Losing my Dad aged 5 and ‘helping’ Mum do the chores. I learnt to cook a full dinner at a young age as Mum was back and forward to the hospital as my younger brother was chronically sick. There were 4 older brothers who couldn’t cook a piece of toast without burning it.
My Mum taught me how to scrape potatoes and carrots with a lolly stick or a blunt butter knife, (so I didn’t cut myself) and how to only use the knife to chop. She taught me to chop properly, push the knife away from me, and how to make sure the potatoes had lots of sides so they got crispy in the oven. Cut them small for mash. If peeling use the peeler and keep the skins for tea the next day.
I watched how to make cakes and pies, and I remember the day I came home from school aged 7 to find Mum had had to rush to the hospital again. What I didn’t know what that my 4 year old brother was being given the last rites as he was so ill....
I decided I’d help out by making dinner. I did it all (chops, roast potato, parsnips, mash and peas) and fed myself and the siblings. Gravy was rotten (only Oxo back then, I didn’t know how to make Bisto in a pan)
Was drying dishes when Mum walked in from the hospital around 8pm. She looked tired, bedraggled from the 90 minute journey home. My brother was out of the woods and stable for the moment. I made her a cup of tea while she stretched out in her chair, wiggling her toes as they hurt from walking so much.
I remember the conversation like it was yesterday..
‘Ok, I’ll drink my tea then find something for your dinner’
‘Mum I made the dinner.’
‘Oh what have you made?’
‘Stay there I’ll bring it in to you...’
When I walked in with a tray for her with a proper cooked dinner on it she just cried. It was dried out after putting it back in the oven (didn’t know to cover it with another plate either) but she ate every bit.
I was nearly 8 years old. It was another part of my long hard childhood where you had to learn quick to survive. I’m still here to tell the tale tho sadly Mums not.
Hard by happy days... and I’m great at making gravy now! 