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I would love my husband to,get involved in my hobbies as he doesn’t really have any. I would be very upset if he took over and starting changing things that were mine but as we have been happily married for forty years and work together as well it would be unlikely.

i dont mind him being involved, but i would hate it if he could do it better than me!

I'm happy for him to take part and help but have to be careful because he may try to take over. I have to remind him that it'
s my territory and I'm in charge!

It depends what it is, as sometimes I hate for him to get involved!

I'd see if I wanted to join in with something of his.

He doesn’t get involved in much of my stuff and it really depends what it is. One thing that drives me potty is him telling me what to do when I’m gardening or how to decorate when I’m painting.

I usually let him do it.

What happens when your partner gets involved in something you consider to be yours?

I would probably resent it at first, as I love my own space, but as my OH is semi-retired and has no hobbies or interests I would welcome the interest, then try to steer him to an interest of his own, as having my time (which I value) is precious, he would benefit for the confidence of finding a new skill from me, and then branching out on his own, and we will have new things to talk about, and some healthy competition for both of us would be valuable.

What happens when your partner gets involved in something you consider to be yours?

I would welcome the fact he is reaching out, wanting to learn new skills, and doing things together would be lovely.

My husband has his own interests mainly around cycling which I don't share and never will as I've had two bad accidents on bikes. I can't imagine that he will ever want to get involved in my domain but I suppose pigs might fly.

Everything is ours, we are very happy doing things together.
We both recognise that we support one another, without question. There is no his and hers. The exception is my side of the bed.

My husband started to cook (after 48 years marriage) when I was having chemotherapy, and I had to make a conscious effort to stay away and not advise him what to do. Now I have gone back to most of the cooking, but he comes out and helps, so that we share jobs more

Usually welcome him but, just occasionally, feel a bit ´hmmmf´'about it. Doesn´t happen too often.

I love spending time with my husband so would be delighted if he joined in

I do not really mind if he can add some value because sometimes two heads are better than one and we can bounce ideas off each other. If however he does not have a clue or is just dabbling in something he should not be getting involved in because I want my own space, I would politely tell him that if I need his help, I will ask him.

Feel I had lost one of 'my' hobbies or activities

I welcome their interest!

I live alone now but have always welcomed my partners interest in something I also have an interest in. It tells me that he's bring attentive and wants to be a part of what I'm involved in with life in general. Unless it becomes a reason for them to watch your every move and become possessive not liking your attention being on something other than him/her. But other than that I think it can be a positive thing.

If it's a hobby of mine, I am pleased

As my OH has some medical issues he can no longer do the garden or any heavy work so we have swapped roles. I have been doing all the gardening (we have large garden!) and DIY and he now does more of the cooking and washing etc. His cooking is ok - so long as it's meat or fish with potatoes and veg (I do the pasta/rice/pastry dishes). The washing however drives me mad! I now have grey whites ("well it said mixed wash") and rather than use the "reduced ironing" option on the tumble drier, everything either gets thoroughly dried and then is hard to iron (although he does that too) or he overfills it and nothing gets properly dried - especially sheets which end up as a tangled rolled up half dry mess! It's driving me mad but I have to let him do it because he still needs to feel he's pulling his weight. I'm working on the principal that it takes time to teach an old dog new tricks ... and keeping fingers crossed he'll get it eventually!

I love us to do things together

One of many reasons I left my ex was because he wouldn't let me do anything without his input. Not a mistake I'll make again!

I would welcome it up to a point as long as they didn't try and take over!

I don't have a partner so no problem....sadly!

When my partner started taking over a lot of the cooking I thought it was great at first, until he was poorly & I had to start cooking again & suddenly I couldn't remember things I used to know & would have to ask or look it up or just guess which effected my confidence a little bit but he got better & started doing the cooking again & I am very happy with that but I suspect Lionel will have thought of outcomes I could never even guess at.