Calling round later.

I agree. I just carry on as normal. If you happen to be home when and if he calls, then put the kettle on .

A neighbour called when I was out recently. She phoned to tell me she had called. I had not been expecting her so I tried explaining that I do go out sometimes 😉

Turned out she wanted to use my printer. It doesn't work so I sent her to the library.
None so strange as folk.

Me to GG. My awful MIL wanted me to arrive spot on at a certain time - not easy with 2 little ones to get ready. Even saying ‘teatime’ didn’t suit her!! It wasn’t as if she had anything prepared anyway.

I need to know when, otherwise I can’t relax. Preferably after 1pm. 😃

Unless I was going out it wouldn’t bother me.

I like to know . Not that they wouldn’t be welcome but I can’t settle and am on edge , can’t get down to anything thinking they’ll be arriving. (Or not). 😤

I don’t like it either I’ve stayed in two many days waiting. I can’t settle to anything if I know someone is coming.
I always ask now, and pin them down to at least morning or afternoon so at least the whole day isn’t wasted.

Me too GG13 😃

I am just grateful that most of my friends are still here and able to pop round as and when. If I have no other plans, friends are always welcome.

An excuse for a catch up, coffee, tea and/or wine 🍷☕️🫖

I don't like vague plans either. Sometimes people don't turn up at all and then arrive unexpectedly on another day.
I always want to know what later means. Could be 3pm or 10pm?

Send a text as you might have to pop out

drives me spare

I’m afraid I’ve become very anxious and a bit annoyed with “non” plans and random drop-ins.

When younger, fitter and less grumpy, I used to love it, I just don’t feel the same now.

I’d text him.

I should have done that at the time.

I no longer have friends that ‘drop in’ I used to when I was young and it didn’t bother me, but it hasn’t happened for a long time and it would bother me now, I like to know where I am and where I stand.

Presuming you have a contact for this friend, ask him what time roughly, as you have things to do in the meantime.

It's not unreasonable to expect a time stated for a visit.