Regrets I have a few….

My parents didn’t give us money, I didn’t give my children money. They all worked as soon as they were old enough, DS did a paper round from 13 and both DDs were waitressing from 15 to earn their spending money. They’d all had Post Office accounts from birth and put any birthday and Christmas money in there.

They are all have fantastic careers, have bought beautiful homes, one divorced but two are happily married. And no money in the world could buy more wonderful grandchildren than mine!

Meandrogrog

I regret buying a static caravan on a holiday park while waiting for our new build to be ready. We thought we would still holiday in the static but in reality it was difficult as it had to be rented out to cover the huge annual service charge. In the end we sold it at a loss of thousands. I would advise never, ever buy a holiday home static, they fleece people!

Swings and roundabouts here I think.

My darling late mum and my stepfather (now 94) bought a static caravan on a lovely quiet site in Wesham when they were both 60 and had 20 years of using it to their absolute delight.

They made many friends over those years used to make me laugh as a ‘young ‘in’ in my 50s “This is Tom and Jean/Hilary and Bill’ etc 😊 People I didn’t know but they were all holiday friends together such happy times especially for my mum it gave her another lease of life in her retirement.

Yes. after that I was considered a ‘rust bucket’ (it wasn’t) by the site owners and had to be carted off site at a cost of £500 (then) to them but the ownership and pleasure it brought them both wa immeasurable. 💕

Usedtobeblonde

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Sorry to hear that ordinary girl. I have a similar problem though maybe worse because I want to move to be near to my family 2 hours away. I regret ever moving away to live by the sea. Why is yours impossible to sell?

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Meandrogrog

I regret buying a static caravan on a holiday park while waiting for our new build to be ready. We thought we would still holiday in the static but in reality it was difficult as it had to be rented out to cover the huge annual service charge. In the end we sold it at a loss of thousands. I would advise never, ever buy a holiday home static, they fleece people!

Yes, I have heard similar warnings from friends, they all sold up at a loss and had loads of aggro from site owners too.

We went to Australia thinking DH's working life would be better. We soon decided that,however awful the NHS was, it was better than what was on offer there. And we did get sick of the snidey pom bashing.

In 1986 we were very keen on the idea of emigrating to Australia. We had two young children and thought that life would be better out there. However, ultimately I decided that I couldn’t leave my Dad, who was on his own, I’m an only child. However the following year he met and subsequently married my step mother, who was a very jealous woman and resented my bond with him. By then life had moved on for us, the children had started school and we had a third one on the way, so we didn’t pursue it. Over the years with the benefit of hindsight I have often thought we should have gone, my Dad and stepmother were completely absorbed in each other and he would have been fine without me. Thats about the only thing I regret in my life. We have holidayed there since and I would go every year if I could.

I regret using money my late husband and I had worked hard for and saved, to pay for a mortgage free house for daughter and granddaughter. I don't expect to be forever thanked, but some appreciation would go a long way! Also, if I hadn't done that I would have been able to move to an easier managed home, without, and before, selling my current - too big property! Now, although not poor, it is still more difficult and expensive to cope with my period house and land attached. C'est la vie!!

I have a massive regret in that i carried out my late husband’s insistence that i didn’t tell our children when he collapsed and lost consciousness for a bit. He absolutely promised me that he would see a doctor if it ever happened again. It did happen again ten months later and he died immediately. I will never forget the hurt on our son’s face when he learned about the earlier collapse.

I regret buying a static caravan on a holiday park while waiting for our new build to be ready. We thought we would still holiday in the static but in reality it was difficult as it had to be rented out to cover the huge annual service charge. In the end we sold it at a loss of thousands. I would advise never, ever buy a holiday home static, they fleece people!

I regret leaving the lake district but my DH was promoted and we then had to move south. All that is done and dusted and contributed to the pathways through life, for me and for the AC so all on all, no regrets

Same helped family out, lots of only a loan promised, 10 years later Nothing paid back…
Now and then there’s a fool such as I ….

I had literally hundreds of driving lessons and passed my test on the third attempt but hated it so much that I gave up after a few years (and a few accidents). It just wasn't for me.

We lost a lot of money to a rogue builder. DH just took the hit as it would have been very stressful to go through the courts. It nearly broke me mentally but I picked myself up, took it on the chin and hoped that karma would catch up with him. That was 18 years ago. Now for the last few weeks I’ve seen him and his wife (both looking very happy) as they attend the same new club that I’ve joined. Maybe there’s no such thing as karma after all…..

I regret not staying in our tiny London home longer,the move to the country was a mistake. The London house would be worth a lot now ,it was lovely but not big enough for our growing family.
I also regret not having a better career, putting that last when bringing up 3 children who needed a lot of support following their dad's death at 46.
I'm still doing a mw job at 77 but a decent pension would have been better!
I make the best of it now though x

I regret not working harder in the marriage to my first husband. The 2nd one was not a happy marriage. Perhaps thought the grass was greener. He did not know how to be a husband\family man.

I have regrets about money, men and life decisions. I rarely think about them and enjoy the good times I have now has I know I can’t change the past but I can change the future.

I should have left my first long-term boyfriend long before he humiliatingly left me for someone else.....
But then I wouldn't have flounced off to Singapore to work and it was there that I met my darling DH... everything happens for a reason!

I have a few regrets. My main one is writing two letters telling my boyfiend of over sixteen years that I didn't want to see him again. The second letter was telling him not to come out walking with the walking group that we both belonged to. I sent these two letters in response to telling me that his move to London was a chance of a new life for him.
Having sent these two letters off, I received a postcard from his holiday saying, 'Enjoy your walks with the Ramblers. See you soon.'
So I probably was a bit hasty.
This all happened in 1987 but I still remember it.

The other thing I regret is spending money on books etc for the schools I worked at.

I bitterly regret turning down the offer of post grad study because of my timidity and marrying young for security. I know now that I was suited to an academic life and not suited to marriage!

Peaseblossom that must be a hard stone to swallow as your choices in life now are very much restricted and I can understand that trying to live on a meagre budget must knock the stuffing out of you some days. 💐

Not a major regret but never got to Machu Piccu or Ulan
Bator, and to old to get to them now, but glad that I have travelled to many other places, lived in various places and met a lot of interesting people , have a lot of good memories too

RobertaDanversWalker

I feel deep regret, shame and sadness for the way I treated someone who loved me very deeply. I was young, beautiful, careless with people and had no thought about how I was hurting someone. He was totally heartbroken and this torments me, even though it was decades ago. He didn't deserve it, and I was heartless.

I have this regret too. I met somebody but chose my now husband over him as he was undemonstrative, inexperienced and uncertain. I didn't handle our break up well and have always felt bad about it.
I went to his 75th Birthday a couple of years ago and he told me that I was "the one who got away". Though he did marry I know he wasn't very happy, and he never had his own children, just step children. He died last year.
I wonder if I had been kinder and handled it better whether he might have had a happier life.