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not sure Galen, GP seems happy with him. He suggested DH drank decaff for the dreaming. He is pretty well monitored since the cardiac arrest and following pneumonia. Will suggest he talks to GP again. Thanks for suggestion

Good. Only just caught up with this thread . Is your husband suffering from 'sleep apnea?'
It sounds a little like it?
Might be worth asking your GP.

Am feeling much much better now. Having a good week, the messages helped xx

thanks Mishap, will def try that one too. xxxx

thanks for reminding me Ariadne, I was taught this in my CBT class, worry time, even told my friend to use it last week. Silly me didn't think of myself, typical.

Another trick when worries take over your head is to recognnise that you have two "brains" - a thinking brain and an observing brain.

The thinking brain is thinking a thought and the observing brain is saying "Now why am I thinking that blooming thought again?!"

The trick is not to fight the thinking brain - to acknowledge the thought that has arrived (however unwelcome) but for your observing brain to say "OK - I hear you - thanks for messing up my day - now b****r off!"

It does work - honestly. You have to keep doing it when unwelcome thoughts intrude; but it does give you some control and stops those thoughts from becoming overwhelming.

Do try it - it can make you smile too!!!

ann is right; the fear gradually recedes, but it takes time! I am now ten years out of breast cancer, but my fingers are firmly crossed as I say that. You have had a tough ride, Flower. I think I have said this on another thread, but I will repeat it -the adviceof my wonderful BC nurse.

This was to give myself half an hour a day to worry, rant etc. then to visualise a big STOP sign, and put the worries away behind a door in your head. Sounds daft, but it helps.

The other thing she would say very firmly when I was on a "what if..." roll, was "If it happens, we will deal with it."

I have used these words quite a lot in my work with Cancer Research UK, because they helped me. x

Bless you Gally and so sorry for your loss. I dread that happening although my DDH has been told that he has no more chance of having another cardiac arrest than someone who has never had one. All seems very well and working well now, probably better than before.

The thing is its him that prevents me from sleeping!!!! bless his heart. He snores, grumbles, fights, runs and cycles in his sleep which keeps me awake or keeps waking me Or when I go to bed thinking he is asleep and deeply asleep he wakes and wants a 'cuddle' which I certainly don't mind but then we go through all the above as he drops off again. OR I can't see him moving or breathing and I poke him and wake him a bit then it starts off again. Can't win.

not sure what procedure is called but mine was a microdoctectomy. thanks for words of encouragement
. The last words the Breast consultant said to me was 'Remember Theresa I am not at all worried' she seemed very confident about my case. also I have breast fed all in all for 8.1/2 years and this weighed up against the ADH should give me a good chance.

Flower Please keep sharing your thoughts with us. You will meet many members who are struggling with health issues. It helps to talk. My very best wishes to you.

Flower You are going through a very difficult time and I would never say to you it is all okay but I can say as far as your own worries it will get easier. Like so many on here I have had Breast Cancer, we are in the right age group, and I also had three abcesses resulting in a Hadfields Procedure which is probably the one you had. You will eventually realise that every little ache and pain is not going to be cancer as I also thought in the early days. I hope you also come to terms with your husbands problems and you soon can enjoy life again.

Flower it's hardly any wonder that you worry, you've certainly had cause to. I'm sure there will no other Gnetters who have had similar experiences.

Best wishes to you

Not getting enough sleep makes every little thing seem larger than life, and your health is a big thing!
I agree with Gally that if you can just take something to help you sleep, even if just once a week, it would help you to cope much better.

Be kind to yourself , and keep talking to us

I can understand the insomnia. When Mr.G died last year my sleep went to pot and still isn't back on track (although I am in Australia for 5 weeks and the time change hasn't exactly helped!) eventually, after many months, I resorted to taking half the recommended dose of a sleeping pill which I had been given by the Doc when J died. Only for a week or so and it did help - perhaps you could go down that route just to give you a few night's rest? I hope you are asleep by now and won't read this until your morning! X

thanks Gally, am finding it hard to sleep at the moment, lots on my mind xxx

Good heavens flower no wonder you worry! It puts all my problems into perspective. Talking to us on GN is a start and I am sure there will be someone here who has been through similar health scares as you and will be able to give some help and advice. Try to take one day at a time and live for that day. perhaps at the end of it, go through what you have achieved during that day and put the bad things in a 'box' to be discarded, and congratulate yourself on the good things.