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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Fri 14-Feb-14 16:51:26

How do you feel about getting older? Whether it's a pet peeve or, equally, something you like, let us know (in no more than two sentences) and you could appear in a brand new novel.

Pan Macmillan publishers want to get a snapshot of real women’s feelings about ageing. A selection of these will be included in the new book The Time of our Lives by Sunday Times Top Ten Bestseller Maeve Haran.

You might remember Maeve as the author of 90’s smash hit Having It All, a novel that sparked huge debate about whether women could work and have a family, and much more besides. As well as being a brilliant read, her new book is about four friends in their early sixties, and the new issues they face, twenty years older than the protagonists of Having it All.

Everyone who posts a comment will be entered into a draw to win one of 20 exclusive early reading copies of The Time of Their Lives, and everyone whose comments are used will be entered into a draw to win a luxury forest cabin break for four people – details HERE.

We also have an exclusive extract from the book which you can read here.

cookiejar Sun 23-Feb-14 20:07:51

Getting older is like preparing my trousseau ... everything seems to land in my bottom drawer, even if it doesn't belong there

cookiejar Sun 23-Feb-14 20:05:30

Getting older seriously sucks- such a shame liposuction doesn't take it as seriously as I do!

cookiejar Sun 23-Feb-14 20:03:18

Getting older seriously sucks -such a shame liposuction doesn't suck as seriously ;)

marieingham Sun 23-Feb-14 19:50:28

I do feel more confident as I've got older, especially talking to strangers. But when it comes to being noticed, once I got passed 49 I felt invisible. Love the wisdom and patience but hate the tiredness.

Antymags Sun 23-Feb-14 19:35:28

Being retired means there is no time to work. Busy busy busy.

MissisG Sun 23-Feb-14 18:31:24

I find it strange that inside I still feel 18 - I love rock music, football but my body sometimes lacks the energy of my mind!

clairesen Sun 23-Feb-14 18:18:05

I enjoy looking back on the things I've done and decisions I've made in my life when I thought I knew it all. Now I have the wisdom and experience to be able to look back and laugh. I don't regret any decisions I made, as things could be very different now...and I'm very happy.
I'm grateful for what I have and know who I am.

Knowsley Sun 23-Feb-14 16:34:44

Last month I got my free bus pass, which pleased me greatly. My father and two uncles never got to claim theirs.

mikbecfly Sun 23-Feb-14 16:10:13

I don't mind getting older at all, in fact I welcome it. Since I hit ' middle age' I have found that I have become more confident in the person I am, and the person I want to be! I am much clearer in my expectations and more likely to speak my mind, which has been very liberating and, best of all ........ I am yet to turn into my mother!!!

contrarymary Sun 23-Feb-14 15:58:55

To me, getting older has meant getting grandchildren who keep me young!!!
sunshine

happytraveller Sun 23-Feb-14 15:19:47

It's so easy to get sandwiched between caring for a (difficult) elderly parent and babysitting my gorgeous grandkids. I'm finding it hard to relax when I have 'me' time

cookiemonster66 Sun 23-Feb-14 14:41:29

I dont recognise my face in the mirror anymore, inside I still feel young and think I'm still in my 20's, only the body lets me down! Lucky I have a toyboy to keep me on my toes!

HMHNanna Sun 23-Feb-14 14:36:04

I waken up and I'm an OAP. I close my eyes and I am four years old kicking the autumn leaves around in the park. As long as my mind behaves itself, I can be any age I want to be.

julie2h Sun 23-Feb-14 14:33:29

I forget about my age until I read an article describing a middle-aged woman and she is younger than me! That bothers me so much more than a few aches or another wrinkle.

carow48 Sun 23-Feb-14 14:04:23

I've found age very empowering, confidence grows and 'embarrassability' diminishes!

mphammersley Sun 23-Feb-14 13:58:03

After a recent knee replacement and discovery of a heart problem I am feeling a bit older and definitely more vulnerable.

My plan is to balance all the hospital appointments on calendar, with more exciting, fun and joyful things for the rest of the year.

grannygrunt Sun 23-Feb-14 13:26:37

I have always felt younger than I am, but I am terrified of being old and unable to do things for myself. I hate the thought of not being able to get about, play with the grandchildren and potter around in the garden.
I believe in God so I am not afraid of dying but I am already really worried about the time leading up to my death!

xhale Sun 23-Feb-14 11:36:17

As I get older I think a lot of pressures of what you must look like and what you should be wearing are lifted and I feel that I don't need to do it! It is very liberating and I feel happy to be myself, even with all my faults.

compcarol7 Sun 23-Feb-14 11:31:56

Suffering from sciatic nerve problems with very limited and painful mobility, I feer this as i get older.. not the grey hair coming, gravitied body.. just pain and being unable to do as much. I am determined to overcome and make the most of my future..

Lyndysim Sun 23-Feb-14 11:22:03

I'll soon be 21 again (x 3)!! I wish my joints would feel the same.

sherish Sun 23-Feb-14 10:36:54

Don't worry about looking older than you should or feeling that you're aging quickly. As a cancer patient I am happy for every day that I am aging, along with lots of other chronically ill people. Be happy!

nicksnan Sun 23-Feb-14 09:50:34

Choose your own path in life not someone else's and when you make a wrong turn, stop, think and re-route.

When you make old bones, ignore the aches and pains, the moaners and groaners, the 'you're too old to do that' brigade, make the best use of modern medicine and carry on living life not observing it!

Keep up-to-date it helps keep you young.

ajanela Sun 23-Feb-14 08:25:52

One advantage about being older is I know more answers to quiz questions, I having lived through more and in some cases took part in history. The difficult part is when younger people look at you in amazement that you are so old that you remember the 1940's or even 50's.

Ruby6918 Sun 23-Feb-14 00:00:37

really enjoyed the extract,sounds like a big lot of adventure and personal journeys in the book, im ready for one, im nearly 45 one grandchild and due to family circumstances and relationship breakdowns my social life and many contacts have fallen off the radar, i feel old before its due, im thinking off going on a single holiday with some women if anyone knows how to start, i need some adventure and new perspectives

Lotie Sat 22-Feb-14 22:39:59

Mostly I enjoy being older as it means I no longer have a demanding job, and can instead enjoy activities I want to do. Also being older has brought me the joy of grandchildren.