When you are so incensed and find your inner bravery!

My first training was as a nursery nurse so I was well used to managing children’s behaviour . I am rarely cross but when I am you know about it!

Two friends and I (also nursery nurses) went out for the day using the train. 2 children were after a while, running riot in our carriage. Their parents sat at the front taking no notice, they had their feet up on the seats,( another thing that annoys me) The children proceeded to come to the seats behind us, stand up and swing on the headrests. I turned round and said quietly but very firmly “SIT DOWN AND BEHAVE “ . They looked at me and did just that. Their mother turned around and after she saw my face did nothing. My friends thought it was hilarious but I had had enough!

“Sago

Ginnytonic5
Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )
It was me that responded to DaisyAnneReturns with there we are then.
Not Cossy“

I don’t think you sound angry with everyone, any more than me, or indeed anyone else on this thread and many others.

Is there something in the air today?

Or as one person asked me a couple of days ago, in the water supply.

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SueDonim

‘Eating the face off someone’ has an entirely different meaning in this area! Very saucy!

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Ginnytonic5

Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )

Actually I’ve just gone back and checked and it wasn’t even me that said this in a reply,

Perhaps be more careful whom you quote moving forwards?

Ginnytonic5

Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )

I’m just amazed you’ve written what you have done 1) I’m not angry at everyone and everything and 2) I am one of those who has never ever heard of this expression meaning this.

I’m quite easy going but I’m also quite blunt, if I thought someone was a T**t, I’d probably tell them so? Though possibly not as rudely as that.

I was just reminded of an occasion very many years ago. There were three of us who were very involved in music and went to concerts together, as we knew that there would be no rustling papers or mutterings in our group. One lady was a small, always neat and tidy and very quiet person, and she rarely ever got annoyed with others. But on this occasion we had saved up and went to see an opera. Seats were good and all was going well, when the man in the seat in front of her, started shifting about and then muttering and sounded as though he was getting sweets out. She suddenly leaned forward and hissed in his ear"Be Quiet!" and sat back. My other friend and I looked at her in amazement, but the man did stop what he was doing, and the evening carried on. It was so unlike her that at various times we used to recall the occasion with a "do you remember" She would hate it these days with all the phones and rustling going on!

Well said Whiff not seen you for a while nice to see your still around.

In a hotel beach bar recently in Turkiye, no other people waiting, as a woman of an age, the barman was ignoring me refusing to serve me, stood with his back to me for a long time, whilst aware I was waiting.

Because I’m a woman (if my companion stood next to me I was served straight away)

I put my phone on the counter with the “timer app” running - displaying the minutes/seconds….he turned around and looked shocked - as I gazed evenly at him with no expression.

I’ve resolved to use the same strategy anywhere that I’m being ignored for long periods (for no reason) now.

I read it as similar to "tear a strip off" (someone). 🤷‍♀️

SueDonim

‘Eating the face off someone’ has an entirely different meaning in this area! Very saucy!

Yes I guess it could be misconstrued!

It’s a phrase I was brought up hearing, I’m Irish.

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The phrase "to eat the face off someone" (or "eat the face of someone") is a common piece of Irish slang. It has two completely different meanings depending on the context:1. To Scold Someone AngrilyIn most everyday contexts, it means to verbally attack, lecture, or furiously scold someone.

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Dylis well done. It was a travesty closing the LD day centres. I used to be a visiting service at lots of them locally. They provided exactly what you described. Now with so called individual budgets I see LD people trailing listlessly about town with 'carers' glued to their phones. Really sad.

‘Eating the face off someone’ has an entirely different meaning in this area! Very saucy!

Several years ago my local council was holding a public consultation meeting about the closure of a local day centre for people with learning difficulties. The centre was wonderful, clients enjoyed activities, lunch and were part of a community. It gave people a daily structure, company and access to services and also respite for family members
The council had decided that those with learning difficulties should have individual budgets to buy their own services.
The meeting was held at lunch time on weekday, just before a bank holiday. The cynic in me had already decide that this was to ensure a limited attendance.
A gentleman from the council stood up with a presentation expounding on what a wonderful scheme this would be. I sat on my hands for as long as possible until I had to say exactly what I thought.
I am very shy but got up from my chair and asked exactly where these services were that people could buy into. He looked agitated and after lots of whispering with colleagues announced that the free market would produce opportunities when the centre was closed and the scheme passed. I also said that the consultation was a waste of time and the decision had already been made. This encouraged others to voice opinions and it became obvious that no-one wanted the centre closed.
Sadly, I was correct and the day centre was closed within six months.

