Ignorance is no excuse

Well it’s true, my Mother who worked all her life and paid tax was in a nursing home paying £1000’s a week, I had to sell her home to pay for care.

In the same home were residents who paid nothing.

So it does often seem unfair.

I know from personal experience that inheritance tax and paying for care take a huge whack out of any money your parents want to pass on. The more you earn and save for the future the more "They" take. Being careful with your money is not rewarded when it comes to inheritance.

Of course it is up to us all to take personal responsibility to keep ourselves informed. When we/I don't do that then basically we/I just have to get on with it.

Yes it is unfair the lady’s right, I remember years and years ago I used to visit an old friend in a care home and he said, that lady next to me came in with no savings, no money, I ve saved all my life, two good pensions she pays nothing, and they take all my money and I get a couple of quid ‘pocket’ money a week
The lady’s right it is very unfair

I love asking that question - “Who is ‘they’”?

Sadly it’s true. Mum’s care bill was horrific and we did have to sell her house.

As for the title, ignorance is no excuse,

not knowing or not having been told was used as an excuse by KS recently. Maybe he should read GN.

Magenta8

I know from personal experience that inheritance tax and paying for care take a huge whack out of any money your parents want to pass on. The more you earn and save for the future the more "They" take. Being careful with your money is not rewarded when it comes to inheritance.

Yes.I agree that it's true.

My mother died within the seven year period of gifting me a substantial amount, and as the recipient, I had to pay the excess tax. I do understand that that's the rule, but because I was just out of education at the time, and had never had a father in the picture, I thought "they" were unfair to take what I saw as rightfully mine!

It was complicated because, although a single parent, my mother had worked all her life, paid all her taxes and never claimed benefits. As my absent father worked overseas he had never paid her stamps so she did not receive her full pension when she retired.

It seemed to me "they" take from you all the time, and it has made me very wily at legally avoiding tax throughout my own life!

Yes. This is so true. Where I live I gave up my job to look after both my parents for many years doing everything for them. They were ambulant but very frail and my mother had dementia and cancer and could be quite difficult. As my father became a care home case, we found a lovely one near by at the going rate but by that time I was exhausted so I was actually ready to sign away his savings and house to cover the fees. He died very shortly afterwards but it was a legal and medical nightmare navigating all the paperwork and left me short on my pension as I could not pay the full amount in to get the full amount out. The money I did inherit has been put into an account to pay for my old age so my offspring don't need to go through what I went through.

Woman in sheltered housing was sent there by the council and paid nothing.Drank a bottle of gin every day and stole things from the lounge 😨

I am mindful that I am fortunate at this stage of my life, to not have any financial worries and to be able to help children and grandchildren.

I am also mindful of not leaving them with an IHT burden, which is administered in such a Catch 22 manner.