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Breakfast in bed, yes or no?

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Sago Sun 26-Oct-25 07:34:42

I have just read an excerpt from Baroness Glenconner’s book.
It describes how at house parties all the married ladies received breakfast in bed.

It seems a very outdated practice.

I cannot think of anything worse than eating in bed or even a bedroom for that matter.

Now a cup of tea is more than acceptable bit food a big fat NO!

Would you relish a breakfast tray in bed?

Boadicea Thu 30-Oct-25 07:32:25

My partner and I always start the day with breakfast in bed if we're both here.
It could be any time from 5 a.m. to 9 a.m.!
He is self employed and works from home so he can choose his hours. I sometimes still work away for up to two weeks at a time.
Sometimes he makes it, sometimes I do.
For him 1 - cups of tea and Marmite on toast while reading the news on his phone, for me toast and marmalade and a satsuma, three cups of tea and a mug of hot fruit juice (yeah, I know it's weird but it helps me go...) while I check e-mails etc on my laptop and we take our vitamins etc then have a game of Boggle...or two...or three depending on what day it is.
I often do my admin in bed as it's the warmest place!
I sit up and my plate catches any crumbs but I always have to clear crumbs from his side (and sometimes mine!) as he slumps and they go everywhere.
I never used to eat breakfast at all when I was younger, just up and out and eat around 10 a.m. but we value our time together and never get up without have had a really good cuddle.
We both dread being left cuddleless at some point in the future :-(

MrsMatt Wed 29-Oct-25 08:53:23

Me too. Wake up, get up, wash, dress, then coffee.

VerbenaGirl Tue 28-Oct-25 20:25:01

Reminds me of Downton Abbey! I always thought their breakfast didn’t look anywhere as nice as the one the unmarried ladies and men were eating downstairs. A cup of tea in bed is a nice treat sometimes, but I couldn’t be doing with eating in bed. I want to be up and about once I’m awake.

Romola Tue 28-Oct-25 19:17:51

I have a friend who was invited for the weekend with her husband to a very grand house party. Neither she nor her husband knew about ladies being brought breakfast in bed, so they both went down for breakfast They couldn't understand why they were being glared at by all the men having breakfast, until a maid explained that her breakfast would be brought to her room
That was only about 25 years ago.

FranP Tue 28-Oct-25 17:08:16

He is a lark and I am an owl, so I often get woken up with a cuppa and an offer of toast (ignoring the fact that after 54 years, he has not registered that I am not a toast fan, but the thought counts).

My bedroom gets a lovely early morning sun, so a book and breakfast would be really lovely

Esmay Tue 28-Oct-25 16:44:59

Yes please !
I love it !

albertina Tue 28-Oct-25 16:03:29

Love breakfast in bed. First thing I did when I finally retired.

Rasamara Tue 28-Oct-25 13:20:20

When our children were in their teens, the kitchen was often the location of much foul temper at a time of day when I’m best not spoken to… so my lovely DH started bringing breakfast for both of us up to the bedroom. It was lovely to share a quiet moment together at the start of the day. They’ve now flown the nest but we have carried on the habit — and it’s my favourite time of day. In theory we are both reading the news, but in practice DH can’t actually read much because I’m busy sharing what I’ve just read. And we both work so no lounging about! It’s on a strict timetable. I’m up and out with the dog by 6am, then at the piano until 7:30 whilst DH makes breakfast. Then back to bed to eat before showering at 8, and out the door by 8:30.

Works for us! I even manage toast without getting crumbs everywhere. Each to their own of course!

mabon2 Tue 28-Oct-25 13:14:14

Neither tea nor breakfast in bed for me. I like to sit at a table in the dining room for all my meals although I now live alone (widow) and children have fled the nest. Very civilised.

Etoile2701 Tue 28-Oct-25 09:39:24

Not for me. Not even a cup of tea.

tattygran14 Tue 28-Oct-25 09:28:29

When we went on a cruise, I liked to have room service breakfast. DP, or XH
was there to answer the door, so I had the joy of just staying in bed, not having to emerge til I felt like it.

Sasta Tue 28-Oct-25 09:22:32

Growing we all loved a full cooked breakfast in bed every Sunday, courtesy of my lovely dad. Once married I never had another. My husband thought it was the strangest thing and now I’m afraid I do too, having loved it all those years. Always have water beside the bed but no food unless I’m really poorly.

foxie48 Tue 28-Oct-25 09:01:07

Flopsy it's a beautiful part of the world!

Dianehillbilly1957 Tue 28-Oct-25 07:35:16

I'm with Grandma batty, I'm a get up, shower and dress person, occasionally the other half brings me a cuppa and I accept, can't hurt his feelings!!!

Flopsey Tue 28-Oct-25 07:18:52

Foxi48 My husband and I have just had our porridge 🥣 and a cup of tea, and we live in a house on an hill overlooking Great Malvern and it’s nice that visibility is good today.

TillyWhiz Tue 28-Oct-25 00:28:20

Yes! Up to make a cup of coffee first with a biscuit. Then up again to feed the birds and cereal and fruit with a second cup of coffee come back to bed with me.

Arto1s Tue 28-Oct-25 00:05:56

I would love it!! If only…….

sazz1 Mon 27-Oct-25 23:43:24

No thanks as I don't eat breakfast or anything except coffee until midday. I never eat or drink in bed unless I'm really ill and can't go downstairs.

Margiknot Mon 27-Oct-25 22:30:22

I like a cup of tea in bed - where it’s comfortable and warm!
When I was a child we used to help dad make breakfast in bed for our mum on Sunday mornings whilst dad fed us downstairs.

PaperMonster2 Mon 27-Oct-25 22:08:40

I have breakfast in bed at weekend. During the week I leave it until the last moment before leaving the house for work to eat, so eat in the kitchen then.

Pillpopper Mon 27-Oct-25 21:47:00

I make myself tea and a toasted teacake at the weekend, crumbs and all. I love it and would probably have my evening meal in bed, reading my book, if I could get away with it.

WithNobsOnIt Mon 27-Oct-25 21:14:39

Breakfast in bed with lovely food is great in a private hospital the days after an operation.
Especially when the NHS have paid for your operation.

Mojack26 Mon 27-Oct-25 20:51:38

No, never been my thing

EmilyHarburn Mon 27-Oct-25 20:05:35

My morning cup of tea in bed is much appreciated.

Mirren Mon 27-Oct-25 19:48:45

I have had breakfast in bed ( porridge, toast or fruit and yoghurt) plus a cup of tea for many , many years now ( since the children left home.
He worked so many hours for so many years and held the fort with our 4 children so he loves to do this small thing for me now .
I always get up after I have my tea , bathe and get on with the day. It's not about lying in or being lazy