Crowd source away, gk. We held our son's wedding here in France - roughly 85 including babies and toddlers. On the day of the wedding, we asked that everyone have a very good breakfast at their gites, warning them there would be substantial nibbles etc. at the reception before the main meal of the evening. (This was outsourced)
Top Tips: Son bought over masses of English Cheeses - and I supplied 'stuff' to go with it. Oat cakes by the dozen, bowls of gerkins, small silver onions, home made chutney and french bread. Big slabs of butter. This was made available through the afternoon to mop up the alcohol and then later in the evening after the cake was cut.
Frankly it's a blur and I can't remember quantities, but do pm me if I can be of any more help.
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