Pretty privilege

ViceVersa

Maremia

It's a question being asked. Is there such a thing as 'pretty privilege'?

Exactly - and I don't see how it pushes those of us who are not pretty into 'victimhood'. I certainly don't see it that way. What you've never had, you never miss.

It might just be the use of language these days, ViceVersa but there are other " priviligeds" eg "White Privilege" being often quoted where " baked-in" advantage is used by the "dis" advantaged to complain "poor me"..... I wasn't born pretty; blond; thin; white whatever so in the area of victimhood.
Nature is neither fair nor compensatory.
I also think that beauty can be in the eye of the beholder. As teenagers the most handsome guy in our group ( a Cat Stevens lookalike) eventually married a smashing friend of mine. Before that he was utterley devoted to a short , plain, plump girl who was " all personality" as they say. He would not hear one word against her and always said , as he should " Well Ilike her.
Do people in general or men in particular still operate like that ? I wonder.

So the reverse means you get treated as less if you're not attractive?
Surely that proves pretty privilege is a thing? Maybe we all do it but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It does and has been proven more than once.

Pretty privilege isn't about drawing people in or being liked, it's being more about receiving above normal assistance, help and service because you're attractive.

Yes it really exists and has for a long time. As a none pretty woman who is friends with a very attractive woman I know 1st hand that is exists and is going strong. Strangely it's not just men either, she has women bending over backwards for her too. We've even tested it out before just to check, on one occasion we both went into a local repair shop her with a pushchair that's wheels were damaged and me with a pushbike with a broken chain and flat tyres. Not too dissimilar to repair...We went into together but not acknowledging each other. She was seen to first, 3 men appeared all very keen to help with the pushchair and offering her advice with smiles and niceties. They said they could do it then while she waited and would take about 20 minutes.
My turn came, one miserable looking bloke came out, told me I'd have to leave it and come back in 4 days. No other help offered, no smiles and just one man.

Another time which didn't start as a test... Her car had broken down and were stuck at the side of a fairly busy road waiting for the AA (or whoever she'd phoned) and as a smoker at the time I was stood near the car, my friend was sat in the car. Now I didn't expect anyone to stop and help but one car did, the bloke asked if I was OK, I told him yes we were waiting for help. Off he drove.
Then we swapped, I was cold and got back on the car, my friend got out for some air. Within 2 minutes a car pulled up, 2 men inside.. Was she OK? Yes. Off they go. Almost immediately a car with a woman driving stopped, then another car, then another.
I stood there for 10 minutes and one car stopped, my friend was there less than 5 minutes and several cars stopped and most offered her a lift home.

So yes, it's very real.

I think kindness trumps so called good looks every time.

As does humility and modesty does for people who want to show off to the world how beautiful, gorgeous and special their child is.

Sounds very. shallow to me.

Like some of the posters on Gransnet today.

Remember. Beauty is only skin deep and looks fade.

I have a friend who has always been a man-magnet due to her looks- she still looks stunning for her age but has been single for years and has no time for the men who still ogle after her, and go on about how they wish they were younger etc etc...

Men and women are often surprised there is no man in her life- though she had one failed marriage and a partner who passed away.

Luckily her friends know her for the person she is and know what struggles she still has.

What a sad world where we imprison people because we can't leave how they look, alone...

It is all very sad

I was not responding to your post, BranduGran
It was to Pix5
It sounded more like the kind of remark a man would make 🙄

🤔

Boz if it’s the same girl presenter on GB News as I think you mean , she has brains to burn as well as good looks. When the pope died she was in Rome over a few days and her reporting was terrific- her breadth of knowledge was fantastic. Don’t judge a book by its cover!
To answer the question a big YES. Beauty draws people in. They want a part of it. I call it the Princess Diana effect. I’ve seen it in action many times!

I was just saying to someone a few days ago that when I was young and blonde people used to stop to help with whatever I was doing.

Now they do the same but it’s ’cos I’m old and grey 😉

I'm afraid it's called natural selection. However very pretty attractive people have an equally hard time of it. They can never quite know if someone truly loves them for them. Or is it their looks? This of course changes as we age... it's then you realise you've given many years to someone/or many who never really knew you. Encourage their confidence in their abilities and teach them to be discriminating regarding who they let in.

I’m short, curvy, pretty when younger with big natural bouncers. Men fell off the curb looking. Men would swarm, but women never liked me.

When my son was young, people,mainly women, used to stop us in the street and give him money. Bizarre.

He judges everyone by their looks.
Listen out, if you can bear it, for his phrase 'Central casting'.

TiggyW

Norah - ‘Yes. Beauty whispers power’.

If that’s true, how on God’s earth did Trump get to be where he is?
(Waste of space).

Does he whisper?

Maremia

It's a question being asked. Is there such a thing as 'pretty privilege'?

Exactly - and I don't see how it pushes those of us who are not pretty into 'victimhood'. I certainly don't see it that way. What you've never had, you never miss.

It's a question being asked. Is there such a thing as 'pretty privilege'?

Everyone is different. Some have looks. Some have brains. Some have bodies. Some are athletes. Some are affectionate. Some are psychos. Some are ….. what’s your point?

For those of you who think you are less than beautiful, you can’t beat a beautiful smile. Even if we are older we still count. To all you people who are beautiful, long may it last.

It's not just your face, it's the hair colour too.
Had my hair dyed at around age 30, from dark to red.
Went out, with the same face obviously, and was astonished at the increased amount of attention.

even though she now carries extra weight it still applies

Blimey!

NotSpaghetti

No. It's what (many) people do.
There are accademic papers on it.
And the reverse.

I'm sure that NotSpaghetti is right in saying this.
But do we have to describe this as "privilege" FGDS.
Some people of either sex can't help their looks and/or charm but particularly their looks and will inevitably derive some benefit from it.
Describing it as "privilege" seems ready to consign to " victimhood" anyone who is not handsome/pretty etc.
The world is not fair. Life is not fair. Gifts of all kind are randomly distributed. Accepting this is one of the first steps in being an adult.
Everyone has to make a fist of whatever they're given and a fist of their life as best they can.
I presume that the thread title is "ragebait" and I elephant like fell into the trap but this victimhood stuff really gets my goat.

Norah - ‘Yes. Beauty whispers power’.

If that’s true, how on God’s earth did Trump get to be where he is?
(Waste of space).

I’m sure she’s stunning like many other girls. How she comes across may help, maybe she smiles a lot and is friendly.

Of course it exists. Always has.