Do you have an adult child who you are more relaxed with?

I relate to my children differently because they are both very different people. As well as their different personalities. one is married with children, the other is single and childless by choice.

But different doesn't mean that I am more relaxed with one than the other. I feel that they both represent different sides of my own personality so I am as easy with one as the other.

I get on swimmingly with my youngest daughter & her family. We holiday together, do things together and live 5 minutes apart.
Middle daughter lives in Oz. We all get on swimmingly too despite the distance and her husband is a saint when I stay for 6 weeks (but I do iron his shirts beautifully ⭐️).
Eldest daughter is different. She has always been insular and tended towards jealousy of her sisters, even now they are adult. We get on very well when her husband is not present and her teenagers are a delight. She is a different person as soon as he is on the scene. He is definitely the catalyst for the discomfort we all (including the rest of the family) feel. Very sad but so long as she is happy with him then so am I, but I’m not sure she is. 😢

GrandMattie, I am so sorry that happened to you. It is surely the hardest type of loss.
I can honestly say I am equally at ease with my son and my daughter. They are both more laid back than me and very tolerant of others, so I think that is very much thanks to them.

grandMattie

Curiously, my late son did too - a gift of grace.

Very sorry.
Certainly a bright star in the sky at night now grandMattie.
🌹

Only have my son! We get on really well & he & my lovely daughter in law always make me feel welcome. They know they & my DGC are more than welcome at my home. Guess I am very lucky!

More at ease with DS than DD. He’s so much more easy going. DD is hard work. Totally different temperaments.

So sorry, grandmattie.

So sorry grandmattie- that’s tough

I am most at ease in my youngest son’s house - the first thing he asks me after we sit down with our cups of tea, is “what’s all the gossip then, mum?””😂. His wife welcomes me - unless she’s having PMT …

I have 3 children

Oops sent by mistake-elder daughter .
We are alike in looks though she's much taller and have the same love of art ,making things,gardening,horses and dogs ie : country life.
Her sister is completely different in looks and temperament and has always preferred her father .
I do try ,but I just seem to irritate and annoy her .
It grieves me .

The DD I thought was most like me when growing up (and a very easy girl) now tends to a bit of sarcasm and has less interest in me and her DD, while the other (who had several problems growing up) is definitely on my wavelength.

Maybe it will all change again!

But basically they are both good DDs.

If I'm honest I have got on far better with my

Yes, so much more relaxed with my youngest and her family..and made to feel more welcome...

I’m relaxed in the presence of all my children. We’re mostly a low maintenance family minus one daughter, but even she is very laid back with her mum. Not as close with one of their spouses as I am the others’ but cannot say we’re not at ease in each other’s presence.

I have 2 sons and one daughter, all of whom I love dearly. However, the boys are so much easier to get on with especially if they are on their own without their wives. Their wives/partners are lovely but somehow they relax more when they are on their own and we have the most hilarious time. My daughter tends to take things very personally and if she falls out with her brothers, it is me that takes the heat but we do have craft interests together so we tend to get on well when we are 'playing'.

grandMattie

Oh yes! My youngest - sadly he died not long ago. He was physically closer ditto emotionally too.

I am so sorry to hear that. 💐

Yes so sad I have 3 daughters
2 live in France (5grandchildten)
1 in Sevenoaks (2hrsndchildren)

Eldest daughter in France is amazing. Welcoming, takes me on holiday and is just very thoughtful
Youngest daughter in Sevenoaks the same

Middle daughter in France (2childten) never ever hear from her or the children!.
Nothing.
Many times I try to build bridges but falls on deaf ears.
I’m sad
Just have to count my blessings that I have contact with 2/3 children

No, because I've just one DC. But I've definitely some friends like this - they're much more "relaxed" to be with, and to chat with, than some other friends.

Our AC are each different one to the others. All have good and bad days, good and poor health, good and not so good spouses. We all get on.

No, I’m fine with all, though I share different interests with each of them. I find it easier to get on with one son-in-law, possibly because we knew him when he was a student.

I have more in common with my younger daughter with regard to interests so go to concerts, events, with her more than my older daughter, but enjoy being in company with either or both of them.

Curiously, my late son did too - a gift of grace.

We have one daughter who makes everyone feel relaxed and can light up a room when she enters. Our other daughters also feel like this. Is a gift that I feel some people have. I don’t have it. And our other daughters have other positives that are equally important.

Oh yes! My youngest - sadly he died not long ago. He was physically closer ditto emotionally too.

When i said 'no' I meant that I am at ease with both, not, not at ease with both.

Yep my middle daughter I think because I saw more of her and had her youngest a lot when she was a single parent we just share a sense of humour.