Does anyone really feign illness to get out of something?

M0nica

MartavTaurus

I've also known several different people who would develop colds or non-specific gastrointestinal problems when something at work was likely to prove stressful.
Indeed, and that's unfair to those who have to take on extra tasks.

Except that stress and strain at work or anywhere, can cause physical problems like this.

I always express stress and strain through my body rather than through my mind and it has included symptoms like an irrregular heart beat, palpitations, migraine, nausea, dizziness, all caused by stress at home or work

Agree.

Royalist or not, it is genuinely concerning that KC is still planning to visit Trump.
Trump is unpredictable and selfish, and the King is not in robust health.

I have known people who lied about their health if they wanted a day off work, or to get out of an invitation.

I have also known people who conveniently have a genuine miagrane or upset stomach when they don't want to do something or other, These people genuinely believe they are unlucky, even although to the rest of us it looks as if there is a phsyco-somatic aspect to these sudden attacks.

Some of course are suffering from whatever form of indisposition anxiety or nerves brings on.

I was brought up never to lie about my health, and belong to a generation that soldiered on through colds, sore throats etc and thereby probably infected others at work.

I was also brought up to believe that once you had accepted an invitation, you had to turn up at the event, however little you felt like it, and that invitations from casual acquaintances could be refused on the grounds that you had a prior engagement, but close friends or family was a different kettle of fish. You turned up, behaved yourself, and left when the first guests started making tracks if you were bored stiff.

Our children and grandchildren's generations tend to make no bones about making up some thin excuse if they just don't feel like going to a party, etc.

When I returned to work with young children an excellent piece of advice was if I needed a short amount of time to take children to the doctor, see the school assembly etc, avoid saying you are ill but blame your car instead. Everyone has car problems and will sympathise and it is almost impossible to use public transport instead.

openheard + open heart.

When I was a kid my sister an I walked on eggshells every time there was a day out, family get together or event of any kind in case my mother had one of her "wobblers" as we called them. Looking back they were panic attacks, probably genuine to some extent. But my mother made an absolute meal of them to get attention from anyone who would pay attention. She did have some genuine things wrong during her lifetime - openheard and kidney surgery. However she treated her stays in hospital as major events.

She would sit by the phone and make sure that EVRERY member of the family knew she was going into hospital. And if you were unobtainable she would RING and RING and RING until she got you. The implication was that you were obliged to visit her. Thankl heaven there were no mobile phones back then and I was in an EU funded job where I could make the excuse of travelling. Or rather saying that I was travelling. My mothers wobblers were part of the reason I deliberately chose to attend a uni in another city. I think I knew back then I would never go back.

I’ve got enough going on without adding more illnesses.
Nothing more boring than talking about peoples ailments, (not people who are genuinely ill) but people who drone on how many pills they are taking, how many ops they have had for the attention, especially whilst on holiday.
If they are lying to the Gp, aren’t they shooting themselves in the foot if they have to buy holiday insurance as you have to declare absolutely everything.

*and has had cancer and chemotherapy.

I don’t think the King has to lie about his health, he is in his late seventies and has cancer and chemotherapy which will have knocked the stuffing out of him. I doubt very much that he is feeling chipper right now. So if he said he didn’t feel up to performing his royal duties for health reasons I would see no reason to question it. They would probs turn to William and Kate to step up or Prince Edward and Sophie.

MartavTaurus

^I've also known several different people who would develop colds or non-specific gastrointestinal problems when something at work was likely to prove stressful.^
Indeed, and that's unfair to those who have to take on extra tasks.

Except that stress and strain at work or anywhere, can cause physical problems like this.

I always express stress and strain through my body rather than through my mind and it has included symptoms like an irrregular heart beat, palpitations, migraine, nausea, dizziness, all caused by stress at home or work

I've also known several different people who would develop colds or non-specific gastrointestinal problems when something at work was likely to prove stressful.
Indeed, and that's unfair to those who have to take on extra tasks.

Munchausen by proxy illness - I had a parent at school. She used to say, B won't be in school for Sports Day next week because he is going to have a cold then.
Very difficult to deal with.

Sago

I have been seriously ill twice in my adult life and once as a child.
As a result I would never feign an illness, it’s will bring about bad Katma I’m sure!

I do however have a SIL who used to do it all the time, she was a nurse and was eventually “let go” as a result.

I also have a friend who has done despicable things re her health to avoid having to do anything.
I am not going to tell you what as it could expose her but you probably wouldn’t believe me anyway!

One could also learn to do the sort of stage make -up that can mimic a disgusting rash of itchy -looking vesicles.

Allira

I think some have misread the OP.

It was posters on Gransnet who were suggesting King Charles should use illness as an excuse for not going to the USA for the celebrations, not the Palace.

Of course he will not do that.

I'd feel I was tempting fate too.

Thank you.

At least 3 or 4 posts on GN.
Sorry I wasn't 100%clear at 3.48 am.
I can't quote them now as examples because I'm at Gatwick waiting for my driver who is delayed.

Been held up big accident onM23.

Sago I would believe you because SIL has done the same. As previously mentioned I think it's in poor taste and I would worry about karma. I don't think KC will fake illness.

I have been seriously ill twice in my adult life and once as a child.
As a result I would never feign an illness, it’s will bring about bad Katma I’m sure!

I do however have a SIL who used to do it all the time, she was a nurse and was eventually “let go” as a result.

I also have a friend who has done despicable things re her health to avoid having to do anything.
I am not going to tell you what as it could expose her but you probably wouldn’t believe me anyway!

I think some have misread the OP.

It was posters on Gransnet who were suggesting King Charles should use illness as an excuse for not going to the USA for the celebrations, not the Palace.

Of course he will not do that.

I'd feel I was tempting fate too.

Granmarderby10

I was pondering on this and frankly thought that the Kings’ recent health issues would have been a “perfect” reason to “postpone”the USA visit.

I agree. However it 's to King Charles'credit that he does his duty even when he is tired and not very well.

I was pondering on this and frankly thought that the Kings’ recent health issues would have been a “perfect” reason to “postpone”the USA visit.

Diarrhoea is a good social excuse that hurts nobody's feelings or pocket.

Petra- I could have written your post about previously mentioned SIL. Migraines always came on at weddings, christenings, funerals, special birthdays etc... She just cannot bear someone else (even the deceased) getting more attention than her. She also uses so called migraines to her advantage. She has to be upgraded to a better seat, table, cabin, hotel room etc... for the good of her health. She also had lots of time of work because of her migraines but then would happily drive off to Meadowhall or similar shopping. I have thankfully only had 2 migraines in my life and they debilitated me for 24 hours and I truly feel sorry for anyone who suffers regularly. I therefore find it in very poor taste for someone to fake them regularly.

I don’t have to pretend, unfortunately. My once busy social life is practically nonexistent now.

They certainly do exist. My ex sister in law was one such.
I was aware of it through my ex husband but the first time I witnessed it was the day of the moon landing.
All sitting there glued to the screen when lo and behold she threw herself on the floor screaming that her knee had fallen out of its socket. All attention on her.
On my wedding day she claimed that her tampax was stuck and the string broken. Naturally her father had to take her to hospital. In later life she bought herself a wheelchair.
When she was in her late teens she had so many hospital appointments her parents were told that she should see a psychiatrist

The OP is joking, seriously if you believe that you are badly inexperienced.

Making excuses to get out of work is rife, favourite now is depression, mental illness, bad back, go to the doctor get signed off without question, its routine HR has to cope with it

I think having cancer is a good enough reason to get out of things, even if you are the King

and as you all know I am a really big fan of the Royal family