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valdali Thu 16-Jul-26 11:58:12

I think I'd not go.
When I've had these instant dislikes, it's turned out to be mutual & some people are stirrers & if they don't like you they'll be causing trouble. (not saying this lady is, but still)
Could you meet up with one or two of the others if there's something on you know they might enjoy?
Or go but keep your head below the parapet by not saying a lot.

Astitchintime Thu 16-Jul-26 11:57:21

I’d keep going……I wouldn’t let anyone’s presence make me feel that I had to withdraw.
Just try to avoid sitting close to her and don’t enter into any personal conversations, there’s lots to chat about without revealing private stuff surely?

nanna8 Thu 16-Jul-26 11:54:03

Keep with the group and avoid sitting next to her. Just be polite. I trust these instincts, they are given to us for a reason and I’d bet my bottom dollar you are not the only one in the group to sense this. Keep quiet, though, not nice to gossip.

Cossy Thu 16-Jul-26 11:52:01

Yes, keep going for a few more sessions, sit near someone else and give this lady a chance?

Sometimes first impressions aren’t always right.

Worry about it all when you’ve got to see a little bit more of her, but don’t leave a coffee morning with people you enjoy and don’t even begin to suggest “getting rid of her” grin

Good luck thanks

Aveline Thu 16-Jul-26 11:49:29

I know it's unreasonable but a new lady joined out little coffee group and I just don't like her. I tend to go with my gut on these things and it doesn't happen often. I don't know what to do. I actually avoided the group today as I just didn't want to have to talk when she's there. We often talk about family and problems but I don't want to share them with her.
What should I do? Just withdraw? I really like the others and would miss them. If I tell them I don't like her that's pretty mean. Any ideas?