School Proms.

MissAdventure

I can't for one minute see a school paying £500 upwards for a girl to attendc a prom
Yes, its not necessary to spend that, but young people want to fit in with their peers.

Tickets were reasonable, dresses were loaned, hairstyles and make up were given free of charge. I have no idea where you get your £500 + from. Urban myth?

I can't for one minute see a school paying £500 upwards for a girl to attendc a prom
Yes, its not necessary to spend that, but young people want to fit in with their peers.

It’s heartwarming to see socialist concerns for those who might not be able to join in the festivities of a prom.
When I taught in a 14 to 19 upper school, we made sure that all students who wished to attend did so discreetly with all the required paraphernalia. I’m sure that it is the case in many secondary schools.
Our eldest, didn’t have a prom to attend, but had a summer gathering in the garden of all his friends who were about to embark on life,
But I suppose that was wrong according to those on this thread.

In my DCs time, their rite of passage was getting their white school shirts signed by all their classmates.

They worry me. Seeing my grandsons and their girlfriends going to their proms beautifully turned out made me wonder about those children that don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Can’t help but feel if they’d had them back in my day it would have been yet another thing that I dreaded. When it comes to American things that this country has taken on the only one I’ve got to like is Hallow’een and that’s only because of that Tim Burton film that isn’t even about Hallow’een The Nightmare Before Christmas.

Me too.
As per usual, more is more, it ssems.
The school, too, have rules that parents mustn't take photos, but have to buy from the professional photographer..
I just find it all expensive rubbish.

MissAdventure

Bring back the school disco!

It's just a glorified disco anyway. I have to admit it does not bother me. I just find the one upmanship distasteful.

Bring back the school disco!

There was a prom at the hotel we were staying at. It was fascinating to watch them all arrive .The girls dresses varied widely between very tarty and inappropriate or huge chiffon meringues. Obviously, a fortune had been spent on hair and lashings of make up. The boys were all smartly presented. However, when we looked in to the function suite the girls were rather sadly dancing together and the lads were out on the terrace joshing and fooling around. It was a shame.

GrannyGravy13

One of our GS’s had his prom last night, he took his time getting ready (a couple of hours)

So smart in suit, shirt & tie, brought tears to my eyes.

My son's 41 now but I can remember taking him to the gents outfitters to hire his suit and all the trimmings!

I was also put in charge of collecting the wrist corsage for his girlfriend from the florist 😊

winterwhite

I think the whole thing is a bit hard on boys because the getting dressed and ready is prob more than half the fun.

When my eldest DD left school it was a thing to post photographs of yourself on first and last day at school. At 5 her uniform sweatshirt reached much closer to her knees than her skirt did at age 18😂

winterwhite: That made DH and me giggle!!

Bukkie

Proms are a horrible American import like baby showers. So glad I have two boys and didn't have to bother with the nonsense of dresses and fake tans.

I agree. They are all just trying to outdo each other with the best dress, best mode of transport etc. It can’t be very nice for the young girls who are still in the puppy fat stage and who can’t find a dress to flatter them.

Magenta8

How do single sex schools arrange proms? Do public schools have them?

One of my DCs went last year and they were not allowed to bring partners from a different school.

My dc went to single sex grammar schools which were fairly close in location and did a lot of stuff together , such as army cadets and D of E . The girls would invite the boys to their prom and visa versa . Many pupils had brothers and sisters in each school .

I agree Bukkie they are horrid, the kids, or parents, all try to outdo each other, so they arrive in RollsRoyces, huge Cadillacs, tractors, army vehicles, helicopters the lot. It’s less to do with enjoying themselves than this awful ‘we ve got something bigger and better than you’ attitude
Mine couldn’t wear their mums dresses as there were NO proms when my children went to school thank goodness

Proms are a horrible American import like baby showers. So glad I have two boys and didn't have to bother with the nonsense of dresses and fake tans.

How do single sex schools arrange proms? Do public schools have them?

One of my DCs went last year and they were not allowed to bring partners from a different school.

My Granddaughter wore her Mothers vintage Prom dress , she looked amazing ,

Our eldest GD had her prom this week, it’s a rite of passage these days. She looked gorgeous ( excuse the Granny boast ).
She and her friends went in a vintage Routemaster bus. It was interesting to see how the suited and booted young men still managed to make themselves individuals. Quite sweet of those who had girlfriends wore ties to match the dresses. Ahh ❤️
The money spent on her dress and hair etc. was a small reward for all her diligent hard work over the months revising for her exams.

One of our GS’s had his prom last night, he took his time getting ready (a couple of hours)

So smart in suit, shirt & tie, brought tears to my eyes.

I think the whole thing is a bit hard on boys because the getting dressed and ready is prob more than half the fun.

When my eldest DD left school it was a thing to post photographs of yourself on first and last day at school. At 5 her uniform sweatshirt reached much closer to her knees than her skirt did at age 18😂

I do think an awful lot of money is spent but it’s so lovely to hear that your GD was sensible enough to only spend £10 on a dress.

Our SIL recently took a young man from their village to his prom in his “super car” his family don’t have a lot of money so it was an extra special treat!

He was so thrilled.

P.S.

When I say £500 was spent on a dress, I think it was the parents who paid, not the girl.