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Stress induced illness -advice pelase

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jinglbellsfrocks Tue 12-Jan-16 10:12:40

I think it's the same in many, if not all, walks of life these days. I know it is in teaching if you happen to be 'Head of' anything.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 12-Jan-16 10:09:42

Knowing you have dealt with the situation by handing in your notice, can't you just go in and do the work on 'automatic pilot' for these four weeks? Do what you have to do and ignore anything else that happens. Just keep thinking, "Sod the lot of them".

Concentrate on something nice. Like what you are having for your dinner that night.

Luckygirl Tue 12-Jan-16 10:09:24

My career as a SW finished very much in this way - I got to the point where I felt ill just parking outside the building, so I cut my losses and jacked it in and began a new career as a photographer - best decision I ever made.

You have made the sensible decision to leave the job - well done you.

I think you should get yourself down the docs and say what you have said in this post, and I am sure he/she will be sympathetic and willing to sign you off. It makes no sense at all to put yourself through all this stress for the sake of 4 weeks. GPs are very used to patients in your situation.

Do not be despondent - I am sure that in your working life you have made a huge contribution, but the job content has changed so much over the years - this importing of US target-driven work has wrecked many lives. Do not look back and feel that you have failed - just deal with the situation that you now find yourself in and move forward with a sense of achievement and happy hopes for the future. No job is worth making yourself ill over.

Imperfect27 Tue 12-Jan-16 10:00:44

Without going into too much detail, I have been signed off work since Dec 4th. Work management is going through a transitional phase and whilst being regarded as a successful middle manager 18 months ago, after 4 new managers within a year and no proper performance management I find my face no longer fits and I am perceived as underperforming. I am not alone - 3 other colleagues have been off with stress at the same time as me. I have now handed in my notice and should finish mid-February. My current sick note runs out on Thurs and whilst I have been better - was having severe panic attacks , very interrupted sleep and emotional meltdowns - I am beginning to feel stressed all over again as the return to work date looms. I am not at all encouraged by one colleague who had a back to work meeting recently. The manager did not even ask 'how are you', but simply told her she was referred to occupational health and had to make appointments. Five minutes into the meeting she was talking targets at her! I also know that all the things that have stressed me are simply not going to go away and cannot be resolved and that during my absence the sense of morale at work has hit an all time low. I am a deeply conscientious worker - which adds to the situation for me. I am just not sure what to do. I have drafted several emails to my boss, but each time the list of 'what is wrong / needed ' to help me successfully return is so long I give up. Part of me thinks I only have 4 weeks to go, but it is so stressful I think I will quickly be unwell again. Has anyone else here been in this situation? Is it reasonable to ask my doctor to continue to sign me off? I am so sad - I worked happily and with success and 2 promotions in my place of work over the past 7 years and it is heartbreaking for me that everything is so broken now. ADVICE PLEASE!