On arrival at the hospital to the triage nurse who came in the ambulance and put me on red alert, to the paramedics who never left me, to the nurses who had me connected up to various machines within minutes and to the doctor who talked to me and explained everything that was happening. To all the medical staff, yes even the lovely nurse who took the dreaded blood tests and left hardly a mark, and to the chest x Ray team who showed me pictures of my silly old heart which had given me such a scare. To the student nurse who made me a very welcome cup of tea and biscuits and made sure I was comfortable and loaned me her phone so I could speak to me son. To everyone who looked after me and reassured me I had not had a heart attack but rather an infection which caused fluid round my heart and I had an extra heart beat which was going to be investigated. I was allowed home after 24 hours with antibiotics and instructions to take it easy and follow up appointments.
Finally my grandaughter who never left me once I was discharged and bought my 9 months old great grandson to entertain me.
How do I thank all these wonderful people who have gone above and beyond to care for me, I am truly grateful for the NHS and the tired and overworked staff who treated me like a queen. So thank you and to Gransnet for sorting out my password problem or I could not have written all this.

Magenta8 Sun 12-Oct-25 16:36:25

Thank you for your kind words Crossstitchfan.

It happened over 50 years ago when I was still in my early twenties and TBH I don't think about it very often. It was just that the posts about picking up purses rekindled the memory. I don't think I would have handled the situation with the woman in the same way had it happened more recently.

Iam64 Sun 12-Oct-25 16:36:42

I feel blessed and thankful to friends who remembered the third anniversary of my husband’s death, a few days ago. Their texts, cards, emails really comforted me during this period

I’m grateful to cyber friends on this forum for sharing ideas and occasionally making me lol.

Magenta8 Sun 12-Oct-25 17:08:30

Celieanne86 This must have been very frightening for you but it sounds as though you had very good care from the NHS.
Your grandaughter sounds lovely too. I wish you well for a complete recovery.thanks

teabagwoman Sun 12-Oct-25 17:17:30

I am so grateful that my dd and family live only half an hour away from me. I’m just three weeks in after a THR and they’ve been over again today to weed my front paving, pick up the windfalls and keep the drainage gully clear so I don’t end up with a flooded garage. I know so many don’t have family living locally and it’s something I will always be grateful for.

lixy Sun 12-Oct-25 17:27:09

Today I made an apple and pear pie with apples from a friend's tree. So grateful for the friendship - not to mention the apples of course.

Great idea for an enduring thread applegran, long may it last.

Applegran Sun 12-Oct-25 17:42:56

A grey morning has given way to a sunny afternoon, with trees silhouetted in the autumn mist - I'm grateful for seeing it all.

Scottishthistle Sun 12-Oct-25 20:38:11

For a start
grateful to Applegran for this lovely thread, made me smile 😃

Also, Grateful to Evie whom introduced herself while both in hospital. (2 yrs ago) If you are reading this Evie 'just to let you know i think of you often, and wonder'.. i still have the poem/letter you kindly wrote for me. I let you know then that you are an inspiration ✨️
Sending you gentle hugs & smiles. You are an Angel. Take it easy (stubborn wee bugger).🩷🤍🩷🙏 x

henetha Mon 13-Oct-25 00:04:16

I actually had both of my sons visit me at the same time this evening. A very rare event indeed. I hardly ever see them together.
It was absolutely wonderful.

Parsley3 Mon 13-Oct-25 08:34:24

This is a lovely thread and I am enjoying reading about all your positive slants on very difficult challenges. Right now I am grateful to be on a city break with the old boy who I met at school and later married. We are both crocked with various issues but can still make each other laugh.

Applegran Mon 13-Oct-25 10:56:45

I am about to go for a walk and am hugely grateful to the surgeon and all the other staff who looked after me when I had a hip replacement earlier this year.

AGAA4 Mon 13-Oct-25 11:56:17

I woke up feeling a bit down this morning but got up put my boots on and went out for a bit walk. After mist all day yesterday we have lovely sunshine. I met 3 people I know for a chat and now feel so much better.
So grateful for the lovely countryside I live in and the friendly people I meet.

