Why do I feel so guilty?

The days I go to work I m ultra busy the days I stay at home
I m not and don’t feel the least bit guilty
It’s life

I used to be like this but now because I care for my DH full time I will, when I get the chance, sit down before I fall down, and stay there plonked in front of something rubbish on Netflix or Prime and not move again until I have to.
Make the most of some down time because it is later than you think and you deserve it. You really do 💐

I should be finishing my crochet blanket.
However, after two 🍷🍷 I might make a mistake so I'm on here.

Please excuse any O and E.

What’s on tv tomorrow that you would enjoy watching? I think you should have another day of just pleasing yourself and not feeling guilty about it. You will recover from your virus all the quicker if you just rest yourself.

Crazy isn’t it?

I’m glad I’m not the only one.

I have no problem with anyone relaxing during the day and I wish I was able to, I have however had a great day, toasty warm by the fire watching the rugby and sipping tea.

At 75 its dawned that I needn't be ashamed of being seen not doing anything of significance. Yesterday I actually let the bloke returning my car hear I had...gasp! Daytime TV on.

But yes, its taken that long really, I wasnt in this space at 62.

As in - life is to be enjoyed not sentenced to other's "oughts"!!!!

I am the same. I can’t sit down during the day when it’s a ‘work day’. I listen to audiobooks so then I can carry around my phone or put headphones on. I feel so guilty. I’d love to curl up and read an actual book or put on a film during the day in the week but I can’t.
I’m a lot better on a weekend when DH is home too and we relax together.

Oh sago I empathise. I was like you for a long time until I learned that my life is my life and if I want to sit and do nothing then there is nothing wrong with that. Other peoples opinions do not matter. The most recent comment was from the window cleaner who saw me sitting reading and made some stupid comment like living the life of Riley. It was delicious to realise that I absolutely did not give a duck what he thought. (He retired after that visit, coincidentally).

My home was like yours Sago. Sitting down was considered the past time of the idle so didn’t dare to not be doing something! Sadly I’ve never been able to shake that off but it’s not a good trait. I know I could spend 24/7 doing nothing but my inner self forbids it!

You need to rest to recover more quickly.

I still rarely read during the day, not because I was ever beaten or smacked (how dreadful) but because my mother used to tell me to get my nose out of the book and go outside to get some fresh air. Perhaps I feel guilty too.

Being on GN is more like work 😁

mum2three

Yes, I feel guilty if I have a lazy day. Perhaps you need to put up venetian blinds if your neighbour can see into your lounge.....(there you see.....there's a reason why it's called a lounge!)

Our home is very private, the neighbour was up a tall ladder doing his hedge.

I live at the top of a culdesac with a little lane to go to the other side of the ‘View’, as we call it.
Everyone has to pass my house to use the culdesac. 😫
My armchair is by the window, so I have to close the blinds , so that the ‘regulars’ dont see this lazy so-and-so

Yes, I feel guilty if I have a lazy day. Perhaps you need to put up venetian blinds if your neighbour can see into your lounge.....(there you see.....there's a reason why it's called a lounge!)

I'm sorry that your upbringing still has such an impact on your day to day life Sago. You have every right to rest when you are ill, and even when you're not! We don't have to be busy for the sake of being busy. And who says reading a book, broadening our horizons has less value than... I don't even know what. What should you be doing? Scrubbing the grout with a toothbrush?

I have no problem sitting reading. I don't look at it as wasting time as I've learned so much. I can also sit and day dream and don't feel guilty. I think nowadays it's called mindfulness and well being, good for mental health

You have my sympathy Sago I’m the same. On top of the feeling guilty I’m a fidget. No hope for me. 😥

We couldn't have a lie in. Our neighbour would ring (or worse, call round) to check we were ok if the curtain weren't open.

After we retired, I always felt guilty If I had a lie in,I was so used to getting up for an eight am start, and it took me a while to get into the way of getting up when I wanted.

Why is it so tremendously important to be seen as busy? Chatting to some friends who all claimed to be having very busy weeks, I asked what they were actually doing. Turned out it was nothing much, just a spot of cleaning and some food shopping. I just tell them of my TV based plans and they laugh and think I'm joking - but I'm not!

I used to get chased out if I was reading when I was a child. My mum believed that going out to play was more important.
I downsized years ago and my little place doesn't need much cleaning and I don't feel too guilty sitting reading or doing puzzles but it's still there a bit.
You shouldn't think twice about resting if not well. It's what you need to get better.

Budge up …
#lazygran

I spent the long summer holidays reading as a kid (due to the mainly rainy summers) and thankfully, my parents left me to it.
Now as I approach retirement, I'm looking forward to reading, Netflix (and the like) and maybe , a bit of gardening.....bliss!

Even I would have to move if being looked at.

But apart from that, I know I need rest and recouperation. Even in the best of times.

Part of the "bonus" of being ill, is to be able to do next to nothing and dont feel bad about it.

My mother worked full time as a nurse and had few days off. When she was at home, she spent endless days cleaning the house which resembled a show house. One room was for guests and rarely entered. The other, where the TV was, was also rarely used. We lived in the kitchen!

I am the opposite, employing a cleaner and very like Aveline and others. I do a lot of washing, having been at boarding school we had a clean blouse a week and don't mention underwear! I go OTT for that reason I think.

There’s an implication in some of these posts that
reading a book is doing nothing. It is very much doing something! Just as important as housework - in fact much more so. It’s always been seen as a virtue in my family. Housework is a boring if necessary evil.