My OH is a brilliant cook which explains my weight gain since we met. I used to operate on the "one cooks, the other washes up but as when I serve dinner the kitchen is perfect and when he serves dinner the kitchen is a complete disaster area (every pot used) I changed that to "the one who cooks cleans up". I thought he would change his way but no, he does the most elaborate and tasty meals so he can get on with it. I am sooooo lucky. ?
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(158 Posts)Whenever we watch an Escape To The Country the husband always seems to be saying that he is the main cook, and needs a big kitchen to bash the pots and pans around.
My DH cooks once a week usually, and even that seems to be unusual amongst my friends, who’s DH’s never do more than prepare a sarnie.Do yours regularly take over the kitchen and make several meals a week? Lucky you, if so.
If there was a blue moon mine still wouldn’t cook a meal. If I’m IN the house it’s my job, if I’m OUT if house he eats packets of biscuits. Even heating up soup seems beyond him . Basically he can’t do anything ...an all round useless article!! His words not mine...and he revels in being so!!
My hubby.cooks every night also makes my breakfast and lunch if I want him too.i guess I'm lucky.oh and he's done all the shopping for the last 15 years too.
Ellen Vannin, please try to help your husband cook the basics. My Father never cooked and after my mother died
he told me he had waited by his window for 20 minutes until a neighbour walked by and stopped her to ask how long he should boil potatoes.(He had no telephone)
My DH is a good cook although I mainly do it every day. He cooked and nursed me when I was flat on my back for weeks following an operation so I am very lucky to have him. He would cook more if I asked him, but I enjoy the creativity of cooking.
My late husband could just about make a cup of tea if pushed. He did try once when the children were small and I was laid up with flu. They never forgot the burnt sausages, lumpy potato and no gravy.
My son is an excellent cook.
Yes, OH cooks, but he has a limited repertoire so it tends to be the three same dishes, all involving mince!
His roast dinners aren't bad but lack the finesse of mine. (Timing mainly, veg either raw or soggy..and food going cold while he dishes up...I drop gentle hints but I am grateful he cooks.) I am not complaining. He'll often make us a sandwich lunch too, or a salad.
I am the inventive, experimental one and like to try new recipes. I tend to cook most of the evening meals. I also cook when we have people to stay or come over for a meal. He's a very good sous chef (the Johnny to my Fanny as we say!) and he'll load the dishwasher after me too, so no complaints at all.
Ex husband also liked cooking so I think I have been very lucky.
My husband does a wicked roast and Christmas dinner but sod all else through the year, makes real mess and swears over the fact that all my bowls and dishes don't fit together and fall out of the cupboard etc (they never do when I open them)
Jalima 1108.:Have Just re read your first post about Nasi Goreng.That was my late DH’s speciality as well as curry. I love nasi goreng,but haven’t had one anywhere in the 10 years since I lost him. It just wouldn’t be the same if I tried to make it!
My lovely friend used to constantly moan that her husband never cooked dinner, but I noticed that when he tried, she criticised every bite! not suprisingly, they are now both in their 60's and all he will "cook" is beans on toast. However, me and hubby got married in our 30's and so had both been independent of our families for a long time, and my husband was used to cooking. Since we both retired, he does 50% of it at least. In fact, he's a far more adventurous cook than I am (hurray!)
The Wonderful Man not only cooks wonderful meals, but makes yoghurt, bakes cakes and savoury biscuits and also does all the bread making (we now have a machine, but he used to do it by hand). He minces the (venison) meat that he has skinned and butchered and turns it into delicious meatballs and he grows the vegetable accompaniment! He's got a bottle of sloe gin maturing (I picked the sloes!) and has pickled his own beetroot.
He's mine, all mine and I tell him how much I value him every day. !

We have always shared the cooking. OH probably does slightly more than half of the main meals now and is a very good cook. He also does the breadmaking (the slow way), makes all sorts of stock which he reduces and freezes as ice cubes and does lots of processing from the vegetable garden. He does all his own clearing up too. We both had demanding careers and whoever was less busy did more of the work in the house.
DH can cook and would do so if I were not around, but rarely does normally. He does make his own lunches, quite elaborate salads or a lovely scrambled egg.
He overcooks veg to a point of sogginess which to be fair is how he likes them, but also adds far too much salt, so in general I would rather do the main meal and have food I can enjoy.
He has one signature dish with rice which he cooks about once a month. My main gripe is that he does not wipe surfaces down afterwards, and as for the ceramic hob....
DH cooks once a fortnight when I am out volunteering for the day. I have to make sure there is something appropriate in the fridge/freezer that he can do and tell him what it is. Actually he doesn't like to be told so I just say 'there's so-and-so in the fridge if you fancy doing it for dinner'. He always does.
If I left it to him he would by ready meals from M&S and our food bill would soar.
I think large kitchens are the latest fashion along with opening living dining kitchen areas into a vast area. This maybe great for modern houses but spoils older houses. And imagine having kids all over the place while you try and cook.
DH doesn't cook, has never cooked. I love cooking, taught both sons and they now enjoy it too, But DH bless him does every scrap of the clearing up, dishwasher loading and unloading, anything too big to go in dishwasher, makes tea and coffee, pours drinks and I wouldn't change him for the world!
Mine cooks a couple of times a week and always the sunday lunch. He's rubbish at cleaning up after himself though and seems not to see any spillages or crumbs! Can't complain though as he does the weekly shop, hoovering and all his own ironing. I allowed him to buy a dishwasher a few years ago & he says it's a godsend (I haven't a clue how to use it - have never had to! ?) ?
My late husband used to cook sometimes. His curries were much better than any I have cooked since I lost him 10 years ago. His half sister (23 when he was born) made sure that he and her two sons could all cook. I never had to worry about leaving meals on the occasional times I was away on a school trip .He and my daughters managed well between them. Agree about ironing Jalima1108. I hate it and hardly ever do any now no shirts to iron!
I’m blessed to have a husband who now does almost all the cooking since I was diagnosed with a chronic neurological condition 7 years ago. It started when he couldn’t bear watching me cutting onions as he was scared I’d cut myself. He then said that he’d prepare all the vegetables. That changed into cook the meal! He loves it as it satisfies his creative side and I love his adventurous approach. We eat a different way now and we’re both happy.
We share most of the cooking. I tend to do the prep and husband does the cooking. If it's something like a roast or shepherd's pie that's my domain, but curries, stir fry, bolognese etc He is happy to do. Plus he washes up while I dry. It works for us anyway
DH does not cook, per se, but he has a ‘signature soup’ which we have to ooh and aah over periodically, and he can make a fruit cake. His culinary triumph, though, is mashed potato. My grandson thinks grandad is the mashed potato god and his is the gold standard against which all others are measured! Neither his mother nor I come any where near the mark?!
DH does the cooking whilst I earn the money to keep the household afloat. It works for us both ?
My ex would have said he shared the cooking. He would cook once in a blue moon when we had people round.
When I met my DH he'd been on his own for nearly 20 years (divorced) so was self sufficient! He worked in a hotel in Switzerland when young for 3 1/2 years and learned to cook there. He now does most of the cooking and never uses a cookery book or weighs anything! I am the cake and pudding maker these days! I did most of the cooking during my 1st marriage apart from Saturday when my late DH took over. Both my son and daughter share the cooking with their respective partners.
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