Bea65 You can message me, or I'm sure some of the other members wouldn't mind, either, if you need to speak privately to someone.
I don't really understand the gist of your (?) problem. There is an elder abuse helpline you could ring for advice, whether its for you or someone else.
Not sure about the context, but if your nearest are hurting you, please make the effort and report. No-one can help you unless you make that first step. Sorry to hear you have chronic pain, do take any pain relief options that you're offered.