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pompa Wed 29-Oct-14 19:26:45

Feels like I'm sinking into a spell of depression. Struggling to find enthusiasm for anything atm. Ready for bed already.
Combination of feeling less than fit, dark nights and crap weather.

pompa Wed 05-Nov-14 19:39:01

JBS is right, rest is what you need. As I remember, some of the exercises needed to improve your hip can be done sitting with your feet up. Just do what you are comfortable with, enough to keep your muscle tone from dropping.

I find that my depression is usually triggered by very trivial events. it may just be a ill timed remark from someone or a very minor upset. I find I can cope with the major problems. Very few people can understand the things that tip me over the edge and I don't like to admit what has occurred because I know will seem stupid.

I once told my boss where to stick their job where the sun didn't shine, picked up my coat and walked out, all because of an ill timed comment.

The "pull yourself together brigade" have never experienced depression. In my experience you have little control over your feelings. To come out of it needs time and a lot of love/patience from those close to you, plus possibly some medication.

I was lucky, when I returned to work, my boss could recognise when I was losing the plot early on and would review my work load to establish the priorities. I was in a management support role and effectively had dozens on clients all wanting their problems sorted first, which could be at any of our many sites worldwide. Often had to drop everything and head off for days/weeks at a time, got to go to some interesting places, but saw a lot of airports.

annsixty Wed 05-Nov-14 19:23:11

I have a neighbour who also thought "it was all in the mind"? When anyone had problems with the menopause her mantra was " I keep myself too busy to allow problems" and she ran her life and family with military precision. When her husband became ill and died we were all amazed that she tried to carry on in just the same way. 4weeks later she had a stroke and although she made a good recovery she is not the same person, she takes anti-depressives and has lost all her confidence. She talks about her health all the time. We must learn to accept what happens to us,know our limitations and accept help when we need it..

Galen Wed 05-Nov-14 19:18:17

Old age is only allowed as a contributory cause on a death certificate. That's why so many have the primary cause as ' bronchopneumonia '

Galen Wed 05-Nov-14 19:14:41

Jing for once I totally agree with you. I'd also point out that depression after a major op is fairly common. It goes!

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 05-Nov-14 19:04:32

I really think the answer in your case Mishap is rest, rest, and more rest. And then build up very gradually with a little bit of walking, when you can.

Rest is so important. A lot of depression is aggravated by tiredness.

KatyK Wed 05-Nov-14 18:32:40

Mishap - I hope you feel better soon. I was interested to hear you talk about the physical effects of depression. I was hit by depression about 15 years ago after some dreadful events in my life. Before this, I'm afraid I was very much of the 'pull yourself together brigade'. Oh how wrong I was! The only way I could describe it was to say that I felt as though I had been plucked from my life and dropped onto another planet. My mind felt like an ordered filing cabinet that someone had tipped up and I couldn't get my 'files' back in order if that makes sense. I felt frightened, panic stricken, I was crying all the time, felt as though I was going mad. I stopped enjoying anything, couldn't concentrate, would flit from one chore to another leaving the first one half done, my memory was dreadful. I was physically sick, had stomach pains, and even hallucinations. I was too afraid to get help and tried to deal with it myself (which was very silly). I still have episodes but I am a lot better than I was. A few months ago, I was singing along to a tune on the radio and my DH said 'I haven't heard you sing for years' sad It's a dreadful illness, be kind to yourself. flowers

Mishap Wed 05-Nov-14 10:59:59

Thank you for that observation FarNorth - I need to try and think of it in that way, although the idea that I am having to let people down is hard for me. I am used to being out there doing things in the community and for my family. But it is my turn to sit back and be "done good to" for a while I guess.

One of the things that I have had to withdraw from is a big singing project very dear to my heart that has occupied huge amounts of my life - that is very hard for me, but I know that I have made the right decision.

FarNorth Wed 05-Nov-14 10:54:25

Mishap Try not to look at cancelling things as negative - it is a positive way of looking after yourself.

