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I'm happy so long as they don't try to take over. I love new ideas and fresh ways of looking at things but tend to dig my heels in if they assume they're ideas are better than mine

I lost my husband 6 years ago but it really used to annoy me when he would come and try to get involved in something that was normally my domain.

I would love my DH to get involved with more things that I do. As long as he didn't take over!! He doesn't have many hobbies while I have lots of things that get me out and about.

I'd like to say it's lovely to share and sometimes it really is ... but he's got a nasty habit of taking over - he likes to think that 'he knows best!'

i dont mind

I have a motto: what's mine is mine, what's yours is mine!

Oh no, need somethings just for me. Do most things together.

I'd like him to get involved more.

Just let him get on with it and try to steer him to things like the ironing.

We both have our interests which works well. However now he has retired, he seems to think he knows how to cook and run the kitchen better than me and this can cause some interesting moments!

Many years ago I always cleaned our tile floors on my hands and knees which my husband hated so he bought me an electric cleaner. I responded by saying that it was much too complicated for me and ever since he cleans the floors!

He is a great cook and can make meals out of nothing but makes such a mess in the kitchen. So sort of joint effort he cooks I clean up

I got quite annoyed when my husband started coming to the supermarket with me after he retired: he questioned every decision on every product I was buying; and wanted to load the shopping into the bags- putting hard things on top of soft things!! If we went to the self-check out, he wanted to scan all the items. I eventually realised that it was one of his ways of making himself feel useful again now that he no longer has a job and I just have to let him do it!

I would be delighted to share .

I'll ignore it so long as there is no take over bid

We share most things and have a lot of the same interests. We both like reading and films, we cook together and we play instruments and create songs. However if he wanted to share in my running or exercise he'd have to go it alone. I like doing those things by myself and would hate to share them!

My husband tries to “ declutter” the kitchen- “ we don’t need this do we. You never use it”. It infuriates me as he only cooks once a week.

When you're in the middle of a recipe and he takes over (rather he just did the washing up!)

I tell him to butt out & get his own hobby.

Yes my husband never tidied ever but decided as he had a day off and we happened to have a skip, would tidy. I lost many important things that day as the skip had been collected. So now he is not allowed to tidy ever again .

Or first grandchild arrived in September. Guess what!? I thought I would be the one to deal with the bottle feeding when we babysit. But hubby is always there wanting his share of the fun !!

I was a bit put out when he wanted to join my art class but it was fine and now we enjoy painting together and going outside to paint

It never happens

It depends what it is firstly, - if he does a good job then why not, but if he doesn't know the system and tries to interfere - then its a thunder and a lighting!

Although he tends to go to my stuff and takes over situation, we also tend to share everything, so I'm learning to let him that he took over, but we can continue doing it together anyway.