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My DH is a golfer so doesn't have time to get involved in my projects - and I won't start playing golf, and that makes him happy.

It depends what it is - if he is trying to organise my craft/sewing room then I do get quite annoyed with him as he would if I tried to organise his shed! But if it's something like the gardening I would be grateful for his help and would enjoy working together on it!

If it’s a shared interest fine otherwise need to explain that need some space

My partner only gets involved in something only I am interested when I ask him to. Which is when I need help with a problem or dilemma. He can give me clarity and conclusion.

he loses

I always welcome his help

I'd have no issue at all but I'd need to brace myself for him quickly declaring himself an expert at whatever it may be..!

I walk away as he thinks he can always do it better or tells me I am not doing it right, grrrrrrr!

It might be a little different for me then others because my partner and i have not been together very long. I value my independance greatly due to past controlling relationships. He finds it very difficult to understand why certain parts of my life are mine alone and i get irritable when he tries to involve himself in them. This will probably change over time and he is trying very hard to be understanding.

I think it would depend on what his intentions were. If he wanted to share in my delight in a hobby with me every now and then, then great! However, I had a partner years ago who wanted to come to my book club with me because it was 50%male (unusual I know) and he said he was worried I might run off with one of them. Not interested in reading any of the books (I'd have loved discussing those with him)...just about control and his insecurities. So - if it's about wanting to share occasionally - absolutely, but if it's about insecurities and control - absolutely not. He's an ex for a reason..

I don’t mind, we have been together 31 years, like a pair of old socks lol ?

I try to stay composed and include him where possible but after 32 years he knows when to let me get on with whatever I’m doing and that I will ask for help if I need it!!

I do my best to be tolerant, but I would really prefer it if my husband didn’t join in when I am cooking. I’m a control freak I know, but I try not to show my irritation!

I let him be involved I don’t mind

I'm quite lucky as we share everything, we do have certain jobs that are 'his' and 'mine' but they are things the other doesn't like doing so we are quite happy to keep them to ourselves

I like it when we share activities together, but also feel independant activities give us conversation together.

Sometimes I enjoy sharing experiences but if I’m learning something I must ask to allow me to do it by myself so as not to be reliable.

I enjoy my partner getting involved in something that I consider to be mine. I feel as though he gives a different perspective, which is often beneficial and the results are often better, though I probably wouldn't admit that to him.

I’m fine with it as long as he doesn’t start charging the way I do things. Then that’s a different story.

I have converted the smallest bedroom from a dumping ground to a “craft room” . It has excellent light, a fabulous heater if required, a large table and comfy chair.
As he is working from home I have lease it to him. It’s working very well and he is our “ breadwinner” and this looks like a permanent arrangement I’ve ceded it to him but woe betide him if he refers to MY ROOM as “the office”. I’ve decided to allow it to be called “the studio”.

We share most things together as we have very similar likes and dislikes

Last time that happened He took over! !!!

He can only get involved with the things I want him to get involved with!

I try and encourage my Husband to get involved in the same things as me, so I would be pleased.

He usually does his own thing. If he does any I leave it to him as I don’t think we can work together. Sometimes it’s good when he does things which I can’t, won’t and doesn’t have the patience to do. The thing we can do together is may be helping with some gardening. I get frustrated when it’s not been my way or vice versa.