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Life certainly isn’t fair….

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kittylester Tue 05-May-26 13:52:36

Definitely, they are your/ones problems so have a much worse impact for you/one.

There are lots of people much, much worse off than me but it doesn't stop me being really fed up when my silly stomach restricts me.

Kate1949 Tue 05-May-26 13:42:51

The fact that there is always someone worse off doesn't make your problems any easier necessarily.

Chocolatelovinggran Tue 05-May-26 13:39:37

Excellent post, Cossy : the same glass is either half full, or half empty, so we might as well enjoy the drink 🍷.

keepcalmandcavachon Tue 05-May-26 13:39:12

A very insightful post Cossy. Life, indeed is unfair and whilst I don't subscribe to life is what you make it as that implies that there are no other influences but your own, but I do think that generally life is what you make of it.
On paper I would tick all the boxes for a very bad outcome in life due to childhood, but the very fact that I'm living an ordinary life is most magical to me!
I find it facinating that some folks only seem to think about the good things that have passed them by and never the bad.

MG55 Tue 05-May-26 13:35:18

💞 Lovely post Cossy 💞
Best wishes to everyone 💞

nanna8 Tue 05-May-26 13:34:49

Good on ya Cossy . There is always, always someone worse off, whatever we are going through. I love my life, always have and I love all my family, even the ones I don’t see much of. Sure they have their faults but who doesn’t? As I get older I can’t do so much and now I can no longer go on long distance journeys to places like the UK and Europe but, well, I have travelled a lot over the years so it doesn’t matter and I can still keep in touch through friends, relatives and gransnet. Always a soft spot for London where I grew up and went to school.

Cossy Tue 05-May-26 13:23:58

MT62

As long as you have all those qualities Cossy you always be a winner 😊

Thank you, I really appreciate that comment flowers

Cossy Tue 05-May-26 13:23:28

MT62

I find we have become a nation of grumblers, (me included).
I try to be grateful for what I have.
Great husband, nice house & my health of course, apart from my knees giving me jip.
I have a friend who is rather well off, healthy but whatever she has it’s never enough, so I keep her at arms length due to her moaning.
At the end of the day we can only eat off one plate, drink out of one cup if that makes sense.

It does make sense to me and I’m
Not always this upbeat, but I recognise this and just try so hard each day not to moan, it’s so easy to fall into that trap and I know so many of here have much worse problems and issues to deal with than me!

MT62 Tue 05-May-26 13:01:53

I find we have become a nation of grumblers, (me included).
I try to be grateful for what I have.
Great husband, nice house & my health of course, apart from my knees giving me jip.
I have a friend who is rather well off, healthy but whatever she has it’s never enough, so I keep her at arms length due to her moaning.
At the end of the day we can only eat off one plate, drink out of one cup if that makes sense.

MT62 Tue 05-May-26 12:52:51

As long as you have all those qualities Cossy you always be a winner 😊

SpinDriftCoastal Tue 05-May-26 12:29:25

When I was younger I used to think 'if I were them I would do'. At 70 I think 'I wonder what they have been through' and try to listen more carefully to other people's stories. We are all pretty much in the same boat to a greater or lesser degree now.

Smileless2012 Tue 05-May-26 12:26:08

A lovely thread Cossy; thank you flowers sunshine

Kate1949 Tue 05-May-26 12:11:03

Oh no life is certainly not fair. I have been through the mill and am just about clinging on, sometimes I'm not sure why. My family has been through the wringer too. Mind you, I think most people have. Of course there are lovely times too.

midgey Tue 05-May-26 11:52:33

Oh my word! I was just about to type exactly this on another thread and thought I had better not. I totally agree with you except for the bit about the sun shining grin

Cossy Tue 05-May-26 11:34:18

But, most people I know are!

Life is not fair, it’s never been fair, there’s always been the “haves” and the “haves not”, there’s always been the “honest”, “the not so honest” and the “totally dishonest”.

We have “honourable” and “dishonourable” people. There are kind and loving people, and unkind and bitter people, and lots in between.

At 67 I’ve learned “life is not fair”, I’ve accepted that, working extremely hard at school, at work and in your own community doesn’t always reap rewards, doesn’t always result in financial security or even happiness.

I’ve accepted the cards I’ve been dealt, lots of people “better off” than I am, many many worse off.

My DH survived a serious heart attack in 2020, he says every day he wakes up now is a bonus, I try hard to count my blessings, not always easy.

Of course it’s not easy, life is often not easy.

But, I pray I’ll never lose my sense of humour, (I’ve already lost most of my marbles, so they no longer concern me), I hope I never lose my compassion and empathy and that I continue to love and appreciate my family and friends to the end of (my) time.

The sun is shining here and I wish you all a good day 🌞🌞🌞 🥀🥀🥀