Why do I feel so guilty?

Thank you, I have stayed put!

I have thrown more logs on and looking forward to the rugby.

My mother will be spinning in her grave…….good!

Aveline - sounds very like me!

I have a friend of similar age to me who seems to find it sinful to sit and do puzzles or whatever and sometimes I wonder if like the OP she was conditioned that way by her mother. I've known her since school and I know her mother was constantly cleaning the house so it could be the reason. (I think she probably thinks I'm a lazy B!)

I get where you are coming from, Sago. In fact I nearly started a similar thread earlier. I came home to find DH sitting reading the paper and watching cricket and was, momentarily, outraged. Then it dawned on me that he is 80, only retired 8 years ago and is very active generally.

Sitting down and doing nothing is a rarity for me but I have no idea why. It wasn't encouraged or discouraged when I was a child - my mother wasn't interested enough.

Hope you feel better soon.

I put James Martin on too this morning, first time since covid also!

I would shut the curtains

I’m with the others! Stay put and enjoy

That’s so sad Sago our minds need stimulation as well as our bodies.
If you’re reading, ‘phone scrolling, mentally preparing the next meal you are not “doing nothing”.
My Father didn’t like my Mother reading but I wonder if he felt threatened that she may have gained knowledge beyond his own. He was not a reader.
Best wishes and I hope you feel better soon.

Aveline

I spend hours and days of my life just reading or scrolling on my phone. I don't feel guilty at all. I'm just an idle besom. I've been busy in the past but I prefer this.

Oh, you and me both!

It's hard to overcome that conditioning Sago even after many years. I am just the same, I need frequent rests for health reasons but still feel the need to apologise to my husband for this. He has repeatedly told me to rest more and often tells me to stop and read a couple of chapters of my book. Why do I feel like this ?
Hope you feel better soon, stay put and give your neighbour a cheery wave.

I too feel guilty if I'm caught reading or relaxing during the day. I was fortunate to have a lovely mum, but the only time during the week that she relaxed was on a Sunday afternoon, after she had cooked a roast meal for the family. So I'm guessing that's where my guilt stems from, although I am getting better at daytime relaxation.

I'm so sorry to read of your difficult and sad childhood, but urge you to try to enjoy guilt free time on the sofa. Hope you feel better soon.

You’re obviously unwell Sago and you shouldn’t feel guilty having to take things easy. I can’t understand being punished for reading!!
I prefer to be on the go - it’s just my way - albeit a bit slower these days, but I do enjoy the odd ‘day off’. However, if I’m at home, I like to watch Countdown. It was awful when I had the builders here, there was no privacy and I’m sure they went home telling everyone I watched tv ‘all day’.

Hope you feel better soon.

I spend hours and days of my life just reading or scrolling on my phone. I don't feel guilty at all. I'm just an idle besom. I've been busy in the past but I prefer this.

I agree, stay where you are. You have a nasty virus, so look after yourself.

I’m so sorry that you suffered so much during your childhood, but try not to let that impact your life now (easy to say, I know, but like everyone else, you are entitled to live your life your way as long as you are causing no harm, which you are not 😊).
It doesn’t matter what your neighbour might think, though I suspect he’s too busy doing his hedge trimming to notice, but if he does, it matters not. Just smile and wave and continue relaxing.

Take care, and I hope you soon recover from the virus.

As I’m typing this, I’m taking a breather with a coffee, if someone sees me, so be it 😁.

Stay exactly where you are! You don’t need to justify having a relaxing day . It is no one’s business other than your own.
FWIW, I spent Thursday morning in the garden, have to pace myself as mobility isn’t great. Planned on doing more yesterday but couldn’t get into gear so I had a lazy day crocheting and watching tv after doing basic tidying up, pot wash etc.
Just had two hours in the garden and now relaxing with a coffee, that’s me done for the day…….do I feel guilty ? No.

Wave and smile nicely at him, but stay put. You are not well. It must be very difficult for you to put past memories behind you in order to do that, but honestly, I’m quite sure you deserve a bit of me-time.