Worried about forgetfulness

My late BIL was obsessed with "defragging" his laptop and now whenever I do very similar forgetful things like your experience Alwaysworrying I mutter " you want defragging lady" to myself.

My theory is that it's all there, stowed away in our heads, but it's the recall that's the issue hence, if we could defragg it would create a lot more space to mentally root around and find stuff.

It sounds quite normal, to me.
With friends like that... as the saying goes.
I've got a huge, long list of turning up at the hospital on the wrong day, not turning up on days I should have done and so on.

Dementia, and those types of things are not simply forgetting things, anyway, which everyone does.

It will be the constant worry about your DD or something.
Maybe have a word with your GP, at least to rule out anything serious.

All the best from me @#dozygran

Short-term memory appalling,long-term memory much better,you ask me to name my school teachers and I can name all of them,you ask me what I did the day before yesterday and I haven’t got a clue. 😬

I forget what day it is all the time, on Saturday waiting for the football to start I txt my daughter “r u busy?”I was going to ring for a chat thinking it was Sunday Eve when she’s not working, she txt me back an hour later saying “I’m at work in the middle of my shift it’s Saturday!!”, I KNEW THAT!! 😂

Oh thank you for this!
I’ve been so worried.
My worries all stem from not being around to support my daughter but that’s going to happen whether l want it to or not!

When I was in my early twenties a long time ago I picked up the post and laughed and said “someone thinks it’s my birthday”. It was only later that I realised my birthday was that week.

I sent my SIL two identical Moonpig cards for his birthday this year 😀. He likes both Star Wars and Lego, and they had one with Star Wars figures made from Lego, so I decided to get it. I bought it with a delayed posting date, but in my head I thought I'd just chosen it, and bought another one a couple of days before his birthday.

I told him to put one away until next year😀. Don't worry about it, it's something most of us do from time to time.

It can happen to any of us we've always too much on our minds..

I recently panic-bought and sent birthday cards for two friends thinking I’d almost forgotten their birthdays, which are one day apart from each other. A few days later I realised that my brain was in the wrong month and the cards were a month early! 🙄 🤦‍♀️

Thanks ladies, l am forgetful sometimes but usually forgetting where l put my keys/purse/glasses etc. l think how l would describe it more as absent mindedness. I have been struggling for several years now to support my daughter who lives quite far away with severe mental health problems and latterly physical medical issues, and a very controlling bossy partner whose behaviour can be very challenging. I am having therapy for all of this but still l worry! Thank you for your supportive words

I do things like that often, especially if I've too much on my mind, it comes with getting older we're not as sharp as we were
That's why I've always to write down appointments in my calendar and put stickers on my fridge door. I'm sure your friend has done the same.....she just didn't tell you,

Luckygirl3

Sounds like something I would do!

Sounds like something I could have done in my 30s. Goodness me, you say you’ve got a lot of stress in your life, so getting the odd thing wrong is quite understandable. Unless there are lots of other examples of your getting more forgetful, your friend is being a bit ridiculous, imho. And quite unkind to have you worrying like this.

Well, yes, for instance - forgetting to send a card at all, reading a book for a second time and then, later on, finding out from my reading list that I'd already read it (and hadn't remembered any of it). And forgetting where I'd left my car keys.

But nothing too important, especially when I compare it to my husband's forgetfulness.

I wouldn't worry about it unless it gets much worse.

Sounds like something I would do!

I'm 77 and have done lots of "forgetful" type things from my 60s onwards.
At least you remembered all of the details!!
I expect you will let get loads of replies saying pretty much the same. If you are really worried have a chat with your GP I know easier said than done. Also I would have a chat about being so anxious. Mid 60s onwards all sorts of things could worry you when you often really dont need to.
Things change. You are getting older. Embrace the change. Its inevitable. No sense in staying awake worrying.
I hope she said thankyou twice for her cards.