Nana was my main carer while Mum was out at work earning the money to pay the rent and feed the three of us. (Only the three of us in the 'setup'). Firm, fair and very Victorian. No feet on the bar under the table! Church twice on Sundays wearing our hats of course. After Mum remarried when I was 11 she continued to live in the same block of flats in London and we saw a lot less of her as she didn't really like/approve? of my new stepfather. I was able to make more contact with her once I grew up and left home for, firstly College, and then marriage. Mum and stepdad didn't socialise with her but DH and I visited as often as we could even after moving many miles away.
It was me that the police came to when she suffered the stroke that killed her. They assumed I was her next-of-kin so I was able to visit her just once in the hospital (she was in a coma) before Mum took over and I didn't get another 'look-in'. Neither DH nor I remember attending her funeral. Don't think we were invited.
I regret that very much.
John Healy has resigned as Defence Secretary