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I ate the face off him! He avoided me for over 10 years
Along with telling someone to “roast in hell” such examples of what the young call “losing your shit” is nothing like the same as inner bravery which is often much more quiet determination in the face of adversity.

I think the bravest thing I have ever done was to reject recommended medical treatment and ask for a second opinion.

And then refuse to leave until the second doctor had read all my notes, including the ones I provided and really listened to what I was saying.

I know people do it all the time but it was a big deal for me. I’ve always been in awe of “the doctor” and accepted what I was told.

It’s the reason I’m still here.

ApologiesImarocker not aimed at you.

I think that is ridiculous.
You’re lucky you kept your job after such a tirade. I can’t see why it was appropriate to bring up menopause or any personal medical details in what was a simple ‘passing the time of day’ type comment. Nobody wants chapter and verse especially when subsequently told to ‘fry in hell’ or whatever.
Years ago when teaching I stuck to the old adage ‘Lose your temper, lose control’
Plus, people can look so stupid and funny when they’re losing the plot. Not the intended effect!

I was 9 and the very first Asian child in our school was in our class. The teacher started to tell her off for something and I stood up and told her that the girl was innocent and she was picking on her because she was a Sikh. Strangely there no repercussions.

Ever since I was a baby, and I'm 61 now, I have always hated summer/sun/heat, can't abide it. It makes me physically ill and causes menopause and period problems.

A few years ago, at work during a heatwave, our manager and assistant manager were both off sick at the same time, for different reasons, not related to the heatwave, so the manager asked me to step in as the temporary manager, and I appointed another member temporarily assistant manager.

When the real manager/assistant came back a few days later, the manager was so pleased with my work that she asked me to travel to another place to act as the assistant manager of another one for 3 days.

I was standing there, swimming in sweat, thumping headaches, etc., and the district manager, who worshipped the sun, came in and said ''I bet you're loving this heat as much as me''. I politely replied ''No, I hate summers, it makes me ill, and also it's making my menopause far worse''.

He then said condescendingly and patronisingly ''You're being quite selfish and only thinking of yourself, and surely it won't affect the menopause, it would make it better''.

OH MY COD! I ABSOLUTELY LOST IT ON HIM!

I BLASTED him there and then and said what the bloody hell would he know about the menopause and how heat affects female bodies?

Then I told him to go and ''fry in hell'' and walked off, so angry I was physically shaking! He suddenly disappeared into the office and slammed the door shut, where, thankfully, I didn't have to see the freak for the rest of the day, and he wasn't ''conveniently'' there for the other 2 days either!

When I got back to my actual workplace, I told the manager/assistant what had happened, and they were both killing themselves laughing! They'd both had the misfortune of having to deal with Mr I-Know-How-To-Be-A-Total-Gob over the years, and they hated him too!

I am not sure it is "inner bravery" with me, more like simmering anger ready to erupt if I see bullying or cruelty going on. I know this sounds as though I think I'm Batman but I just can't stand by and watch gangs picking on one man or people hitting their children or dogs, for example.

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DaisyAnneReturns

I'm not sure becoming "incensed" is something to get proud of.

If there is a genuine reason for it, then sometimes that's exactly what is needed!

My difficulty isn't with 'becoming incensed' specifically. I don't think 'getting angry' is much of an improvement. If the aim is to persuade or resolve a disagreement, becoming angry, however it's described, rarely helps. It's usually more productive to remain calm enough to listen as well as to state one's own position. If the only object is to make someone more sympathetic to your point of view then this won't work in most cases.

My bravery surprised me one night in the cinema.
Sitting at the end of the row the chatter of some women half way along the row from me was annoying. I thought it would stop when the film began but no, they chatted on.
I got up and went along to where they sat and simply said’ I paid to come in here to watch and hear this movie so if you lot don’t want to do that why don’t you go and talk outside’
Before they got a chance to respond I went back to my seat. They were quiet after that and my friend was gobsmacked.
Am not one for any confrontation so I surprised myself that night.
Maybe the cost of the cinema ticket was enough to unleash my anger.

Ginnytonic5

Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )

It was me that responded to DaisyAnneReturns with there we are then.
Not Cossy