Doodledog
My MIL is in a care home. She has no dementia, but is very frail.
It's hard. She is in the right place, as she couldn't manage at home, and is adamant she doesn't want us doing personal care, so I don't know what else would work, but it's so difficult. The staff are lovely, on the whole, and do as much as they can, but it's hard to think she is getting anything like the care she's paying for. I don't know where the money goes, as the staff won't be earning much.
I ca't be objective about it just now, but I do think the system has to change, and I would like to see social care go back into state hands.
I agree with your last sentence. We had some brilliant purpose built care homes around here which were modern, light and airy, well staffed and with great food and rooms. All the large towns had such a home run by the County Council.
Staff received regular training, were smart and polite and were held in high regard. Families were happy with their loved ones care. Now there are so many independent care homes and they are making loads of money while scrimping on care, training and facilities.