A thread for the 3 am crew

Hello all. Woke at 4.00 but went to sleep at 10.00 so 6 hours is not bad.. it doesnt feel too cold here upstairs but the heating is on 24/7 for DH....and me.

Downstairs was a different matter. It feels like going into the cold room in an old fashioned butchers! I will click the thermostat down there when I make my next coffee shortly.

I have been scrolling Gnsnet and will now write a To Do list for today and then back to my book.

Morning all, woke at 3.50 so made a cuppa . Why is it when we have a worry it’s always the worse thoughts at night? Things don’t seem quite as bad during the day…as a rule.
Got Pilates later, I usually go by bus but better take the car today as it’s slippery.
Have a good day all…..

Good morning to you all. I’m gratified for the good quality night I’ve had, it that many hours but uninterrupted and apparently dreamless.
Hope everyone had a good day and keeps safe in the cold 🥶

Woke at 2am after going to bed at 12 midnight. Head full of rubbish as usual. It’s cold and white outside. Try again for sleep. Hugs.

Morning JamesandJon woken up and worrying about something as usual but it’s too cold to have my arms out of bed to write much on here
Hope everyones ok x

Morning all, I’ve been awake since 2:30 but no sign of sleep. So I shall read my kindle for a while and try again.
We have to be at the dentist by 8: 30 so I don’t want to fall asleep at 6.
Very frosty out by the look of it.
Take care everyone.

Last night, I woke up at 3 in the morning as usual to go to the loo but managed to go back to sleep. I have started taking Menopace recently.

If I had a bad night, I felt down in the dumps and depressed the next day. If I had a good night sleep, I had the ‘top of the world’ feeling and felt so energetic like a Duracell battery the next day.

My brother and his family from Australia are currently in London and will be travelling up to the Midlands by train today to stay at my daughter’s house. They are hoping to see some snow, it did snow where she lives.

Normally I will be one to host my family from abroad, but since my husband is still recovering from his hip operation, my daughter has kindly stepped up, thank god.

Unbelievable I went to sleep at 10.00 got up twice in the night for the loo then slept till 7.10. The best sleep in months if not years 👍 If only this pattern would continue.

I am going to treat myself to a new pair of secateurs Liaise this month and think of some way of not losing them in the garden. Maybe try and find a leather holder/scabbard? for them so they can go in a pocket. Or on a lanyard.
My brain wanders all over the place in the eaely morning.

Been awake since 5.00 and had a drink. We have been watching the 1970/1980 BBC production of Tinker Tailor and Smiley's People and I Googled the actor who plàyed the smallish part of Nigel Mostyn alongside the wonderful Alec Guinness and found an interview with the actor Stephen Riddle from 2023.

Isn't the internet amazing. The part he played was of a very young and inexperienced man working for The Circus and I half expected him to look the same. Silly me. Now in his 70s, but still acting he looks in his 70s! While he was filming Smileys People in the day he was performing at night in the lead role in No Sex We're British.

And all this information from the comfort of my bed.

Liase My iPad ran out of battery in the night too, and it was so cold it took half an hour to start charging. I really thought it had died for good. I was ready to start panicking

Welcome Sallywally yes 3/4 am is the time for worry and maybe coming fir a little chat will take it off a fraction.
Really sorry to hear about your daughters I think many, many parents get some kind of ‘silent treatment’ or control it seems much more prevalent than I ever knew and of course at nighttime it’s so, so much worse
My daughter and grandson have to do a longish car journey today and I m so worried with the weather and road conditions, and in the middle of the dark, cold night, you start catastrophizing I think I ve gone over every outcome known to man.

Been awake as usual for 3 hours. Having to read this on my phone as I Pad has run out of battery.
Too much thinking time these days. I need to get outside but it is so cold. I can see some pruning needed in the garden but it is too cold to be out there. I spend more time watching tv in the winter and have some good books on my kindle.
Must make more of an effort.

Just noticed this thread. I had started another! Been awake since 3.00, so many worrries, estrangement from daughter, other daughter very cold towards me nit sure why. My son is lovely though. Worrying about cost of food and trying to find a point to my life. I have tried voluntary work, with no success. It would be nice to make a difference. One good thing, the pain from the arthritis in my shoulder is so much better since my shoulder replacement. Clever consultant! I have much to be grateful for.

