Ladies would you post on a predominantly male forum on a sexual matter?

Grandmabatty

I wouldn't post about a sexual matter on any public forum.

It could be a personal matter that just can’t be shared with anyone the poster knows but they have to speak to someone.

As I said on the thread itself, everyone is presuming it’s a male poster but why ?
I think he would be using a user name including a ‘monk’ not a ‘nun’
I do wonder if everyone is jumping to the conclusion it’s a man when it could easily be a woman with a wife

Well said nana 8

I think sexual behaviour is something private and certainly not something I would discuss on a public forum. I wouldn’t trust anyone who did.

I don’t feel anonymous here because I have been posting here for some years - though I’m sure nobody knows me. So perhaps this is a poster with a new name making them feel more anonymous .

Good point.

Has it been confirmed that that poster is male?
The user name is ambiguous at least.

I wouldn’t post anything sexual on any forum because that’s just not my thing.

However, internet forums are anonymous for a reason. I understand anyone doing it because the point in that is to get feedback on topics you wouldn’t discuss in person for various reasons. It’s low stakes, non-committal, and can be helpful. I actually find it more bizarre to take any anonymous internet interactions so serious that it can be embarrassing. Nothing/no one here has any real impact on my real life to cause embarrassment. It’s just not that serious, for me anyway.

I wouldn't post on here.

I wouldn't post about a sexual matter on any public forum.

I agree MissA and would think men in general would find this particular issue extremely difficult to talk about with other men.

The anonymity seems to me to be a plus, if someone is seeking advice on a sensitive matter.

I also think males tend not to chat about this kind of issue amongst themselves.

Genuine problems of a deeply personal .... nature are discussed on GN all the time MawsRosie and sometimes of a sexual nature too.

I’d take it further- a public internet site is not the place for genuine problems of a deeply personal/sexual nature.

I had enough of that type of call from callers when I was a SAM - yes they had a problem, but airing it in public served mostly to feed their fantasies.

In my long life I have never even contemplated discussing anything sexual with a man.
It has never even occurred to me that any woman would.
I have heard many jokes about the vulva, “it’s Volvo mother, Volvo” but wouldn’t repeat it in mixed company.
Am I a prude or repressed?

I don't think that makes you a prude Sago but having read and responded to the post you're referring too, IMO he's wanting a female perspective on a difficult and clearly upsetting situation.

Interesting ...
Writing about sex anonymously doesn't particularly bother me as long as it's a genuine post .

One thing that I can't help , but notice that most of my friends are surprising prudish about the subject .

It isn't that I talk about it at length .

But I notice that they certainly don't appreciate a dirty joke .
I related the story of the lady parking her vulva in the garage and I could see a couple prickle with disapproval.

Well, if they came here to get a female perspective on a sex matter it seems pointless for them to join in threads about how many pairs of shoes they have.

if it was their first post and was graphic I'd be inclined to think they were a troll

MissAdventure

Gransnet will stay predominantly female site, if men are treated as suspicious for posting about sex, presumably in order to get a famale perspective.

But if it is their first post, as an introduction?

🤔

Noooooooo!

Gransnet will stay predominantly female site, if men are treated as suspicious for posting about sex, presumably in order to get a famale perspective.

I agree with Sago. I am sure there are specialist sites that may be able to support such a post? Or, perhaps their GP could direct them to a support group?

Yes, if I was looking for a male point of view.

Certainly not. It would feel like trolling.