You sound a lovely husband. My husband and I used to joke about who would go first and what the survivor would do. As it happens my husband went first nearly four years ago and, to be honest, finding another partner has been the last thing on my to do list.
However, your wife sounds a survivor and I don’t think you would like her to be unhappy but I f she did find friendship with another man, he wouldn’t be replacing you.
If it happened that she went first, would you be happy leading a solitary life or would you prefer to find friendship with another woman?
Thanks I try to be .Can't imagine how hard it must be after losing a long term partner hope all well with you.This is it I just don't think after so long that I could approach another relationship in fact the thought of it is just too daunting with families and all the politics of it.Think better off alone ...I think.