Agus Wed 05-Nov-14 10:14:18

We have depression and anxiety in our family too jingl.

DH was told to continue with Citalopram after a hear attack and has had no adverse reaction at all. This decision was made after I discussed it with DH's cardiologist.

Mishap Wed 05-Nov-14 10:03:00

I guess people would have been diagnosed with melancholia or some such title and shipped off to an asylum.

Anyone who has suffered depression will realise what a physical illness it is. I am physically slowed down, perpetually nauseous, weak, giddy, disoriented at times - as well as the more obvious bouts of weepiness. It is as if someone has switched me off at the main, and my brain and balance and digestives systems have gone totally awry. Some days I have brief flashes when I feel "normal" and it is hard to explain what the difference is between that and the rest of my life at the moment.

I shall be very glad when it stops and I can get on with my life. Cancelling things because I am too unwell to do them is in itself mentally depressing, and, although I have no choice, does not help to lift the spirits.

The only way forward is to try and take note of small improvements, however tiny - yesterday I did a small amount of ironing and I count that as progress.

Hope you have a good day pompa. And thanks for all the supportive posts from everyone.

annsixty Wed 05-Nov-14 09:06:34

Actually pompa my mother did have old age as the cause of death on her death certificate.She was 101 and 8 months and had never spent even 1 night in hospital.Having "put you straight" in the nicest way I am sorry you have had this depression in your life for so long and hope your present physical problems are soon sorted, and the same good wishes to you Mishap. flowers

Lona Wed 05-Nov-14 08:22:18

I've only just come back to this thread and I'm sorry to hear that you've both been struggling pompa and Mishap.
I've had some experience with depression, and my dd has been on anti-depressants for years, and I think having somewhere to come and talk about how you're feeling, and share the moans, must be really helpful.
I do hope you both get a lot more mobile soon, and feel a lot happier as a result. flowers

pompa Wed 05-Nov-14 07:55:33

This is an interesting thought. We seem to have many medical problems these days that were little heard of 50 years ago ie. hand /foot/mouth in children, I don't remember it with our kids, but it is common today.

50 years ago, if I had what we now term depression, I would have either just become a miserable old git, a recluse or killed myself. Almost certainly I would have lost my friends and family. We so often blame stress, I certainly did, IMO I had a very stressful job that finally broke me. Whilst stress 50 tears ago was different, I can't believe that feeding your family was any less stressful, we just didn't call it that.

I guess we expect our lives to be more perfect with medical advances.

50 years ago my hip/knee problems would just have meant life in a wheel chair (not that we lived long enough to develop many of these problems. %0 years ago we could die of old age from 60 onwards, today no one dies of old age. Our neighbour died of cancer last year, she was 105 !.

soontobe Tue 04-Nov-14 22:27:54

It seems to be different things for different people.
I wonder if in decades past, people used to suffer but not access help?

Mishap Tue 04-Nov-14 21:55:12

This problem of depression seems to be rife - I wonder what is behind it all. What a trial for so many people. Thank goodness that there are treatments available now.

pompa Tue 04-Nov-14 20:13:46

Yes I do have an auto and it is my left knee, so I can not only rest it, I can move it about.
Most of the journey is motorway/A roads, so I can use cruise control to give both legs a wiggle, helps a lot on long journeys.

We were considering popping up to see our son while we were there, but that would mean 5 hours driving in one day, decided that would probably be too much.

Mishap Tue 04-Nov-14 19:28:36

You are very bold to be going off on a long drive - bon voyage! I believe you have an automatic from what you said in a previous post. I hope it is the operated leg that gets to rest for the journey!

I am seeing chap next week to get his thoughts about me going back to driving. I am sure I could manage the mechanics, but not sure sure that I really feel well enough even to try. Time will tell.

pompa Tue 04-Nov-14 18:12:03

Mishap. Knee is improving, hip is still painful, guess that evens things out.