Applegran Mon 13-Oct-25 13:02:55

henetha I am so glad you had that visit from both your sons together. I think our grown up children often do not realise fully how much they matter to us, while we still move on and have our own lives. My daughter said to me she only understood when she had her own children. I am so grateful for my family, though geography means I do not see them often.

BluebellBlue Mon 13-Oct-25 15:00:41

What a lovely thread! I give daily gratitude in my nightly prayers. A recent rather lovely act of kindness I received recently was when someone left me a jar of honey from their own bees on my doorstep 🍯. Those kind of things always bring a tear to my eye. I try to practice kindness when the opportunity arises x

Gogo84 Mon 13-Oct-25 15:09:24

Like many of the posters on here, I too have wonderful caring offspring, and when I recently had an 85th birthday party for all the family and some friends, my 4 grandchildren took over in my (small) kitchen warmed up any food that needed it, arranged it all beautifully on various plates, and my grandson dealt with the bubbly, although he did say that opening one of the bottles nearly put his eye out. I didn't have to worry about a thing, and my son made a lovely speech, which, to everyone's amusement, my 7 year old great nephew joined in with. Happy day.

MooM00 Mon 13-Oct-25 15:09:43

I am grateful for 27 years of sobriety a day at a time.

loopylindy Mon 13-Oct-25 15:17:47

DH had an incident with the car which rendered it undrivable. He went into a local chemist to phone for a taxi and no less than two others offered to drive him home. One suggested a garage that could help - instantly (more or less). So he was back home and mended before the jungle drums spread the message to me in hospital.

Wyllow3 Mon 13-Oct-25 15:20:20

I am grateful for the love I have from my DS, DiL and 4 grandchildren. they dont live near, maybe it makes it all the more precious.
But this is party because after my abusivemarriage ended I went into the sort of depression that nothing can reach;

but found, at the end of it, that although I had not spoken nor seen the grandchildren and hardly all to the parents:

They had talked of me a lot, I was alive in their minds all that time, so when they came it was "Hi grandma" as if only a month had passed and matters resumed as per

What a homecoming, just 6 weeks ago,

Never to be forgotten..

Oreo Mon 13-Oct-25 15:35:49

Nice thread😃
A really joyous day to wake up and have breakfast and find out that the Israeli hostages were being released, all 20 of the ones still alive! Saw the footage in Hostages Square and the relatives, and the wonderful image of the Berman twins embracing.
Hardly dared hope it would really happen, it was so emotional just watching.The love and the warmth and relief so uplifting.
Had some celebratory lunch with Mum and a couple of her friends and they all laughed and cried at the same time which set me off too.It was just a light lunch but we had a large glass of wine each.We hugged afterwards and then returned home.

crazygranmda Mon 13-Oct-25 16:06:54

Congratulations MooMoo That is an amazing achievement! flowers

LovesBach Mon 13-Oct-25 16:25:00

So much to be glad about and grateful for in my own life; my OH, we are still together after so many years, my children who fill my heart with joy, and GC who are the light of my life. How easily I could be the mother in Gaza, going 'home' with two small children to a pile of rubble in a destroyed street, her only possessions two water cans. An accident of birth has made me so lucky, and nowdays, with the sorry state of our beautiful world, I am mindful daily.

Redhead56 Mon 13-Oct-25 16:49:04

I had my share of heartache but the gratitude I feel for kindness out numbers the heartache.
FGT you do deserve a hug ( ) and Magenta8 you was ill treated by the purse owner.
Our postal worker delivered a small parcel to ours by mistake it was meant for someone around the corner from ours. It was damaged because it was wet from the rain. I promptly took it to the correct address the woman who opened the door actually accused me of opening it! Putting it mildly we had words I now put mail not meant for us back into the post box

Grandmabatty Mon 13-Oct-25 17:36:42

I am grateful that my biopsy results were clear, although aware that some women today would have received bad news.

MooM00 Mon 13-Oct-25 17:37:05

Thankyou Crazygranmda I feel very lucky to have achieved this amount of sobriety, especially over these last 3 years when my husband took his own life back in 2022.

foxie48 Mon 13-Oct-25 18:07:37

I feel huge gratitude to the NHS for giving me back my energy and love of life and to all my family and friends who have looked after me and now are helping me to live life to the full again. I wake up every morning looking forward to what the day brings. I am so fortunate.