What do you think when someone calls you rich (when you are rich)?

Popular conceptions of the most expensive supermarkets are not always the case. Sitting at home with a cold, I wasted half an hour or so of my coughing, sniffing life by doing my own survey, and filling online shopping baskets with identical goods, from Asda, Sainsburys, Tesco and Waitrose. To my great surprise the most expensive supermarkt was Tesco, followed by Sainsburys, then Waitrose, and Asda was the least expensive. That said, the difference between the most and least expensive basket was less than three pounds.

I think what happened was (and I'm not going to name names as I think this is a storm in a teacup, and I can't remember who said what):

On a thread about the cost of M&S Christmas food, people were saying it was unaffordable, then someone said that they shopped there and didn't even look at the prices.

Someone replied with 'You must be rich', and a third poster endorsed that.

Others pounced on the 'you must be rich' ones, said the comment was unnecessary and called them rude.

This thread was started as a result.

The end.

Charleygirl5

I was also brought up to learn that it was vulgar to speak about money.

So was I Charley. It's the height of bad manners. I know the Americans have a very different attitude to money. It's not uncommon to ask someone you've just met what their salary is for example. I was also brought up not to talk about politics or religion, unless you knew the person very well and they were willing participants.

ronib

I’d button up if you think you are wealthy because you won’t be wealthy for much longer. The November budget will sort that out ….

I'm skint and I will be more skint.

Past caring.

Is it just me or am I being a bit thick?

I really do not understand the OP.

I have read it over and over, is fancythat trying to tell us she is in an elite moneyed clique or is she really stupid?

Oh and what about the third property owners?

Had you been on the breakfast wines when you posted fancythat?

A friend I have known since the 70s is very well off. Thankfully, she doesn’t boast about it and I only knew when she asked me the best place to invest some money (I was in banking some years ago). To be honest, I had never thought about how wealthy she might be. Is it normal to dwell on the financial situation of friends? I was always taught that it was vulgar to discuss wealth.

fancythat

So do people talk about it behind closed doors?

People say, do not talk about religion and politics.
Wealth is never mentioned as a taboo.

Wealth is mentioned as a taboo. The advice is to keep off religion, politics and money. All seen as infra dig in polite company.
Unless you’re American when you can be asked to your face what you earn.

RosieandherMaw

What a nasty thread!
Implicit criticism, inverted snobbery, nosiness into other people's business and every possible opportunity to make snide comments.

I agree, RosieandherMaw, and also agree with your mention of envy earlier on.

I think it would be easier to herd cats than understand the OP. 🐈 🐈‍⬛️
You see, petra , I think I do understand because on the previous thread I was one of the two or three posters told by the OP of this thread when we challenged her on the rich comment,
"Seems to touch a nerve with some".
And "If you are that bothered by it give it
away".

I'm saying no more here, other than that it has been interesting watching the OP digging a deep hole for herself.

The food thread is actually chugging along quite nicely with some good comments. 🦃 🐔 🐄

Well I m ok cos I don’t know anyone rich
I don’t know what is rich to be honest ….Rich in love, rich in money, rich in family !
No one round here talks about money I haven’t a clue if my friends have money behind them or not, …. I just know I haven’t

Ashcombe
A police officers spouse would gets two thirds of the pension after death .. if they were to remarry they get nothing.

Petra said I’m afraid the pony had to go: all that cost of living hooha.
But I’m not giving up the 2 Mercedes

Did you have to eat the poor pony, just to survive, Petra?

No one has ever called me rich to my face so, fortunately, I have never had to spend any time thinking about what I think of their comment.

Please fancythat come back and tell me?

Delila

Why on earth would people talk to each other about how rich they are, and think that it’s an interesting topic?

What is the significance of the shared grin?

That’s what’s bugging me , that I don’t understand the shared grin. 😁

What a nasty thread!
Implicit criticism, inverted snobbery, nosiness into other people's business and every possible opportunity to make snide comments.

Won’t ever affect me!

I think it would be easier to herd cats than understand the OP.

Why on earth would people talk to each other about how rich they are, and think that it’s an interesting topic?

What is the significance of the shared grin?

Wealth is subjective; it seem there is always someone who has more.

If the people in the neighbourhood were truly wealthy, the money conversation would never occur, nor the knowing grins.

There's the nice car in a nice neighbourhood rich, then there's the fly a private jet to my place in Monaco rich.

How rich. Is rich: Being above pension credit level? Owning a detached house? And takng lots of exotic holidays? Buying a new car?

Unless you cam define rich, it is difficult to discuss. I have friends at both ends of the spectrum, one on PC, another on a pension twice as large as I ever earned. Neither income defines the person.

I’d button up if you think you are wealthy because you won’t be wealthy for much longer. The November budget will sort that out ….

Babs03

When I worked as a volunteer in a charity shop one of the other volunteers would constantly show off about how much money she and her husband were getting per month from their private pensions, how much their bungalow had been valued at, and how much she spent on fancy cruises every year etc. The funny thing was that when we all went out together at night to have a meal or go to the cinema she would be the last person to buy anyone a drink or give a tip, still I suppose that is how she managed to hold onto her stash. Sadly she was very unpopular and nobody grieved too much when she and her other half went to live nearer to her son.

This sounds very familiar and quite common...

petra

Allira

I posted that I was concerned that the Eastern Europeans who cleaned my pool would go home.
Do you have a sauna, a Mercedes and room for a pony too Violet?
😂

The Eastern European who cleans my windows is still here, thankfully. I suppose I'd have to clean my own if I wasn't so rich.

I’m afraid the pony had to go: all that cost of living hooha.
But I’m not giving up the 2 Mercedes 😱

Oh, sad ☹
We all have to tighten our Gucci belts somehow!

When I worked as a volunteer in a charity shop one of the other volunteers would constantly show off about how much money she and her husband were getting per month from their private pensions, how much their bungalow had been valued at, and how much she spent on fancy cruises every year etc. The funny thing was that when we all went out together at night to have a meal or go to the cinema she would be the last person to buy anyone a drink or give a tip, still I suppose that is how she managed to hold onto her stash. Sadly she was very unpopular and nobody grieved too much when she and her other half went to live nearer to her son.

The thing is it's all comparative isn't it.

The person who lives in the rented cottage at the top of the road probably thinks we are rich but the land owner with the triple barrelled surname who lives at the bottom of
the road seems rich to me.

Allira

^I posted that I was concerned that the Eastern Europeans who cleaned my pool would go home.^
Do you have a sauna, a Mercedes and room for a pony too Violet?
😂

The Eastern European who cleans my windows is still here, thankfully. I suppose I'd have to clean my own if I wasn't so rich.

I’m afraid the pony had to go: all that cost of living hooha.
But I’m not giving up the 2 Mercedes 😱