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fancythat Tue 16-Dec-25 17:11:43

Ah.
The last sentence may make me say something small and gentle. Or even with a bit of humour.
Else I wouldnt personally.

It is possible she is waiting for an appointment?

Aveline Tue 16-Dec-25 17:05:51

No she doesn't hear me even 1:1 in a quiet room. I always have to repeat myself. It's wearing over tea and a chat.
At a meeting yesterday she had no idea what was going on as various speakers asked questions. It was in public so she couldn't ask for a repeat of a question or a statement someone had made. That's what prompted me to write this post. Surely she must know by now?! I'll not say anything unless she asks me. She lives on her own and has done for years so has no one close to discuss this with.

teabagwoman Tue 16-Dec-25 16:39:33

It’s a difficult one. I started losing my hearing some 25 years ago and I’m not sure how I would have felt if someone had brought it up. Does your friend hear ok when you’re talking one to one in a quiet situation?

Esmay Tue 16-Dec-25 16:37:49

I wouldn't mention it .
People can be touchy when it comes to things like that.
She's probably aware of it .

Grandmabatty Tue 16-Dec-25 16:10:55

Do not bring it up unless she asks you.

Aveline Tue 16-Dec-25 15:58:18

My friend and neighbour has become rather obviously 'hard of hearing'. I always have to repeat what I've said to her although everyone else hears it. In company it's obvious that she's not keeping up with the flow of conversation. DH thinks it's an affectation of hers but I'm really not so sure. She looks puzzled at times. My dilemma is whether or not to raise the matter with her. It's a bit personal. She's younger than me and although we are friends we're not close chums.
What do you think? Mention it or not? If so, how best to bring it up?