Would you tell her?

Gran22boys

Replying to Basgeti’s comment:
Very, very few older people can carry off the Judi pixie cut and would frankly look a great deal better with long hair!
I didn’t mean older ladies should all have very short hair. There are plenty of flattering short or medium styles. Long hair draws the face down and is unflattering. However long hair pinned up can look very elegant.

Mine doesn’t. It’s very flattering 🤷‍♀️

The Red Hat Society has that poem as one of their flagships.

Recommend the poem When I am old by Jenny Joseph.

I’d keep out of it and if she is happy wearing miniskirts good for her. At her age she shouldn’t have to conform, she should dress as she thinks fit.

Well I expect those of you who are commenting/criticising the style/hair etc of others are ultra stylish with perfectly coiffured hair.

Insta 'What Jane and Beryl Wear'.
They are such fun that they absolutely belong on here.

I've just discovered 'The Ministry of Style' aka Jane and Beryl on Instagram. They're really funny but also good

FriedGreenTomatoes2

I had to look her up Dickens as I’m a curious person.

I think her hair is lovely and it suits her face and is part of her whole persona, but of course my opinion is purely subjective.

Others think she needs a trim. However, I don't see why there has to be a uniform look or fashion in old age, rather what we wear and how we style our hair depends very much on factors like face-shape/bone structure, skin tone, height, etc.

Oh yes indeed. Live and let live and be aware that you might be judged. Such is life.

I go to a group where there is a lady in her mid 70s. She is about 6ft tall and quite portly. She must have been a stunner in her time. She insists on dressing like someone from the punk era with tight leggings and vest tops with her hair piled on her head and Doc Martins. She is well spoken, well educated and has a very active social life. She is very pleasant but when I look at her I think 'You don't make the most of yourself, but that is only my opinion. She seems happy in her skin and is happy with her life. Live and let live.

janeainsworth

Aveline janeainsworth have you?
No I haven’t. That’s why I’m not judging the OP’s friend.
I have no idea why the OP ‘needed to seek advice’ about something that’s clearly none of her business.

Could not put it better myself. Her OP and follow up post said some pretty nasty things. Looking older than her age, not nice slim legs as she had big calves from working out. So what. I think the post was spiteful.

Aveline janeainsworth have you?
No I haven’t. That’s why I’m not judging the OP’s friend.
I have no idea why the OP ‘needed to seek advice’ about something that’s clearly none of her business.

Aveline

I had a boss who was so proud of her long flowing locks. It was a ghastly fright when she turned round and we could see her old face 🙁.

1666 (sixteen from the back, 66 from the front). Actually 66 doesn’t seem that old to me now…

Martha Argerich could do with a trim, I don’t care how talented she is. Also Mary Beard. They get paid enough.

Cossy

Sago

I would comment when she dresses appropriately and really compliment her, stay quiet when she looks grim!

Yes!

I would add it’s absolutely no one’s business how any other human dresses, so unless she is forgetting to put her knickers on or her boobs are showing, back off!

I don’t wear knickers in the summertime when wearing a very long ankle length cotton generous Gypsy style skirt😳💃🏻
Apparently gypsies don’t either, but I’m not one, although my grandfather and mother read cards (before the world and his wife took it up…)

janeainsworth have you?
It must be bad if the OP has had to seek advice on it. We've all seen people in terrible ill judged outfits. It's human nature to notice.

Aveline It it highly likely that others will be laughing at her behind her back.
How on earth do you know? Have you met the OP’s friend or seen pictures of her?

Aveline

It it highly likely that others will be laughing at her behind her back. Not kind. Not kind either to patronisingly praise her sartorial choices.

That's a good point Aveline.

I've seen it. I've also experienced it.

I was in Vienna, it was winter, and I was wearing black velvet shorts with a sweater. The shorts were most definitely not short; I wore them with thick black tights and flat shoes. In the UK, no-one would have given me a second glance, but in culturally conservative Austria, I garnered some disdainful looks. I was peering into a shop window and could see behind me two women - around my age then (early 50s) sniggering at me. It was very uncomfortable and I never wore the outfit again, even though I thought it was a very sober one. Silly me for not observing the 'when in Rome... advice. My OH told me to ignore, said I looked "great", but it's really not nice to be mocked, and I'd want to protect a friend from experiencing that.

If she's a good friend and a nice person I wouldn't give a hoot if she's happy with her look that's all that matters

It it highly likely that others will be laughing at her behind her back. Not kind. Not kind either to patronisingly praise her sartorial choices.

Am bemused why you think your opinion of the way your "friend" dresses is more valid/important than her's.
How would you feel if she told you that you looked frumpy?
It really is none of your business !

Your friend looks silly to you OP but how do you know she looks silly to anyone else?

Deadwitch - good on you, but then they'd probably go on sniggering but behind your back as well.

I'd be far more likely to tell the people who are saying she looks silly to stop being so nasty.

Replying to Basgeti’s comment:
Very, very few older people can carry off the Judi pixie cut and would frankly look a great deal better with long hair!
I didn’t mean older ladies should all have very short hair. There are plenty of flattering short or medium styles. Long hair draws the face down and is unflattering. However long hair pinned up can look very elegant.

Good on that lady, is what I say!

Sod what anyone else thinks, it's her body, not anyone else's, and if she wants to dress that way, then why not?