It is early days for me I know.. And I am keeping a lot of things I know our DDs will want or at least be offered. I am sorting things for this winter DDs won't want the thermal vests and long johns, but someone will. DH would be pleased.
When we donated cash for Crisis at Christmas it pleased us both that Crisis did and does so much for homeless people especially at their Christmas event. If I find that Crisis have a drop off point or collect then I may use them for the box of warm stuff I have packed up this morning with a cup of coffee.
I have 3 empty drawers where all the dvds and cds we have watched and listened to during his long illness are now stored.
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(22 Posts)I offer my sincere condolences. Sending hugs.
Thank you BlueBelle. The shed is full of stuff and we also have an unused bicycle. That will be my project in the Autumn.
I will look them up and note their details.
Another sorry to read of your sad news HelterSkelter1 💐
As others have said it’s early days and be kind to yourself.
I was surprised when my Sister in Law had donated all her DH’s clothing before his funeral. However, I’m now stuck with quite a bit of my DH’s stuff as both DDs claim they want some bits and bobs to turn into memory bears, but we’re 5 years down the line and they’ve still to make any choices! Fortunately, I’ve room to store, but I took all the heavy clothing to a local charity shop and other stuff dropped off in the SA bin at the local Co-op.
As the saying goes ‘you do you’.
Helterskelter can I add one more thing If you have to sort through other stuff like your husbands tools etc a wonderful charity is TOOLS WITH A MISSION or TWAM they are countrywide and collect tools, bikes, sewing machines, which they clean and repair (if necessary) and send off to less well off countries to get people started as a way of supporting themselves or even just forvgetting around They have always come and collected the next day for me and I believe a very very worthy cause
Can you remember the name Fartooold
I gave most of DH’s clothes to a refugee charity, and his much loved bicycle!
So sorryHelterSkelter that your DH has died, stay strong and take care.
I can't help with your query HelterSkelter but I wanted to offer you my condolences on the loss of your dh.
Thank you I have a list of names now to contact next week. BHF, Salvation Army and lastly Anglo.
Thank you everyone. I won't tire myself out. This is a bit of mindless occupation. There is a lot of stuff which wont go for a long while, but the warm winter thermals etc will be of use. And one heavy padded coat, an anorak and a leather jacket would keep someone warm. Summer stuff will stay.
I do have a small bag of light stuff with some of my things which I will drop off at our hospice shop in town when I wander along for a little food shopping. I am lucky it's close. But some things of his I don't want to see in their window or on people's back here.
I use them all the time. Very convenient.
Valdali I have several pieces of Ercol. Tables and chairs, sideboard and others. All lovely and still used. My mother's pride and joy bought in the 60s. So I feel your pain at it being rejected.
I still love the pieces although the chairs have never been very comfortable for a long meal!! They were beautifully made.
I found Anglo good, prompt & pleasant.
The only furniture place that collects direct for charity shop around here refused my table because it didn't have matching chairs - it was an Ercol complete with sticker to prove it & in good condition. I'm using it as a garage / workshop table now, bit of a waste but it's useful.
So sorry to hear this news Helterskelter.
The British Heart Foundation will come and collect items as do some other charities. The Salvation Army also collects in some areas. All details are online.
It's very early days so do be kind and gentle to yourself.
Really sorry to hear your news Helterskelter💐
Do what you can and what feels best for YOU …all I will add is that these commercial companies like the ones that so infrequently collect from the clothes ‘post boxes’ dotted around (and rarely emptied) are for commercial gain and a lot of the stuff does end up in landfill overseas which is burdening other countries a lot
Some charities will collect it might be worth asking if they will collect or just take a little by little or ask for help from a friend or neighbour
Rather good quality clothes go to a good cause for the homeless or any other charity, than end up littering a poor country, that hasn’t the resources to get rid of it. I have seen photos of children trying to sort through literally a man made clothes mountain with the flies and birds whizzing round waiting, it’s a horrible sight and you don’t want to think of that for your husband clothes
Thank you NotSpaghetti that's very helpful. I may still go with them for the bulky stuff as collection of that is the priority.
But will ring the Salvation Army on Monday as there is a branch a couple of miles away where I could get clothes delivered by a friend who goes that way frequently.
I would rather stuff was distributed more than commercially sold as the items are serviceable and good quality.
I will look into Crisis as well as see what they do in the way of collection points.
Thank you everyone for your sympathies.
MayBee70 yes I remember the name from that thread too.
I can have a large box to hand and just do some sorting as and when I feel I want to. It seems you book a collection and can leave it in the porch. Which will suit me fine. It's the heavy bulky winter stuff which would be of use to others ready for the winter months and would just give me some space and something to do while I let my mind settle down this weekend.
If convenience is your top priority at a difficult time Anglo Doorstep Collections is a business that ensures items are kept out of landfill and will generate some money for good causes.
They don't make clothes available for the needy - they collect free second-hand items, sell them commercially (usually in bulk) and often export them in bales to international second-hand markets for retail sale overseas.
They allocate a (small) portion of the profit to their partner charities. Whilst a small proportion it of course is money the charity wouldn't have if they hadn't partnered with the business.
If your goal is to make a real contribution to a charity, then dropping items off directly at a local charity shop means they will have 100% of the proceeds.
Some charities do have clothes banks for people in need too. The Salvation Army for example helps people via their "lifehouses"
You could give them a ring maybe?
High-quality items are sold in charity shops will raise money for your chosen charity though.
I would do your quiet sorting and bagging and, if you can't face it, ask someone else to drop them off at a charity shop.
I am sorry to hear your sad news.
Both my mother and my mother-in-law found some comfort in supporting charities who had a link with my father and my father-in-law.
Mum liked to think that the money raised went to a particular heart charity.
I think I feel like this.
If you are overwhelmed though, please don't add to your pain and do exactly what works for you.
So sorry to hear this HelterSkelter1. Anglo were mentioned favourably on another thread recently ( I made a note of the name because of it). I’ll see if I can find it.
“Please don’t be worried
Helterskelter I can’t answer your question but wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss. Please be worried if you start to do this and then find it’s all too much for you at such an early stage, when things are still very raw, which is what happened to me. I know we are not all alike in the way we deal with our grief, though. Be kind to yourself.
Has anyone used them or know about them? Genuine and clothes would go to people in need?
Sadly DH died this week and I have warm winter clothes to sort which for today wil give me something to do quietly after a stressful week
Thank you.
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