Woke several times during the night, for the loo, which was strange. But went back to sleep quickly. The light was different so I noticed it had been snowing at some point. Awake completely at 4:25 and have been reading my kindle for a while. A day by the fire I think

Never wake up needing the loo.
Although the pavements were sprinkled yesterday, they were not slippery although it was very cold.

A decent sleep for me tonight.
Two loo visits but back to sleep both times but not now.
It is -4 on my phone and very clear and bright, snow forecast for today.
The paths and side roads are very treacherous as the snow from two night ago has frozen.
Keep safe everyone.

Stubbornly refused to “wake up” in the last 2 hours.
Rubbish, short night full of weird dreams.
It’s going to be a long day.

Not too bad. A few hectic, colourful dreams that were forgotten immediately… and awake at 6:10. Great .

I had another night of bitty, poor sleep.
My friends mean more and more to me. I keep trying to socialise and meet new people though. New neighbours round tonight. They seem nice. Will they become friends? Time will tell.

I have been awake hours.I now only have two friends left from
my twenties, one popped in yesterday and I thought how ill she looked. I keep in contact several times a week and I feel when she goes life will be meaningless. I hope I go first. We have been through so much together and with humour in tge darkest of days. After such a busy life looking after everyone, there doesn't seem to be support for me now. I need to leave this unmanageable house I have always lived in but its been my only constant although i don't know neighbours now as i used to. How i wish I had done it years ago. Turning 80 it seems such a big tging.
Purplepixie, I know how you feel its hard, Cornerstone you describe so well your changing relationship with your friend with dementia is, remembering what it was. Old age is certainly not for sissies. I too gave a nothing day except Iam going to cook a big roast dinner for myself if the joint ever defrosts I will freeze most of whats left, i asked my friend to join me but she doesn't want to come out in the snow and I would rather she was warm and safe at home.

I woke up at 2. I get very cross with myself for napping all night, refused absolutely to switch the light on and slept for another 3 hours!
I agree, an “empty” as MaryDoll calls it can be rather discombobulating sometimes, especially when one lives alone. There is nothing to anchor the day.

Been awake a couple of hours just doing my daily games on my iPad
I hope everyone has a peaceful day I have nothing planned for today and with the weather so cold nothing is beckoning me and I feel quite lost when I have a ‘nothing day’

I’ve been awake for an hour or so, but slept well until then.
I do feel for those on here who’ve lost friends they’ve known for a lifetime, it must be so difficult and sad. They leave a big hole in the fabric of life but also a plethora of memories that will help to buffer the pain.
My DH is also getting slower, his memory is patchy at times but he won’t see his gp and gets very tetchy if I suggest it 🤷🏼‍♀️
I do get him out for the dog walks twice a day but I don’t know how much longer that’ll be. It’s hard when age starts becoming more challenging.
A very frosty start here, thankfully no snow.
I hope we all have a good day and a better night tonight! X

Woke about an hour ago, too comfortable to sit up until now.

I’m sorry for your loss purplepixie, a sad loss and perhaps all the more so at this time of year. I can empathise. My oldest friend from school days, we met 73 years ago, is still on the earth but is lost through vascular dementia. Neither of us have siblings, we were inseparable and although life took us across the country from each other we could talk as if we’d seen each other an hour before. The phone isn’t an option for her now. I’ve not seen her for two years, I miss who she was terribly and try to support her by supporting her daughter as much as I can via messages and phone. It makes me sad there is no one now who remembers the detail of my childhood and generally how life was, the simple fun we had, our struggles and joys.

Early in a new year is always a reflective time for me. I have been looking forward to this new year with some anxiety. Mr C is getting noticeably slower, family changes mean any possibility of immediate practical support in an emergency is unlikely, there is no one close by, the limitations of chronic pain are now getting me down as they haven’t before. It’s time for a shake and to focus on what we can do, not what we can’t. We’re off out today, travelling to see a son, tomorrow will be a planning good things day. There is no reason the year ahead can’t be a positive one.

Time to stop thinking and get back into a book. The darkness outside seems to trigger dark thoughts. A lighthearted book will move me on.

Hope it’s been a good enough night for most here.