Been to hospital today as I have a pituitary tumor, no change from last year, so all good.

When I had my hip op, I had knee pain which disappeared once I was walking properly again. Hopefully your surgeon can suggest something to ease your pain.

The new exercises seem to be helping, I can lock the knee out now, just need to get the bending better, that is proving painful and not obviously productive.

Trying my first long drive next week, up to Leicester to see our daughter (3 hours ish). I have stops planned every 45 min ish. Unfortunately some will be Little Chefs, but needs must.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 04-Nov-14 18:05:44

Thank you pompa. That is very reassuring. smile

pompa Tue 04-Nov-14 17:59:59

jinglbellsfrocks. I have been on Prozac (fluoxetine) for 20 years now, never had any problems that I know about. it definitely controls my depression. I had a total breakdown when I was 55, off work for 6 months and not much use to anyone.
My Doc tried me on several antidepressants, but the side effects were horrible. Also had counseling.
Once I got over that breakdown, the Prozac kept me on the level. I still get occasional relapses, but never as bad as he original and they usually only last a few days.
There are some drugs that should not be taken alongside Prozac, but your Doc will know about those.
I am certainly not aware of any heart problems, which I'm sure would have been identified prior to my recent surgery etc.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 04-Nov-14 17:43:18

Tbh it's not so much me I am worrying about. Anxiety and depression is a family thing with us. Sometimes I wonder if we would be better off without these drugs. We would just have to cope then.

I have already heard the heart thing about another common antidepressant. Just not about fluoextine.

I have always been a worrier, so don't mind me. smile

Mishap Tue 04-Nov-14 17:32:17

Oh gosh - I truly had no intention to worry anyone; I was just passing on what my GP had said and his research before he saw me. It is known that all antidepressants can (in a few cases) potentially alter heart rhythm a bit, but that does not put people at risk unless, like me, they have had a serious episode of a disturbed rhythm - I am sure that your GP will have judged that you are not one of the few people at risk. Most anti-depressants simply say that you should "talk to your doctor" if you have a serious heart rhythm problem.

Please please do not worry - I am very sorry indeed if I have caused you any anxiety. That is the last thing I would want. I am sure it is not necessary for you to worry as you will have been given the right drug that is appropriate to your circumstances, just as my GP is trying to get it right for me and my circumstances - which are different to yours.

All drugs carry potential side effects and it is the GP's job to make sure those are minimised by ensuring that the right drugs go to the right people. I am sure your GP has done just that.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 04-Nov-14 16:45:49

You say you have researched the cardio-toxicity of antidepressants Mishap. Any chance of a link or two? I take fluoxetine. I googled "cardio-toxicity" and it means 'damaging to the heart muscle'. That has to be extremely worrying.

Mishap Tue 04-Nov-14 13:28:49

I am sure you are right pompa - my DD is on citalopram and it has, as for you, transformed her life - I am glad that the prozac has been so helpful for you. They are very safe drugs and have been lifesavers for so many people. And you clearly have no contraindications to taking it. Where there are contraindications they obviously have to proceed with caution.

I think they are just being extra careful with me at the moment as the heart blip is so recent and it was quite significant. I am happy to take my GP's advice as I am sure he has my best interests at heart.

Life is a balance of risks.

How is the knee/hip today? You have a new knee and a problem hip; and i have a new hip and a problem knee from doing one of the prescribed exercises! - when I see the consultant next week I will ask him to take a look at the knee. Maybe he can inject it or something and stop the pain.
It is just one d*****d thing after another! - but spring is round the corner?!

pompa Tue 04-Nov-14 12:55:08

If you dig deep enough everything is going to kill you eventually (if you believe everything that is published)
For me 20 years on Fluoxetine (Prozac) has made my life (and that of my wife, family & friends) not just bearable, but enjoyable most of the time.

I have never been aware of any side effects although if you read the blurb, there seem to be many.

I'm sure that overeating and alcohol are far worse than most medication.