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I would love my DH to get involved with more things that I do. As long as he didn't take over!! He doesn't have many hobbies while I have lots of things that get me out and about.

I lost my husband 6 years ago but it really used to annoy me when he would come and try to get involved in something that was normally my domain.

I'm happy so long as they don't try to take over. I love new ideas and fresh ways of looking at things but tend to dig my heels in if they assume they're ideas are better than mine

My husband took early retirement whilst I was still working. He began to cook (not having shown any interest previously). It was a joy to come home to a hot bath then supper. I thought I had struck lucky after all the years of kitchen toil. However... he now thinks he is 'master' of the kitchen and if I do cook, he hovers, making suggestions, nay, corrections, which is extremely annoying!

It happens so rarely that I generally let him get on with it - better he does something than nothing!

It depends what it is and whether I have invited him in to share or he has chosen to just gatecrash. I need lots of personal space but when we do share stuff it is usual nice and feels supportive.

If my husband tries to do the washing, I have to take over, I'm afraid. He puts colours in with whites (!) and fills the machine too full. Don't think I've ever quite forgiven him for shrinking a favourite mohair jumper of mine, which he bunged in a hot wash once. It came out looking like something that would fit a doll!

As long as he doesn't get involved in finishing my sentences, we should be OK ............!

My DH usually has little interest in day to day cooking but recently it seems he cannot resist picking up the spoon to stir something (that I have just stirred) , flipping something over (that I have only just flipped) messing with the flame, turning it up or down one notch just because he knows it annoys me .

To be honest I wouldn’t mind

Partner? What partner?

This is such and unfair competition for those of us bereaved We have no partners. If he were here, I would be delighted to share everything I do with him, just to have the joy of having him back with me.

I don't mind at all - life is too short!!

We have a reasonable overlap of interests like walking and cinema, but keep our own interests that the other has no interest in, which is fine.

I don't have a partner but I do have an example of that happening to someone else. I run a 'Shared Reading' group were I read a short story to a small group of people . One of the members had a disabled husband and the group was the only time and thing that was hers, and then he started coming along and I felt so sorry for her that she lost her precious 'me time'.

I wouldn't mind at all. He would be welcome to join in whatever I am doing

Since the lockdown my DH has been doing Pilates with me twice a week. He seems to be enjoying it and actually commented that he didn’t realise how strong you needed to be to do some of the exercises! I think he thought it was
going to be really easy!

It would be great to do something together as we rarely do.

We’ve always shared, I’m a dab hand at DIY as he is at cooking and baking. I used to be a bit ‘anal’ about my jigsaws, now in current times it’s quite cosy to share.

Well two heads are definitely better than one so as long as there's give and take then it would be a bonus as well as the satisfaction of a shared experience.

Occasionally in the kitchen when peeling spuds, carrots, shredding cabbage etc, my husband will volunteer to help. But our kitchen is 'compact' size, and we get under each other's feet.

He likes to use a modern peeler where I prefer the old fashioned peelers, which you can use to get rid of the bad bits.

It is good of him to help though.

Well we share most things, but if it was to do with one of my friends, or a friendship of my own and he intefered i would be cross if he spoke to that person himself without my knowledge, but if he just gave an opinion then that would be different, as i dont get too involved with his friends that he goes to a shooting club with, who most of them talk sense, but one in particular talks a lot of nonsence, even before the lockdown virus crisis.

i wouldnt mind, we have things we like to do as each is best at things but its good to try new stuff.

We do have different interests and that good in a relationship however if he wanted to join me in doing something I would welcome it. But I do need me time as well as this lockdown has proved.

We are two separate people with different ideas and tastes, but we talk and most times meet in the middle.