Soops Kitchen, a friendly place of refuge

My heart goes out to you all, especially urms as it was so recent.
I think that was sensible grandmabatty as it was what you were used to.
Am I the only person with cold hands and feet, and had the heating on today? I have a lot on my mind, which doesn't help.

My utmost sympathy, FGT; four years down the line I have yet to really cry for DH because if I start I may never stop. So I treasure past experiences, letters, photographs - anything which reminds me of how lucky I was despite missing him so. The difficult last two years of his life have faded from my memory and I can remember who he was for most of our sixty years together. It doesn’t exactly get easier but it does become part of you.

I went traditional, Nannytopsy. Going electric was a step too far for me. My drive isn't close enough to recharge it from home and the electric outlets in town are constantly breaking down. So a tradional petrol car.

Well done Grandmabatty! Did you go traditional or electric?
Love and hugs for all who are grieving. X

FGT 😉

I’m happy, found a local pub that has chairs with arms in their garden, 2 coffee’s and sunshine, MrJ had both biscotti biscuits, he deserves them!
Then we called in to see a friend, stood up for a hug, then sat in the car and had a chat (she was working), a smashing hour or so. Our washing smells lovely too, I'm planning tomorrows outing now.
Well done on your car Grandmabatty I was similarly speedy five years ago, helped as it was a window in lockdowns, I hope you enjoy driving it.
Enjoy this evening if you can Kitcheners

uttb I don’t know whether it was because you mentioned how hot it was sitting in your friend’s garden but when you said “I wish she’d talk about something other than her AC” I immediately thought ‘air conditioning’.

There’s no hope for me today. 😂

Congratulations Grandmabatty on your new car, how speedy was that, most folk would be back and forth several times over the decision.
Happy birthday Hoolahoop hope it is a good one.
I have been to see my friend and we sat in her west facing garden for two hours, it got really hot and lots of butterflies about.
If only she could talk about something other than her AC it would be ok.
I have a chicken breast out of the freezer to cook with a little salad and also a small bottle of Pinot Grigio in the fridge.
A Wednesday treat.
Have the best evening you can everyone.

No flies on you GrandmaBatty! Well done purchasing your new car so speedily. I hope you enjoy many happy journeys in it!

A very Happy Birthday Hulahoop and enjoy your time away!
Good news about your new car grandmabatty 👍
It’s warmed up a bit here, I’ve been out and about at the gym and meeting up with pals, a short rest just now before going out line dancing this evening
There’s lots of friends here with sadness in their lives, a gentle hug and ❤️ to all x

Happy new car 🚗*Grandmabatty*!!

Happy birthday Hulahoop! Have a lovely day

Thank you for your birthday wishes I have received lots of cards and pressies best of all I had a surprise visit from my son and 2of my grandsons we are meeting up with family while away .x

fgt there isn’t a right or wrong way to grieve, just your own way. It’s good that MacMillan can offer counselling, but you get through the grieving process in your own way and in your own time. Although people will tell you that there are several stages to grief, not everyone experiences them all, and certainly not in any kind of order!

grannmarie I know exactly what you mean, especially about finding the joy in life.

granmabatty what a good day you’ve had! And it’s only mid afternoon! Well done for buying a new car, I’m in awe of your decision making.

Happy Birthday hulahoop I hope you’re having a lovely day! 🥂🎂🎉

dustyangel thank you for your concern, I’m being very careful with both legs, I have very fragile skin so am keeping the injured one covered at all times.

I hope soop and her DH are comfortable.
Thinking of all in the quiet corner.

Good afternoon kitchen folk. Today has been a good day. I worked in the school library this morning and had a chat with the janny about learning languages ( I can speak and read Latin, German,French Italian, Russian and Spanish). Not well, I hasten to add! Then I headed to the retail park to buy art supplies. Then I went to a new garage and bought a new car! I've done all the admin stuff and pick it up tomorrow. I'm about to empty it of all the detritus ready to fill the new car with said detritus. Have a good day

🎂🥂💐💐 happy birthday, Hulahoop

Happy Birthday Wishes, hulahoop.

Happy Birthday Hulahoop.

SueD .

Happy Birthday hulahoop 🎂🍾🥂🎉

thinking of our dear soop and her DH, along with all in the quiet corner 🙋‍♀️

Grief is all encompassing, but I always try to bring to mind the following grief is the price we pay for loving 😘

Happy Birthday hulahoop 🥂🎂 have a great time away.

I feel for those grieving, this is the gentlest place to share, with plenty of warm arms, kind words and listening ears. ❤️

Many happy returns, 🥳🎉 🎈🎂 hulahoop, enjoy your wee break!

Dragonfly, I hope you feel better soon, be gentle with yourself.

Dustyangel, I think that's how I feel, it's hard to describe. We talk about DH a lot, sharing happy memories, but I feel strangely detached from things, as if I'm just going through the motions. I know that I'm fortunate with support from family and friends, but I'm finding it hard to feel the joy in life. One day at a time...

Gentle hugs to all who need them.

FGT thank you for your articulate outpouring of your feelings. I’d been feeling as if I am ‘doing it all wrong” just because I’m just mostly feeling numb and very self contained. Brought to tears again today but I feel strangely better for it.

Redcar please be careful of your leg. I ended up spending over four months last summer with twice weekly surgery visits for dressings for a very similar injury to my leg.

FGT it's good you feel you can talk about your grief on here I have always believed you should talk and not try to keep it in.
Dragonfly sorry that you are in so much pain.
Lovely to read about all your mother's day .happenings.
It's my birthday today we are going away for a few days .
Have a good day whatever you you are doing .

Warm thoughts for you all.

A sunny, mild day here, lifting my mood.

I do hope that our dear Mr & Mrs soop are warm & comfortable.

FGT, SueD, & all in need, a gentle hug & x