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Are you a Giver or a Taker?

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MawsRosie Thu 04-Jun-26 11:42:50

I’m sure we would all like to think of ourselves as ‘Givers’ as it is clearly the better thing to be - but isn't it also sometimes easier to give than to take -or accept graciously? And harder still to ask?
I have some dear friends who are clearly Givers and I am eternally grateful for their kindness.
There are also some who sadly are Takers, but such good company that I can be happy to ignore the fact that I am always the one to suggest, invite, make the first move.
So I reckon I am a Giver, happy to help in an emergency, make chicken soup for a friend with flu, go shopping for one less mobile and offer to drive if friends are meeting up.
Is kindness its own reward?
And it’s hard to ask the occasional favour of Takers eg being driven to a hospital appointment when told not to drive, ask for a lift to the station because the parking is impossible.
I know they will help if they can and maybe don’t ever see the problem but it’s so much easier to offer than to ask, isn’t it?

AGAA4 Thu 04-Jun-26 11:55:54

I agree. I find it very difficult to ask for help and have been told off by friends for struggling on when I was ill.
I'm probably more of a giver as I have helped people in different ways over the years and won't ask for help which is silly really.